Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 22:45     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:Where do I begin. . . .

She's commented on how my unattractiveness is an advantage, because attractive women are too demanding as wives.

She's told me that she wished this other woman was her daughter-in-law.

She's said that everything her son does bad is my fault.

She's told me that people of my race all smell bad.







What does your spouse have to say about this?
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 22:42     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Where do I begin. . . .

She's commented on how my unattractiveness is an advantage, because attractive women are too demanding as wives.

She's told me that she wished this other woman was her daughter-in-law.

She's said that everything her son does bad is my fault.

She's told me that people of my race all smell bad.




Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 21:03     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
I'm fat. My MIL sent me a gift subscription to a running magazine. No, I don't run nor have I ever expressed an interest in running.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 21:02     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:This was said repeatedly over the course of 3 years during which i had 2 children:

"I really want blue-eyed grandchildren, at least one"

It was literally an impossibility given my skin tone, but one of her other children had a child with bluish eyes and guess who the world revolves around?



Whoah. So racist. Sorry you have to deal with that.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 21:00     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She told my husband "when a son marries, a mother loses a son, when a daughter marries a mother gains a son". On the way to church on our wedding day.

I hate her guts for doing this.


My MIL said something similar to me the day after the wedding. The worst part was that she said it so matter of fact, as if it wasn't offensive.


DIL here whose MIL never said that but I genuinely do not understand why this is so offensive. I find that it's pretty true that most men when they marry switch their first allegiance to their wife (as they should), get involved in their new family's life (once again, as they should), and will usually take their wife's side over their mother's in any dispute (which, once again, fine). I think that statement, cliché as it is, is pretty on-point.


+1
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 20:52     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She told my husband "when a son marries, a mother loses a son, when a daughter marries a mother gains a son". On the way to church on our wedding day.

I hate her guts for doing this.


You sound like a 14 year old
Really? I put her age at about 12. Serious immaturity happening here. I get the feeling if it wasn't this that set off op it would have been something else just as inconsequential.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 20:38     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
This isn't something she said, but something my MIL did that I'm just finding odd. I am 4 months pregnant, my husband is an only child and this will be her first (and only) grandchild and she's yet to either call/text/email me about the pregnancy. She and I aren't particularly close, but do reach out to each other on birthdays and when other big things happen (her companion went to hospital, so I called to check in, etc). Maybe protocol is that I should be reaching out to her as grandmother-to-be, but just struck me as odd never got even a text saying how thrilled she is at the news (which she is, according to my husband).


I'm not close to my ILs so don't think I'm an apologist for MILs. I just don't get why women expect others to call them when they're pregnant. Didn't your DH tell you he told his parents? Did he not share their reaction with you? Why would you expect them to call you? Wait - I get it. This is your first pregnancy. It's a much bigger deal to you than it is to anyone else.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 18:54     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:She told my husband "when a son marries, a mother loses a son, when a daughter marries a mother gains a son". On the way to church on our wedding day.

I hate her guts for doing this.


Why do you hate her for that?
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 18:54     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
'The first time I saw you, I knew you two would be ok. You looked just like all the other brunettes he'd taken home'

After 12 years and 3 kids with him.

Grrrrrrr
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 18:35     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:She told my husband "when a son marries, a mother loses a son, when a daughter marries a mother gains a son". On the way to church on our wedding day.

I hate her guts for doing this.


You sound like a 14 year old
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 18:32     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:This was said repeatedly over the course of 3 years during which i had 2 children:

"I really want blue-eyed grandchildren, at least one"

It was literally an impossibility given my skin tone, but one of her other children had a child with bluish eyes and guess who the world revolves around?


I would have bought that crazy lady a blue-eyed doll and said, "Here's your blue-eyed grandchild. Her name is Larla. Now shut up about this nonsense."
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 18:29     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
This was said repeatedly over the course of 3 years during which i had 2 children:

"I really want blue-eyed grandchildren, at least one"

It was literally an impossibility given my skin tone, but one of her other children had a child with bluish eyes and guess who the world revolves around?
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 17:55     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This isn't something she said, but something my MIL did that I'm just finding odd. I am 4 months pregnant, my husband is an only child and this will be her first (and only) grandchild and she's yet to either call/text/email me about the pregnancy. She and I aren't particularly close, but do reach out to each other on birthdays and when other big things happen (her companion went to hospital, so I called to check in, etc). Maybe protocol is that I should be reaching out to her as grandmother-to-be, but just struck me as odd never got even a text saying how thrilled she is at the news (which she is, according to my husband).


I am a DIL. I think the protocol should be that you call your MIL and tell her the news. It is your news to share. Maybe she thinks that you are waiting to announce the pregnancy and she does not want to steal your thunder.

Pick up the phone and call her.


What? Her husband already shared the news. And it's appropriate that he did that. It's his mother, and he gets to share that, yes? The MIL should contact her.
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 17:48     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:I am a DIL. I think the protocol should be that you call your MIL and tell her the news. It is your news to share. Maybe she thinks that you are waiting to announce the pregnancy and she does not want to steal your thunder.

Pick up the phone and call her.


Exactly this!!!
Anonymous
Post 07/17/2015 17:46     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:This isn't something she said, but something my MIL did that I'm just finding odd. I am 4 months pregnant, my husband is an only child and this will be her first (and only) grandchild and she's yet to either call/text/email me about the pregnancy. She and I aren't particularly close, but do reach out to each other on birthdays and when other big things happen (her companion went to hospital, so I called to check in, etc). Maybe protocol is that I should be reaching out to her as grandmother-to-be, but just struck me as odd never got even a text saying how thrilled she is at the news (which she is, according to my husband).


I am a DIL. I think the protocol should be that you call your MIL and tell her the news. It is your news to share. Maybe she thinks that you are waiting to announce the pregnancy and she does not want to steal your thunder.

Pick up the phone and call her.