Anonymous
09/24/2015 19:36
Subject: Birthday party - sibling
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why not have mom, birthday girl, and friends go to sleepover at the museum, and have younger dd invite a friend over to spend the night while DH supervises? We'd probably do that.
+1
Older dd wants some private time with her friends. Let little sister have a sleepover at home, and they both get to do something fun.
+2 I love my 2-years-younger sister dearly but wouldn't have wanted her to come on a birthday sleepover with friends when I was 10.
Anonymous
09/24/2015 09:16
Subject: Birthday party - sibling
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why not have mom, birthday girl, and friends go to sleepover at the museum, and have younger dd invite a friend over to spend the night while DH supervises? We'd probably do that.
+1
Older dd wants some private time with her friends. Let little sister have a sleepover at home, and they both get to do something fun.
+2
^My sister is 3 years older than me & we did something similar when we had sleepover birthday parties at home.The non-birthday child would invite one friend to spend the night & join them birthday kid & her friends for pizza & cake in the evening & pancakes in the morning but, otherwise, have a separate sleepover upstairs (the birthday kid & her friends would usually take the downstairs over).
It always worked out well.
Anonymous
09/24/2015 09:09
Subject: Birthday party - sibling
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why not have mom, birthday girl, and friends go to sleepover at the museum, and have younger dd invite a friend over to spend the night while DH supervises? We'd probably do that.
+1
Older dd wants some private time with her friends. Let little sister have a sleepover at home, and they both get to do something fun.
+2
Anonymous
09/24/2015 09:00
Subject: Re:Birthday party - sibling
My dd is turning 10 and has a sister who will be 7 years and 11 months when older dd turns 10. My dd wants to do a sleepover like at the Smithsonian or Aquarium. I feel rather strongly that birthdays are for family. However, it looks like all participants in these sleepovers need to be 8 or older. My dd wants to exclude her sister and just go with one or two friends. Here are some options I am considering.
1. Wait one month and do the sleepover when younger dd is 8.
2. Just ask and see if 7 years and 11 months is ok.
3. Go and say younger dd is 8.
4. Skip the expensive sleepover and have girls sleepover at our house instead. Do the expensive one next year.
What do you all think? Do you tend to have friend parties as kids get a bit older and exclude siblings? This year especially I would hate to do that. Younger sibling feels resentment enough already because older sibling is more of a social butterfly and seems to have more friends than younger dd.
Under the circumstances you described, it is hard for me to see how the museum sleepover is going to be fun for your younger daughter, unless you are certain that your older daughter is going to step up and include her sister, even though she didn't want her there.
Anonymous
09/24/2015 08:41
Subject: Birthday party - sibling
Can you take the younger dd along for the earlier part of the party (I'm assuming dinner and some sort of evening activity are included), but take her home before the actual sleepover? So that part of the party is inclusive, but older dd still gets the sleepover with just her friends?
I'm remembering the sleepover parties my older sister used to have at home. There would be something during the evening that included the whole family - often pizza and a movie - but then I had to go sleep in my own room while sister and her friends stayed in her room. Seems like a reasonable compromise.
I'm remembering the sleepover parties my older sister used to have at home. There would be something during the evening that included the whole family - often pizza and a movie - but then I had to go sleep in my own room while sister and her friends stayed in her room. Seems like a reasonable compromise.
Anonymous
09/23/2015 23:34
Subject: Birthday party - sibling
Most families I know do a family celebration on their birthday at home. (Mom, Dad, Birthday Kid, Siblings and Grandparents, if nearby) Kid's favorite meal and a cake. Then they have a Birthday Party with the Kid and kid's friends. Sibling might be there, but stays separate from the main party so Kid and friend's can play.
In this situation, let the Kid have the sleepover (whether you pay for it or just do it at home) without the sibling. If you do it at home, don't make the Kid and friend's include the sibling.
In this situation, let the Kid have the sleepover (whether you pay for it or just do it at home) without the sibling. If you do it at home, don't make the Kid and friend's include the sibling.
Anonymous
09/23/2015 22:55
Subject: Birthday party - sibling
Why did you mention that the 10yo doesn't want her sister at the party if NONE of your options allowed for that?
Anonymous
09/23/2015 22:52
Subject: Birthday party - sibling
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why not have mom, birthday girl, and friends go to sleepover at the museum, and have younger dd invite a friend over to spend the night while DH supervises? We'd probably do that.
+1
Older dd wants some private time with her friends. Let little sister have a sleepover at home, and they both get to do something fun.
Agree with this. You can still do a family event.
My parents -ALWAYS- forced my little sister on me for things like this and I resented it.
Anonymous
09/23/2015 21:23
Subject: Birthday party - sibling
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:LOL at all the PP's saying "Just lie about her age."
Yup that's good role modeling for the kiddies. Just lie to get what you want.
(Then they wonder why they're raising sociopaths.)
My mom always did this - lied about our ages, or had one of us hide so we could get one hotel room instead of two. It made me very anxious.
Who hasn't saved $75 dollars for Seaworld or Legoland admission by passing a 3-year old off as 2?
Anonymous
09/23/2015 21:21
Subject: Re:Birthday party - sibling
Just say sibling is 8. Not that difficult.
Anonymous
09/23/2015 20:35
Subject: Birthday party - sibling
Anonymous wrote:LOL at all the PP's saying "Just lie about her age."
Yup that's good role modeling for the kiddies. Just lie to get what you want.
(Then they wonder why they're raising sociopaths.)
OK, I get your point, but she is rounding up - not lieing. Its not like she is saying a 6 year old is 12. She is rounding up one month. And for all you know the fine print of the rule says she has to be that age in that calendar year. The rule isn't about the second you turn a certain age. Its about making sure the kids are mature enough to act appropriately.
Anonymous
09/23/2015 19:26
Subject: Birthday party - sibling
Anonymous wrote:LOL at all the PP's saying "Just lie about her age."
Yup that's good role modeling for the kiddies. Just lie to get what you want.
(Then they wonder why they're raising sociopaths.)
My mom always did this - lied about our ages, or had one of us hide so we could get one hotel room instead of two. It made me very anxious.
Anonymous
09/23/2015 13:24
Subject: Birthday party - sibling
LOL at all the PP's saying "Just lie about her age."
Yup that's good role modeling for the kiddies. Just lie to get what you want.
(Then they wonder why they're raising sociopaths.)
Yup that's good role modeling for the kiddies. Just lie to get what you want.
(Then they wonder why they're raising sociopaths.)