Anonymous
09/09/2015 15:55
Subject: What is your parenting pet peeve?
I'm Being A Great and Conscientious Mom Voice (hoping you will overhear me and be amazed at what a good parent I am) :
"Henry! You jumped all the way across that hopscotch pad! Way to go! Awesome job, buddy. Can you count to ten now? (Loudly and slowly counts to ten) TERRIFIC! Want a snack? How about WATER AND KALE CHIPS, your favorite! You're very welcome, thank you for your using your manners SO NICELY. Oh no no we don't wipe our mouths on our shirts. What do we do? NAPKIN, YES. Very good. What should we do next? Library then practice writing letters? YOU GOT IT LIL BUDDY!"
"Henry! You jumped all the way across that hopscotch pad! Way to go! Awesome job, buddy. Can you count to ten now? (Loudly and slowly counts to ten) TERRIFIC! Want a snack? How about WATER AND KALE CHIPS, your favorite! You're very welcome, thank you for your using your manners SO NICELY. Oh no no we don't wipe our mouths on our shirts. What do we do? NAPKIN, YES. Very good. What should we do next? Library then practice writing letters? YOU GOT IT LIL BUDDY!"
Anonymous
09/09/2015 15:29
Subject: What is your parenting pet peeve?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do you realize that you are doing exactly what the poster is complaining about? Or is this a joke?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Parents who think that every "good" thing their kid does is because THEY did the right thing. News flash: some kids are good eaters, some are good sleepers, some listen well.
Not all of these things are related to your natural childbirth, crying/not crying it out, sleep training/not sleep training.
Sometimes you just get lucky, and if you get too cocky and think your prenatal yoga ensured a good-natured baby, I'm going to laugh all day long when #2 is a high needs basket case.
I agree with this to a point. I do think my kids are good sleepers partially by nature and partially because we were, and continue to be, devoted to them sleeping. My almost 4.5 year old still naps and goes to bed for 12 hours at 7:30. 22 month old does the same schedule and we have a two blissful hours of a quiet house every day. People have rolled their eyes about our devotion to naptime - grandparents were annoyed when we wouldn't "just stay another hour!" etc, but we both have time to work out, have sex, on and on. Yes, we lucked out to a degree, but we pushed it consciously.
That said, I do agree that the parents with the naturally easy, well behaved kid who take full credit and blame others with more complicated kids for their "crappy parenting" are a joke. And mine are pretty easy.
I'm saying that to a degree I think our kids sleep well because we forced it on them.
Sorry, that cut off before I was finished. I have a friend whose kids (they're Asian) eat anything and everything - they were exposed to all kinds of foods and flavors growing up. I KNOW my kids would probably be better eaters if we had done that instead of the Cheerios and cheese sticks route. I don't think there's NOTHING we do that affects the way they turn out.
Yeah, actually, this is a pet peeve of mine, too. Since becoming a parent, I am a MUCH bigger believer in nature (vs nurture) than I used to be. But that said... It drives me crazy the number of people who will claim that literally nothing short of abuse or extreme neglect matters, because, for example, "in kindergarten, you can't tell who was breastfed." As if that's the only reason to do anything-- as if literally nothing you do "matters" unless it absolutely guarantees some long-term, provable and astounding result. Blah.
I'm the poster you're responding to and I say this ALL the time!
Anonymous
09/09/2015 15:27
Subject: What is your parenting pet peeve?
A parent who gives me advice I didn't ask for.
Anonymous
09/09/2015 15:23
Subject: What is your parenting pet peeve?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do you realize that you are doing exactly what the poster is complaining about? Or is this a joke?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Parents who think that every "good" thing their kid does is because THEY did the right thing. News flash: some kids are good eaters, some are good sleepers, some listen well.
Not all of these things are related to your natural childbirth, crying/not crying it out, sleep training/not sleep training.
Sometimes you just get lucky, and if you get too cocky and think your prenatal yoga ensured a good-natured baby, I'm going to laugh all day long when #2 is a high needs basket case.
I agree with this to a point. I do think my kids are good sleepers partially by nature and partially because we were, and continue to be, devoted to them sleeping. My almost 4.5 year old still naps and goes to bed for 12 hours at 7:30. 22 month old does the same schedule and we have a two blissful hours of a quiet house every day. People have rolled their eyes about our devotion to naptime - grandparents were annoyed when we wouldn't "just stay another hour!" etc, but we both have time to work out, have sex, on and on. Yes, we lucked out to a degree, but we pushed it consciously.
That said, I do agree that the parents with the naturally easy, well behaved kid who take full credit and blame others with more complicated kids for their "crappy parenting" are a joke. And mine are pretty easy.
I'm saying that to a degree I think our kids sleep well because we forced it on them.
Sorry, that cut off before I was finished. I have a friend whose kids (they're Asian) eat anything and everything - they were exposed to all kinds of foods and flavors growing up. I KNOW my kids would probably be better eaters if we had done that instead of the Cheerios and cheese sticks route. I don't think there's NOTHING we do that affects the way they turn out.
Yeah, actually, this is a pet peeve of mine, too. Since becoming a parent, I am a MUCH bigger believer in nature (vs nurture) than I used to be. But that said... It drives me crazy the number of people who will claim that literally nothing short of abuse or extreme neglect matters, because, for example, "in kindergarten, you can't tell who was breastfed." As if that's the only reason to do anything-- as if literally nothing you do "matters" unless it absolutely guarantees some long-term, provable and astounding result. Blah.
Anonymous
09/09/2015 15:18
Subject: Re:What is your parenting pet peeve?
Baby talk. God I hate sing-songy voices. Just talk to your kid like a normal human being. I don't care if you point out the color of produce. Just sound like a normal person doing it.
Anonymous
09/09/2015 15:18
Subject: What is your parenting pet peeve?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Do you realize that you are doing exactly what the poster is complaining about? Or is this a joke?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Parents who think that every "good" thing their kid does is because THEY did the right thing. News flash: some kids are good eaters, some are good sleepers, some listen well.
Not all of these things are related to your natural childbirth, crying/not crying it out, sleep training/not sleep training.
Sometimes you just get lucky, and if you get too cocky and think your prenatal yoga ensured a good-natured baby, I'm going to laugh all day long when #2 is a high needs basket case.
I agree with this to a point. I do think my kids are good sleepers partially by nature and partially because we were, and continue to be, devoted to them sleeping. My almost 4.5 year old still naps and goes to bed for 12 hours at 7:30. 22 month old does the same schedule and we have a two blissful hours of a quiet house every day. People have rolled their eyes about our devotion to naptime - grandparents were annoyed when we wouldn't "just stay another hour!" etc, but we both have time to work out, have sex, on and on. Yes, we lucked out to a degree, but we pushed it consciously.
That said, I do agree that the parents with the naturally easy, well behaved kid who take full credit and blame others with more complicated kids for their "crappy parenting" are a joke. And mine are pretty easy.
I'm saying that to a degree I think our kids sleep well because we forced it on them.
Sorry, that cut off before I was finished. I have a friend whose kids (they're Asian) eat anything and everything - they were exposed to all kinds of foods and flavors growing up. I KNOW my kids would probably be better eaters if we had done that instead of the Cheerios and cheese sticks route. I don't think there's NOTHING we do that affects the way they turn out.
Anonymous
09/09/2015 15:17
Subject: What is your parenting pet peeve?
I'm not sure if it's parenting pet peeve, or this site but I HATE when parents hold up their family of one or two or even three + kids to say what is normal or not.
Question: Is my x year old normal because s/he does this?
Answer: Not normal at all! My kid never did this. Get thee to therapy.
Seriously? Your sample of 1 child is not the arbiter of normality.
Question: Is my x year old normal because s/he does this?
Answer: Not normal at all! My kid never did this. Get thee to therapy.
Seriously? Your sample of 1 child is not the arbiter of normality.
Anonymous
09/09/2015 15:16
Subject: What is your parenting pet peeve?
Anonymous wrote:Do you realize that you are doing exactly what the poster is complaining about? Or is this a joke?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Parents who think that every "good" thing their kid does is because THEY did the right thing. News flash: some kids are good eaters, some are good sleepers, some listen well.
Not all of these things are related to your natural childbirth, crying/not crying it out, sleep training/not sleep training.
Sometimes you just get lucky, and if you get too cocky and think your prenatal yoga ensured a good-natured baby, I'm going to laugh all day long when #2 is a high needs basket case.
I agree with this to a point. I do think my kids are good sleepers partially by nature and partially because we were, and continue to be, devoted to them sleeping. My almost 4.5 year old still naps and goes to bed for 12 hours at 7:30. 22 month old does the same schedule and we have a two blissful hours of a quiet house every day. People have rolled their eyes about our devotion to naptime - grandparents were annoyed when we wouldn't "just stay another hour!" etc, but we both have time to work out, have sex, on and on. Yes, we lucked out to a degree, but we pushed it consciously.
That said, I do agree that the parents with the naturally easy, well behaved kid who take full credit and blame others with more complicated kids for their "crappy parenting" are a joke. And mine are pretty easy.
I'm saying that to a degree I think our kids sleep well because we forced it on them.
Anonymous
09/09/2015 15:15
Subject: What is your parenting pet peeve?
Do you realize that you are doing exactly what the poster is complaining about? Or is this a joke?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Parents who think that every "good" thing their kid does is because THEY did the right thing. News flash: some kids are good eaters, some are good sleepers, some listen well.
Not all of these things are related to your natural childbirth, crying/not crying it out, sleep training/not sleep training.
Sometimes you just get lucky, and if you get too cocky and think your prenatal yoga ensured a good-natured baby, I'm going to laugh all day long when #2 is a high needs basket case.
I agree with this to a point. I do think my kids are good sleepers partially by nature and partially because we were, and continue to be, devoted to them sleeping. My almost 4.5 year old still naps and goes to bed for 12 hours at 7:30. 22 month old does the same schedule and we have a two blissful hours of a quiet house every day. People have rolled their eyes about our devotion to naptime - grandparents were annoyed when we wouldn't "just stay another hour!" etc, but we both have time to work out, have sex, on and on. Yes, we lucked out to a degree, but we pushed it consciously.
That said, I do agree that the parents with the naturally easy, well behaved kid who take full credit and blame others with more complicated kids for their "crappy parenting" are a joke. And mine are pretty easy.
Anonymous
09/09/2015 15:12
Subject: What is your parenting pet peeve?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:People who talk, talk, talk to their infants in the produce section. "Look, it's an apple. Apples are red." Shut up already.
OMG yes. they think it's so cute to talk to their kids loudly, everywhere. YOU CANT HAVE A SIP OF MOMMYS COFFEE, TEEHEE!!!!
Yes, UGH. I mean, why talk to them at all? They can't answer you. It's not like it helps with their language skills to have you talking to them all the time or something. Oh, wait...
Exactly! I got a few odd looks when I spoke to my infant while we were out shopping (not yelling, I was using a regular voice), and I don't understand the negative reaction. I wish I still had the energy to talk to her that much now that she's a toddler.
Anonymous
09/09/2015 15:09
Subject: What is your parenting pet peeve?
Anonymous wrote:Parents who don't say a word when their kids act like jerks--stealing toys from other kids, refusing to let other kids play on certain playground equipment, etc. I get that kids just do this stuff, but hell if I'm not going to say something when a four year old steals my two year old's toy right out of her hands and the kid's mom doesn't do anything about it.
Hell yes! It takes a village, and please yell at my kid if she takes something from your kid.
Anonymous
09/09/2015 15:05
Subject: What is your parenting pet peeve?
Parents who don't say a word when their kids act like jerks--stealing toys from other kids, refusing to let other kids play on certain playground equipment, etc. I get that kids just do this stuff, but hell if I'm not going to say something when a four year old steals my two year old's toy right out of her hands and the kid's mom doesn't do anything about it.
Anonymous
09/09/2015 15:03
Subject: What is your parenting pet peeve?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Parents who think that every "good" thing their kid does is because THEY did the right thing. News flash: some kids are good eaters, some are good sleepers, some listen well.
Not all of these things are related to your natural childbirth, crying/not crying it out, sleep training/not sleep training.
Sometimes you just get lucky, and if you get too cocky and think your prenatal yoga ensured a good-natured baby, I'm going to laugh all day long when #2 is a high needs basket case.
I agree with this to a point. I do think my kids are good sleepers partially by nature and partially because we were, and continue to be, devoted to them sleeping. My almost 4.5 year old still naps and goes to bed for 12 hours at 7:30. 22 month old does the same schedule and we have a two blissful hours of a quiet house every day. People have rolled their eyes about our devotion to naptime - grandparents were annoyed when we wouldn't "just stay another hour!" etc, but we both have time to work out, have sex, on and on. Yes, we lucked out to a degree, but we pushed it consciously.
That said, I do agree that the parents with the naturally easy, well behaved kid who take full credit and blame others with more complicated kids for their "crappy parenting" are a joke. And mine are pretty easy.
That's great but if you didn't have nappers, there would be no nap to be devoted to. You are lucky. Enjoy!
Totally lucky to a degree, but the friends who laughed at us when we took our kids home to nap last year are now like "we can't believe Johnny still sleeps so well!"
Lady, you are exactly that person -- who credits themselves for their child's good sleeping/eating habits. Trust me, it's not because you are devoted to nap time. It's because you have good sleepers. The end.
Anonymous
09/09/2015 14:59
Subject: What is your parenting pet peeve?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:People who talk, talk, talk to their infants in the produce section. "Look, it's an apple. Apples are red." Shut up already.
OMG yes. they think it's so cute to talk to their kids loudly, everywhere. YOU CANT HAVE A SIP OF MOMMYS COFFEE, TEEHEE!!!!
Yes, UGH. I mean, why talk to them at all? They can't answer you. It's not like it helps with their language skills to have you talking to them all the time or something. Oh, wait...
Anonymous
09/09/2015 14:37
Subject: What is your parenting pet peeve?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Parents who think that every "good" thing their kid does is because THEY did the right thing. News flash: some kids are good eaters, some are good sleepers, some listen well.
Not all of these things are related to your natural childbirth, crying/not crying it out, sleep training/not sleep training.
Sometimes you just get lucky, and if you get too cocky and think your prenatal yoga ensured a good-natured baby, I'm going to laugh all day long when #2 is a high needs basket case.
I agree with this to a point. I do think my kids are good sleepers partially by nature and partially because we were, and continue to be, devoted to them sleeping. My almost 4.5 year old still naps and goes to bed for 12 hours at 7:30. 22 month old does the same schedule and we have a two blissful hours of a quiet house every day. People have rolled their eyes about our devotion to naptime - grandparents were annoyed when we wouldn't "just stay another hour!" etc, but we both have time to work out, have sex, on and on. Yes, we lucked out to a degree, but we pushed it consciously.
That said, I do agree that the parents with the naturally easy, well behaved kid who take full credit and blame others with more complicated kids for their "crappy parenting" are a joke. And mine are pretty easy.
That's great but if you didn't have nappers, there would be no nap to be devoted to. You are lucky. Enjoy!
Totally lucky to a degree, but the friends who laughed at us when we took our kids home to nap last year are now like "we can't believe Johnny still sleeps so well!"