Anonymous wrote:This is one of the things that's hard about being a MIL. Offhand remarks are invested with weighty significance.

You forgot to add 'and offense taken where none was given'.

I feel sorry for your MIL.

This is one of the things that's hard about being a MIL. Offhand remarks are invested with weighty significance.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a miscarriage on 9/11. For years after, whenever there were remembrances and what not about the attacks, my MIL would calculate how old my baby would have been had she lived and talk about it.

If it had happened on any other day, she likely would not have remembered the exact day, much less comment on it every year.

I learned to let it go.

Thats why i kept my pregnancies quiet until 13 weeks.

Miscarriages can happen past then.

Anonymous wrote:I had a miscarriage on 9/11. For years after, whenever there were remembrances and what not about the attacks, my MIL would calculate how old my baby would have been had she lived and talk about it.

If it had happened on any other day, she likely would not have remembered the exact day, much less comment on it every year.

I learned to let it go.

Thats why i kept my pregnancies quiet until 13 weeks.

I had a miscarriage on 9/11. For years after, whenever there were remembrances and what not about the attacks, my MIL would calculate how old my baby would have been had she lived and talk about it.

If it had happened on any other day, she likely would not have remembered the exact day, much less comment on it every year.

I learned to let it go.

Okay here's a quick flowchart:

Is MIL a terrorist? Yes-- she meant something by it. Take offense. No. Forget it.
Is MIL a conspiracy theorist? Yes-- she meant something be it, but is just a nutcase, so don't take it personally. No-- don't take offense.
Is MIL a Dick Cheney style 'never forget' jingoistic patriot? Yes-- okay, you can be a little creeped out that she wants your kid born on 9/11, but she will probably get him a parade and a brass band in his honor. So take no offense. If no- don't be offended.

MIL is being excited and kind of thoughtless. New grandparents do this with some regularity sometimes. Don't worry about this. Invest your energy with DH to make sure you have a good visiting plan, that sort of thing.

Is this comment about 9/11 or FIL? Exaggerating what?

It's obvious she didn't mean something bad by it, OP.

Anonymous wrote:you're a nut

+1

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you know what the word "exaggerating" means?

Lol, what the hell is being exaggerated!? I don't get it!