Anonymous
08/21/2015 19:13
Subject: Afraid to Let My DD Drive Herself
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DD is 16. She did driving with N instructor and DH. My DH says no driving with me unless I can resist the temptation to be a backseat driver.
Your hudband doesnt get to unilaterally decide what you do.
In this case, however, it sounds like he does. He clearly knows better, and OP is a blubbering anxious neurotic mess.
+1
Anonymous
08/21/2015 19:03
Subject: Afraid to Let My DD Drive Herself
Anonymous wrote:I'm at an impasse with my DH. He has been teaching my DD to drive and she just took and passed her driver's test. My DH is still working with her on a few refinements before completely letting her out on her own. He has laid down some rules:
1. To and from school
2. To and from work
3. To and from sports practice
4. No friends in the car
5. No cell phone
6. No moving violations
He is ready to let her drive to school on her own. I am not willing or ready yet to let go of my control of her. I am afraid she will have an accident, be seriously injured, etc. I do not know how to handle this as I think my DD and DH are against me. Last week, in front of his brother, he told me she is ready and that I should let her drive. It pissed me off so much.
Anyway, am I being unreasonable, overprotective?
DO it in increments.
First trip it to a store a mile from t house or closer.
Next trip is a bit further...........
Anonymous
08/21/2015 14:39
Subject: Afraid to Let My DD Drive Herself
Anonymous wrote:Anyone else this post what?
Anyone else THINK this post....
Anonymous
08/21/2015 14:38
Subject: Afraid to Let My DD Drive Herself
Anyone else this post what?
Anonymous
08/20/2015 12:33
Subject: Afraid to Let My DD Drive Herself
Anyone else this post was actually written by the daughter to convince her mom to let her drive?
Anonymous
08/20/2015 12:33
Subject: Afraid to Let My DD Drive Herself
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DD is 16. She did driving with N instructor and DH. My DH says no driving with me unless I can resist the temptation to be a backseat driver.
Your hudband doesnt get to unilaterally decide what you do.
In this case, however, it sounds like he does. He clearly knows better, and OP is a blubbering anxious neurotic mess.
Anonymous
08/20/2015 12:31
Subject: Afraid to Let My DD Drive Herself
Anonymous wrote:
Anyway, am I being unreasonable, overprotective?
Yes. Yes. Yes, a thousand times yes. Get over it and cut the cord. Stop making it about you.
Anonymous
08/20/2015 12:03
Subject: Afraid to Let My DD Drive Herself
I'm almost 30 and have only recently become able to tolerate driving while my mother is a passenger because she is so annoying. My brother still refuses. You need to change this pattern now with your DD before it causes problems down the line. She is going to grow up whether you want her to or not because that's how time works.
Anonymous
08/19/2015 18:34
Subject: Afraid to Let My DD Drive Herself
OP, my DSD did not drive by herself until she was 18. It was a huge problem because she was then an adult and Her parents didn't have any recourse for her poor driving. Years of traffic citations and accidents have followed.
You need to get some help with your own anxiety and give your daughter these two years to gain some road expertise under limited, manageable conditions. Your husband's guidelines and limits seem very reasonable.
Honestly, is your husband correct that you are a backseat driver? That is NOt effective teaching and wil not help her.
You need to get some help with your own anxiety and give your daughter these two years to gain some road expertise under limited, manageable conditions. Your husband's guidelines and limits seem very reasonable.
Honestly, is your husband correct that you are a backseat driver? That is NOt effective teaching and wil not help her.
Anonymous
08/19/2015 18:27
Subject: Afraid to Let My DD Drive Herself
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My DD is 16. She did driving with N instructor and DH. My DH says no driving with me unless I can resist the temptation to be a backseat driver.
Your hudband doesnt get to unilaterally decide what you do.
It sounds like PP is acknowledging that she has a problem - anxiety, control issues, etc. If making her DD nervous and anxious while driving can be avoided - why not?
Anonymous
08/19/2015 16:42
Subject: Afraid to Let My DD Drive Herself
Anonymous wrote:My DD is 16. She did driving with N instructor and DH. My DH says no driving with me unless I can resist the temptation to be a backseat driver.
Your hudband doesnt get to unilaterally decide what you do.
Anonymous
08/19/2015 16:42
Subject: Afraid to Let My DD Drive Herself
Anonymous wrote:My DD is 16. She did driving with N instructor and DH. My DH says no driving with me unless I can resist the temptation to be a backseat driver.
Your husband is right. If you are going to correct her and gasp at every turn, she will be nervous and it will be a mess.
Anonymous
08/19/2015 16:37
Subject: Afraid to Let My DD Drive Herself
My DD is 16. She did driving with N instructor and DH. My DH says no driving with me unless I can resist the temptation to be a backseat driver.
Anonymous
08/19/2015 16:21
Subject: Afraid to Let My DD Drive Herself
How old is she?
Why did your dh teach her? Why didnt she take a proper driving course?
I would let her drive with you only. She doesnt NEED to drive.
I have seen several teens die in MVA's. Not worth it.
Why did your dh teach her? Why didnt she take a proper driving course?
I would let her drive with you only. She doesnt NEED to drive.
I have seen several teens die in MVA's. Not worth it.
Anonymous
08/19/2015 16:20
Subject: Re:Afraid to Let My DD Drive Herself
OP, I completely understand. It is scary when your child is finally at the point of driving alone. However, if she has passed the test and your DH feels she is ready, you have to let her get out there and get experience on her own. With time, you won't worry every time she leaves the driveway 