Anonymous wrote:OP here - I'm also pregnant. So that makes it all the more fun..

Good luck,OP, you don't need the stress.

Anonymous wrote:You broke the #1 rule - don't f*ck with the system, the system will f*ck you back.

It all depends on who defines the system. The uncle is just a player in the game - he doesn't make the rules. The rules of corporate politics are timeless, but don't break them - just bend them a little bit in your favor.

You broke the #1 rule - don't f*ck with the system, the system will f*ck you back.

Anonymous wrote:OP here - I'm also pregnant. So that makes it all the more fun..

Hang in there, OP. Glad you had the guts to hire a worthy candidate instead of an inexperienced candidate due to family ties.

OP here - I'm also pregnant. So that makes it all the more fun..

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Anonymous wrote:
I would not talk to that POS alone. No way. And your boss is a wimp. You are trying to do his job. Your boss should have your back and the fact that he wants you to look the other way on this is very concerning.

Also, you are now in a hostile work environment and HR might not protect you.

+1

HR definitely won't protect you unless there is liability for your employer based on the POS uncle's behavior. Until that happens, you're on your own.

I don't know what jurisdiction you're in (MD, DC or VA)? Virginia and DC are one-party states in terms of recording conversations (MD is a two-party state). You may not get him to admit that he is retaliating, but you might at least be able to get a recording of you telling him (again) why you didn't hire his niece. He then can't deny that he was aware and HR (and more importantly, your employer's management team) might look at his actions towards you in a different light.

Anonymous wrote:
I would not talk to that POS alone. No way. And your boss is a wimp. You are trying to do his job. Your boss should have your back and the fact that he wants you to look the other way on this is very concerning.

Also, you are now in a hostile work environment and HR might not protect you.

+1

Anonymous wrote:it will probably pass in time. Just take it for now. If you go to HR, it'll just linger.

Agree. I was in a similar situation a few years back, and it got better slowly. Eventually the guy was forced to leave (althought for an unreleased issue)

Talk to him directly. If that doesn't work, transfer to a different division where he doesn't have clout. Did you ever tell him how his niece behaved? You might get on his good side again if he knows the problem was his niece, not you, but it could backfire. I wish there were more people like you that hire on merit instead of "who they know".

I would not talk to that POS alone. No way. And your boss is a wimp. You are trying to do his job. Your boss should have your back and the fact that he wants you to look the other way on this is very concerning.

Also, you are now in a hostile work environment and HR might not protect you.

Anonymous wrote:OP - here. I'm considering both professionally taking to him and talking to HR. It's just crazy behavior. He actually does this to others, I'm just the low man on the totem pole so I get the brunt of it.

I'm in HR and would note it with HR, but just as a "for the record" conversation (provide all documentation about why you made the decision). And yes, go talk to the guy, though he sounds like a POS.

Anonymous wrote:Go to HR. Good luck.

Sounds like the niece slacked off because she thought she had it in the bag. LOL on her. You did the right thing.

DYAC.

Go to HR. Good luck.

Sounds like the niece disabled off because she thought she had Orr in the bag. LOL on her. You did the right thing.

Anonymous wrote:OP - here. I'm considering both professionally taking to him and talking to HR. It's just crazy behavior. He actually does this to others, I'm just the low man on the totem pole so I get the brunt of it.

I think this is the right response. My one suggestion is that when you talk to him, see if you can somehow get it on the record or have someone else there so it can't be misconstrued and used against you later.

It will not pass, it will get worse. Go to HR now. When a manager lodges a complaint of insubordination, that manager is after you.