Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 18:11     Subject: Secret about your child

Anonymous wrote:Ok, then this is a secret about myself - I DON'T think my first is the most fabulous kid on earth. She is very, very difficult. She was diagnosed ADHD a couple years ago, and she's been on medication for a year. Things at school have improved, but not so much at home. We're working on finding therapy for the whole family, but trying to navigate that through our insurance company is not easy. The places that get recommended are out of network and way too pricey.

I love the child, but not a fan of the drama. It's just a daily slog and demoralizing for all.


If you live in VA look into getting funds from the county CSA/CSB. There is a whole network out there with services in a sliding scale, including home based family therapy.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 18:10     Subject: Re:Secret about your child

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is three years old and has never had a babysitter other then daycare.

We do things together on the weekends because it is the only time we have together, other then the two short hours every weekday after pick up and before bedtime.

We do not have family that can help out unless it was an emergency and that would be a burden, for them because of their own responsibilities and distance from us, about 40 minutes.


And that is unique? We've never had a babysitter for our kids... we're too cheap and they are too expensive. Not worth $50-70 for a babysitter for dinner. Our family almost never helps.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 18:08     Subject: Secret about your child

My 3.5 yo still uses a pacifier for night and naps at home.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 17:52     Subject: Secret about your child

My 9 year old won't go upstairs or downstairs by himself unless someone is on the house level that he wants to go to. Drives me nuts.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 17:31     Subject: Secret about your child

I thought these secrets would be a little heavier. Not that these aren't major issues. But I know two families and know some very heavy secrets about them. One has a highschool DD who has HIV and the other is raising a transgendered child. Nobody at their children's schools knows this.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 17:22     Subject: Secret about your child

My 4 yr old will only drink milk from a bottle. So it's either no milk or a bottle first thing in the morning.

So glad this is anonymous.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 17:20     Subject: Secret about your child

I nursed my oldest till 3 1/2.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 17:19     Subject: Secret about your child

I'm concerned one of my kids has a learning disorder and I'm afraid to address it.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 17:13     Subject: Secret about your child

Anonymous wrote:My 5 year-old wanted to try breast milk again when the new baby was born, and I went along with it.


What would you have done if he wanted to continue nursing?
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 17:03     Subject: Secret about your child

The reason my DD picks her nose is that she sees me doing it. However, I do NOT chew on my toenails so I really don't know where she gets that from.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 16:52     Subject: Secret about your child

My kds are awesome, smart... But aggravate the crap out of me. Oldest has ADHD. Boy, he frustrates me.
My youngest is super cute to me. But I know he's an ugly ducking in real life.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 16:50     Subject: Re:Secret about your child

Anonymous wrote:There's a LOT about my kids that I don't share:

I don't think my oldest is cute. She was, as a newborn, but she grew out of it.
My youngest has a disability and if it's not fixed by the time she's school age, I VERY seriously want to look into boarding school. I can not deal with this long term.
As if you couldn't tell from the above, I don't like being a mother.


I would not necessarily think that.....
Sorry that is the case, though.....
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 16:33     Subject: Re:Secret about your child

My daughter is three years old and has never had a babysitter other then daycare.

We do things together on the weekends because it is the only time we have together, other then the two short hours every weekday after pick up and before bedtime.

We do not have family that can help out unless it was an emergency and that would be a burden, for them because of their own responsibilities and distance from us, about 40 minutes.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 15:40     Subject: Re:Secret about your child

There's a LOT about my kids that I don't share:

I don't think my oldest is cute. She was, as a newborn, but she grew out of it.
My youngest has a disability and if it's not fixed by the time she's school age, I VERY seriously want to look into boarding school. I can not deal with this long term.
As if you couldn't tell from the above, I don't like being a mother.
Anonymous
Post 09/27/2015 15:30     Subject: Secret about your child

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
My children are the best people I know. I like them more than any other children I've ever met. Including yours.


How is this a secret? This is how parents are supposed to feel, how we are programmed to feel. Otherwise we'd leave them on the side of the road during the hard parts.

I promise you're children aren't inherently or objectively more likable.


LOL. I could see this thread going downhill a mile away.