Anonymous wrote:My MIL is under the impression that a child can't have two "Grandmas." She has suggested that she would like to be called "Mom-mom." I've never heard of this as a grandmother name - I had two grandmas myself. To me, it would be really confusing to a little kid. Mama/mommy and Mom-mom are so similar.

Am I wrong to want to be the only one with Mom in the beginning of the title for my kids?

LOL! My mom decided she wanted to be called "Mom-mom." I'd never called either of my grandmothers that, so I'm not sure where she got it. We went with it, because that's what she wanted. The kids don't find it confusing in the least. Everyone is happy.

Honestly, some things aren't worth fighting about.

OP, you've never heard of Mommom as a grandmother name? It's a traditional grandparent nickname.

http://www.grandparents.com/family-and-relationships/grandparent-names/grandparent-names

If anything, this list shows just how much worse it could be!

I had a mom-mom and grandpop on my dad's side, and a pop-pop on my mom's side. I was never confused about it growing up. You might be confused when your kid first starts talking and mom-mom and mama come out sounding the same, but that phase goes by quickly.

Oh good grief this isn't a battle you want to pick. Seriously. No matter what you two decide if it's not "easy" for an 18 m/o to utter it'll be whatever they come up with. One friend whose mother wanted to be Grammy ended up being called Pee Pee because that's how the child could say the name. Let her be whatever she wants, and you can see what your child ends up selecting for them.

I think you are being silly and defensive.

I had a mom and never found it confusing.

Mommom is a fairly common nickname from grandmother in the mid atlantic - I hear it often from DE - Virginia. I don't think as common elsewhere.

Anonymous wrote:Just tell her that, similarly to how she thinks two "grandmas" would be confusing, "mom-mom" would be confusing, too.

Let her know any name that's not similar to "mom" or "mommy" works for you. You can recommend some (Grammy, Deedee, Nana, Nan, Granny, Gran, etc) if you think she'd be receptive, or you can just leave it at that.

OP again. Thank you! This is exactly how I'll explain it. I'll agree that she's totally right that two grandmas is confusing but I also think having to "mom"s is confusing as well. I'm totally fine with any other name!

I'm sure it's fine if you grew up with Mom mom as a normal grandmother name, but my husband actually calls both his grandmothers "Grandma." So it's not like it's some sort of family tradition she's trying to continue.

You're going to upset her, OP. It's not my favorite variant of grandma, but she likes it and she chose it. The kid is never ever going to confuse the two of your.

So how much is this worth to you? Years of bad blood? If it is, go ahead, if not, let her be called what she wants.

Anonymous wrote:I called my grandmother Mom-Mom (as did all my cousins), and my daughter calls my mother Mom-Mom (we pronounce it mum-mum, though). There has never been any confusion. If your kid is confused about who his mother is because of this, I would gently suggest you've got bigger fish to fry.

OP here. I'm not concerned about my child not knowing I am his mother.

Anonymous wrote:For all those saying no to two grandmoms, what about Grandmom Sue and Grandmom Mary or Grandmom T and Grandmom V or something like that?

I grew up calling my grandmothers Grandma Sue and Grandma Flora.

I called my grandmother Mom-Mom (as did all my cousins), and my daughter calls my mother Mom-Mom (we pronounce it mum-mum, though). There has never been any confusion. If your kid is confused about who his mother is because of this, I would gently suggest you've got bigger fish to fry.

For all those saying no to two grandmoms, what about Grandmom Sue and Grandmom Mary or Grandmom T and Grandmom V or something like that?

Anonymous wrote:Mom-mom is a common grandmother name. I called my grandmother Mom-mom and I had zero confusion and always understood the difference between my Mom and my Mom-mom. Now it is the name my mother is choosing to use as her grandmother name.

+1. Growing up I had a Mom-mom and Pop-pop on one side and a Grandmom and Grandpop on the other. No confusion with my Mom.

Then there's my father, who is called Grandpop by other grandchildren and all of us when referring to him, but who started calling himself Pop-pop to my daughter. Talk about confusing!

My mom goes by "mom-mom." I'm "mama." My DS has never confused us in his 4.5 years on this planet.

Two people named "grandma" is too many, so her proposal is two people named "mom"? Is this kid even talking yet?

To divert her, I would ask her: doesn't she want a unique name? My kid has a Nani, a Bubbe, and a Grammy (one is a great-gma).

Yes! Mine wanted Mee-maw like on the Big bang theory and I was like NO!

Fine for the show, not for her.