As an older wiser woman, I agree with those saying throw out one more invite and see how she responds. Now, if she doesn't respond to your text in a timely fashion -- she is probably writing you off.

In general, if a girl really likes you -- there isn't too much that you can do in terms of communication or asking her out that will change that. If a girl doesn't like you, there isn't much you can do to change that either. So go with your heart and let her know you are interested in seeing her again. It's better to actually walk away being sure that she wasn't interested. NB: a non response to your texts is definitely a rejection in this case...

Well I already know that she is going to be away all weekend thats why I suggested the Thursday date.

Thanks guys I suggested Thursday because she told me a while ago that she is going white water rafting this whole weekend. So my only other free date day was Thursday.

You set out your parameters for the next date. Why are you so concerned when she shares hers?

I agree with the PP who mentioned how women like to be at their (our!) best when dating. If she knows ahead of time that Wednesday evening is going to leave her exhausted, why wouldn't she let you know that she won't be up for a Thursday night out?

Ask again. You'll have your answer, especially if you leave the date open. Like, "Would you like to see [this movie] sometime this weekend? What works best for you?" If she says she's not available and you've left a broad amount of time, you'll know she's no longer interested.

Take it easy. Ok?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm with the camp that she just said no to one date - and was honest about it. I'd try again. Thinking that she's busy one day is the end of your relationship is overreacting. Did she respond to your text? Why not see if she's available on another night?

If it was ME, by the 4th date, if i was interested but not available, I would be suggesting something else. Like "Gee, Thursday's not good, but how about Friday or saturday ..."

If she's not reciprocating, she may be done.

If it was ME, and I wasn't interested in continuing the relationship, I would say so. If I wasn't available on Thursday, I would say "I can't do Thursday." I might or might not suggest another day, but if I was not interested in seeing you again, I would tell you that, directly.

Anonymous wrote:I'm with the camp that she just said no to one date - and was honest about it. I'd try again. Thinking that she's busy one day is the end of your relationship is overreacting. Did she respond to your text? Why not see if she's available on another night?

If it was ME, by the 4th date, if i was interested but not available, I would be suggesting something else. Like "Gee, Thursday's not good, but how about Friday or saturday ..."

If she's not reciprocating, she may be done.

If she wanted to see you, she could have suggested a night other than Thursday. I can see not wanting to go out two nights in a row, especially if the first night is crazy.

So you texted. Now you see what happens. If you never hear from her again, so be it, but who knows!

Anonymous wrote:Wtf...she turns you down because she knows that's not a good night, and you think it's over? That makes no sense.

Yeah, I realize that I haven't dated in 22 years but I thought the nail had been driven in a bit prematurely here. She declined one mid-week date so far, and that's it? Or did I miss something?

Ask again, for a different night. If she says no for a weak reason then leave the ball in her court to see if she follows up in the future.

Anonymous wrote:Woman here. I don't think it's unusual for a woman not to accept a mid-week date (esp the day after a party and then a full day's work). Just ask her out for the weekend.

Until you have had sex, stop asking out for mid-week dates, too. The singular goal of dating is to get LAID, not make friends. Set yourself up for sex, don't put up roadblocks.

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Anonymous wrote:No more day dating

Stop making dates if your singular goal isn't to get LAID.

Pig.

Dating = porking

I'm with the camp that she just said no to one date - and was honest about it. I'd try again. Thinking that she's busy one day is the end of your relationship is overreacting. Did she respond to your text? Why not see if she's available on another night?

Anonymous wrote:Ok text sent against my judgement will update you guys. Thanks for all the input!

Hope she says yes.

Anonymous wrote:No more day dating

Stop making dates if your singular goal isn't to get LAID.

Pig.

Woman here. I don't think it's unusual for a woman not to accept a mid-week date (esp the day after a party and then a full day's work). Just ask her out for the weekend.

No more day dating

Stop making dates if your singular goal isn't to get LAID.