Anonymous
Post 08/01/2015 14:06     Subject: Re:If your husband goes out all the time and doesn't wear his ring...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP, please be more specific.


DH has been going out a lot with his recently divorced brother. He's been staying out all night and not coming home until the next morning/afternoon. He's been doing this for almost a year now, but the last few months he hasn't been wearing his ring. He even went as far as to try to "hide" his ring so I would think he had his ring on. I'm started to suspect he's really having an affair.


Whether he is having an affair or not, that would be completely unacceptable to me.
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2015 14:02     Subject: If your husband goes out all the time and doesn't wear his ring...
Anonymous wrote:If my husband went out "all the time," I would be wondering why he spends so much time outside of the home vs. staying in w/me, his loving wife. That isn't right.

And yes, him taking off his wedding band doesn't bode well for him either.

You need to step back, take a long + hard look at your marriage overall and decide if you want to continuously live w/the suspicions you have daily.

Trust me, it is a grueling task.


I agree, I'm honestly strongly considering ending the marriage because I'm tired of stressing out over this and other things. I should've went with my first instinct and not get married in the first place!
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2015 14:01     Subject: Re:If your husband goes out all the time and doesn't wear his ring...
Anonymous wrote:OP, please be more specific.


DH has been going out a lot with his recently divorced brother. He's been staying out all night and not coming home until the next morning/afternoon. He's been doing this for almost a year now, but the last few months he hasn't been wearing his ring. He even went as far as to try to "hide" his ring so I would think he had his ring on. I'm started to suspect he's really having an affair.
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2015 12:55     Subject: If your husband goes out all the time and doesn't wear his ring...
DW and I never saw the need to get rings so it hasn't been an issue for us.
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2015 05:36     Subject: Re:If your husband goes out all the time and doesn't wear his ring...
Well I don't have a flashy ring at all and I often forget to put it on, but it's because I am rushing around like a crazy person half the time. I do wear it going out when I take the time to dress up though, since that's when I'm
Least likely to forget.sadly it's not like I'm getting hit on all the time so it hardly matters.
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2015 05:16     Subject: If your husband goes out all the time and doesn't wear his ring...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My wife often doesn't wear her ring when she goes out with her friends saying they will have a few drinks and she doesn't want to be a target for crime.... I was worried about her safety but this thread has my wondering.



I feel dumb right now- do other women thing it is dangerous to wear their engagement ring when they go out with friends, in terms of dc crime?


Where are they going? How big/flashy/expensive-looking is the ring? I have one friend who doesn't travel with her 'real' wedding and engagement rings, because they are quite large and noticeable, but she has a plain band that she wears instead when she does.
Anonymous
Post 08/01/2015 03:46     Subject: If your husband goes out all the time and doesn't wear his ring...
Yes, OP, you should be concerned.
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2015 23:12     Subject: If your husband goes out all the time and doesn't wear his ring...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My wife often doesn't wear her ring when she goes out with her friends saying they will have a few drinks and she doesn't want to be a target for crime.... I was worried about her safety but this thread has my wondering.



I feel dumb right now- do other women thing it is dangerous to wear their engagement ring when they go out with friends, in terms of dc crime?


I am definitely on alert when I wear mine out at night (whether with friends or DH) but I still wear it. I turn my ring around when walking/en route so that the stone is against my finger. Then the ring just looks like a plain band from the outside. I'm probably not fooling anyone but it makes me feel like less of a target.


I have a friend that does this as well (turns the stone inside)
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2015 23:08     Subject: If your husband goes out all the time and doesn't wear his ring...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My wife often doesn't wear her ring when she goes out with her friends saying they will have a few drinks and she doesn't want to be a target for crime.... I was worried about her safety but this thread has my wondering.



I feel dumb right now- do other women thing it is dangerous to wear their engagement ring when they go out with friends, in terms of dc crime?


I am definitely on alert when I wear mine out at night (whether with friends or DH) but I still wear it. I turn my ring around when walking/en route so that the stone is against my finger. Then the ring just looks like a plain band from the outside. I'm probably not fooling anyone but it makes me feel like less of a target.
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2015 22:04     Subject: If your husband goes out all the time and doesn't wear his ring...
If my husband went out "all the time," I would be wondering why he spends so much time outside of the home vs. staying in w/me, his loving wife. That isn't right.

And yes, him taking off his wedding band doesn't bode well for him either.

You need to step back, take a long + hard look at your marriage overall and decide if you want to continuously live w/the suspicions you have daily.

Trust me, it is a grueling task.
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2015 21:33     Subject: If your husband goes out all the time and doesn't wear his ring...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My wife often doesn't wear her ring when she goes out with her friends saying they will have a few drinks and she doesn't want to be a target for crime.... I was worried about her safety but this thread has my wondering.


Ya think?


Couldn't she just wear her wedding band?
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2015 21:09     Subject: If your husband goes out all the time and doesn't wear his ring...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My wife often doesn't wear her ring when she goes out with her friends saying they will have a few drinks and she doesn't want to be a target for crime.... I was worried about her safety but this thread has my wondering.



I feel dumb right now- do other women thing it is dangerous to wear their engagement ring when they go out with friends, in terms of dc crime?


I definitley do, especially ik sketchier parts of DC, which these days is basically everywhere.
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2015 21:08     Subject: If your husband goes out all the time and doesn't wear his ring...
Anonymous wrote:Rings can actually be dangerous depending on what you are doing.


Just ask Jimmy Fallon.
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2015 21:08     Subject: If your husband goes out all the time and doesn't wear his ring...
Anonymous wrote:My wife often doesn't wear her ring when she goes out with her friends saying they will have a few drinks and she doesn't want to be a target for crime.... I was worried about her safety but this thread has my wondering.

I think this is legit, especially if it's a 2+ carat ring and especially if you are in NY.
Anonymous
Post 07/31/2015 20:24     Subject: If your husband goes out all the time and doesn't wear his ring...
Anonymous wrote:My wife often doesn't wear her ring when she goes out with her friends saying they will have a few drinks and she doesn't want to be a target for crime.... I was worried about her safety but this thread has my wondering.


Ya think?