He's probably not trying to be an asshole - he just really doesn't get (and possibly never will, because he doesn't have a uterus) that growing a person inside of you affects a lot more than just a little weight gain in the stomach area. The first trimester can be exhausting. (as can the late third, especially if you gain a sh*t-ton of weight like I did and it's DC summer, lol.)

At some point you will probably need to rally, though. (second trimester?) It wouldn't really be fair to expect him to do everything for 9 months.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So sorry you have to deal with this. When I was pregnant, all I wanted to do was sleep. Especially during my first trimester. I stopped going to the gym, and dh would pick up take out because I was too tired to cook (and I had serious Taco Bell cravings...don't judge).

You should make him read some pregnancy books so that he can educate himself about pregnancy.

Btw...how old is your dh? He sounds very immature.

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Asshole is 32

If the OP is already referring to the husband as "asshole", she doesn't have a very bright future in her marriage if this is what happens after one fight. Time to go see a counselor/therapist...seriously. Because you 2 are obviously not seeing eye to eye on the issue and there is apparently a large communication gap. Fix it before its unfixable. More than likely the issue is not confined just to the pregnancy...maybe he's resentful about the baby? Who knows, any number of conclusions could be made form the little information provided. But you should def consider seeking professional counsel to help mediate this and fix the root of the problem.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry that I don't recall where but I remember reading that the energy expenditure while pregnant is the equivalent of running a marathon every day.

Tell your husband to take a flying leap!

No kidding?! Oh hell, no wonder I was so damn tired, and I'm no marathon runner.

I had a coworker who was pregnant with her first. I was pregnant with my second. I tried to explain to the coworker how tired she was going to be, tired like you've never felt before, not even like the all-nighters you may have pulled in HS or college, that no words can explain how tired she'd be. She was like "uh-huh, yea, i know". Then wham, she got hit. She said, "yea, you were right. No amount of explaining could really express the level of exhaustion." Yep.

Why does he want you to go to the gym? Is he scared you will be fat? OMG I would die if my spouse put that pressure on me.

Anonymous wrote:So sorry you have to deal with this. When I was pregnant, all I wanted to do was sleep. Especially during my first trimester. I stopped going to the gym, and dh would pick up take out because I was too tired to cook (and I had serious Taco Bell cravings...don't judge).

You should make him read some pregnancy books so that he can educate himself about pregnancy.

Btw...how old is your dh? He sounds very immature.

Um.. I had serious McD cravings, and I normally hate McD. Believe me, no judgement.

+1 your DH sounds immature and selfish. Does he want you to go to the gym so you won't get fat? Is that his fear?

Ugh, start preparing for the divorce now. Obviously he is an immature ass. Just wait untill you are sleepless and breastfeeding.

Is it your first baby?

Agree with PPs....he needs to read some books and go ask the doctor questions. He's speaking out of ignorance.

Anonymous wrote:In my head, I want to do all those things but my body just is not feeling it...I'm trying to at least go to the gym still 4 days a week to at least walk or get on the elliptical, but nothing like the workouts I had not that long ago. And hes saying things like, "youre not really pregnant when i Google what I can/cant do. I am 10 weeks pregnant. I dont think I need to have a bump in order to take pregnancy advice. How did I marry such an insensitive jerk.

TAKE HIM TO YOUR NEXT DOC APPOINTMENT!!!

This brand of lethargy is completely textbook. He's not looking very hard if he hasn't already discovered this FACT online.

Besides, what kind of jerk ignores your statement of fact regarding your energy level and looks to Google as his guide? The fog will lift, but for now, you're understandably exhausted. Your sweet baby succubus is leeching all of your energy. Duh!

God! How much must you want to slap him?!!!!

He's an ass. Plain and simple.

"Fatigue
"Women who have never been able to nap before often suddenly start needing naps during the first trimester," says Jeanne A. Conry, MD, PhD. At this point, it's the extra progesterone that's making you feel wiped out.

You can look forward to a bit of an energy boost in your second trimester, but expect the exhaustion to creep back as you enter the home stretch, she says. The best thing to do is go with it: Head to bed earlier, and steal the chance to snooze when you can."

http://www.m.webmd.com/baby/features/8-early-signs-of-pregnancy

I was COMPLETELY wiped out in my first trimester and then pretty tired the rest of the way. What's the plan for cooking and cleaning once the baby arrives?

You husband sounds immature and uninformed. Give him a book on pregnancy or some links to pages that discuss pregnancy symptoms. Keep us posted!

Total asshole. Did he not want a kid? Could he be really nervous and 'denying' your symptoms makes it easier to manage? Was he a shit before? Nothing justifies his behavior just trying to figure out the root of his issues. I hope whatever it is he gets his shit together for you asap. Pregnancy can be hard enough with a supportive partner, never mind with a shitbag.

Sorry that I don't recall where but I remember reading that the energy expenditure while pregnant is the equivalent of running a marathon every day.

Tell your husband to take a flying leap!

Why isn't HE cooking and cleaning? What's he growing in his body that prevents him from doing those things?

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Anonymous wrote:So sorry you have to deal with this. When I was pregnant, all I wanted to do was sleep. Especially during my first trimester. I stopped going to the gym, and dh would pick up take out because I was too tired to cook (and I had serious Taco Bell cravings...don't judge).

You should make him read some pregnancy books so that he can educate himself about pregnancy.

Btw...how old is your dh? He sounds very immature.

+1

Asshole is 32