All your kids sound great and normal, OP. Don't sweat it.

Where are you currently located, OP? Your daughter will do fine anywhere and she doesn't seem quirky at all based on your posts.

Anonymous wrote:OP has your DD been to a preschool? Have you interacted much with other parents of girls?

The only reason I ask is that your chid sounds like every other girl we have ever come across.

She will be fine wherever she goes. And I agree that the public school system will probably be a good place for her.

Yep. My girl is just like this. Early reader and unbelievably social. We walk home from a day of full-day kindy and she's asking for playdates. I have to plan family vacations with stops at playgrounds or swimming pools to blow off steam, but also because she gets antsy if she hasn't "played with a friend" (even a kid she's never seen before) every few days.

OP has your DD been to a preschool? Have you interacted much with other parents of girls?

The only reason I ask is that your chid sounds like every other girl we have ever come across.

She will be fine wherever she goes. And I agree that the public school system will probably be a good place for her.

Op, I don't know how familiar you are with this area? Unless you have a truly special needs child with a need for specialized school services, your first concerns in moving to DC must be: where are your jobs and what is your budget? Given the traffic and cost of living, those two factors will dictate your housing options, which will in turn dictate your schooling options. Unless money and long commuting times are immaterial to you, figure out the areas where you can live before considering school.

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Tough crowd. Hope there are some normal non judgmental people in the DC area too.

There are - just not on this board.

I think your daughter (and your sons) will be fine in most of the good schools in Fairfax and MoCo. I have one very active boy and one introverted boy and they are both doing just fine in ES in MoCo, WJ cluster. The active boy gets in "trouble" more often for talking, impulsivity, etc. but it's not undeserved - and it's more like guidance to make the right choices and think about your actions before you do them type thing. I do wish MoCo had more outdoor time but it's not enough to spend $30K a year after taxes to send them to private. Also, put your daughter in one of the great sports programs - Fencing, Gymnastics - to allow her to take all those risks in a safer environment (and then close your eyes when she does her first flip on the trampoline and cartwheel on the balance beam).

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good grief. we DO NOT THINK OF THIS AS A PROBLEM. we merely are aware that our daughter's intellect and sense of fearlessness/recklessness add something to the calculation.

But you do think of your daughter's intellect and daredevilness as "quirky". Why?

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Anonymous wrote:to be clear, it's not just that she is more outgoing. It's more that she is constantly pushing limits, is absurdly smart, and is a real daredevil. None of these are bad things, they just would make it harder for her in the school system we are currently in-perhaps the dc area is different. our sons, like I said, just roll along. They are very happy, content, adjustable kids...not that the move won't be hard on them too! if only moving sucked less

I think it is easier to teach an outgoing assertive child to smooth the edges than to teach an introvert yo be assertive and outgoing.

Don't look at this as a problem. You are going to send a bad msg to your dd.

good grief. we DO NOT THINK OF THIS AS A PROBLEM. we merely are aware that our daughter's intellect and sense of fearlessness/recklessness add something to the calculation.

It's not a problem but you call her quirky and don't think she can be successful in her public school? Your post is sending a mixed msg. Sorry if you are frustrated by that.

I just think it is so odd that you think the introverted kids are not quirky and the outgoing one is. It just an odd post.

Another parent of a child who is exactly like your description, right down to being able to read at a very young age but only doing so while upside down.
Child is doing fantastically at a normal public school in Montgomery County.
Kids like your daughter thrive in the highly competitive environment that is DC. Those that just "roll along" start to get inferiority complexes sooner or later.

Anonymous wrote:to be clear, it's not just that she is more outgoing. It's more that she is constantly pushing limits, is absurdly smart, and is a real daredevil. None of these are bad things, they just would make it harder for her in the school system we are currently in-perhaps the dc area is different. our sons, like I said, just roll along. They are very happy, content, adjustable kids...not that the move won't be hard on them too! if only moving sucked less

Op, maybe you can elaborate on how your child will have difficulty in school? I think we are all just reading your dd is smart, bold, and extroverted.

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Anonymous wrote:to be clear, it's not just that she is more outgoing. It's more that she is constantly pushing limits, is absurdly smart, and is a real daredevil. None of these are bad things, they just would make it harder for her in the school system we are currently in-perhaps the dc area is different. our sons, like I said, just roll along. They are very happy, content, adjustable kids...not that the move won't be hard on them too! if only moving sucked less

I think it is easier to teach an outgoing assertive child to smooth the edges than to teach an introvert yo be assertive and outgoing.

Don't look at this as a problem. You are going to send a bad msg to your dd.

good grief. we DO NOT THINK OF THIS AS A PROBLEM. we merely are aware that our daughter's intellect and sense of fearlessness/recklessness add something to the calculation.

Anonymous wrote:to be clear, it's not just that she is more outgoing. It's more that she is constantly pushing limits, is absurdly smart, and is a real daredevil. None of these are bad things, they just would make it harder for her in the school system we are currently in-perhaps the dc area is different. our sons, like I said, just roll along. They are very happy, content, adjustable kids...not that the move won't be hard on them too! if only moving sucked less

I think it is easier to teach an outgoing assertive child to smooth the edges than to teach an introvert yo be assertive and outgoing.

Don't look at this as a problem. You are going to send a bad msg to your dd.

to be clear, it's not just that she is more outgoing. It's more that she is constantly pushing limits, is absurdly smart, and is a real daredevil. None of these are bad things, they just would make it harder for her in the school system we are currently in-perhaps the dc area is different. our sons, like I said, just roll along. They are very happy, content, adjustable kids...not that the move won't be hard on them too! if only moving sucked less

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, in the DC area your daughter will probably fit in better than your sons because it is filled with extroverts. My daughter sounds like your daughter and we honestly don't worry about her at our local public school. Our son is an introvert and is getting a bit lost so we are considering private for him.

+1 Your daughter should do well in public school. MCPS has some good public elementary schools. The introverted sons may do better in private.
-Signed Mom of an introverted DS and an extroverted younger DD. DS headed to a private this Fall.

Anonymous wrote:OMG... Haha... Wait, the daughter is the quirky one?!?

I think you have it backwards.... Or nobody is quirky.

Holy Camole!

This. Your dd will be fine anywhere. You should be more worried about the older boys. This move will have a greater impact on them.