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Anonymous wrote:Why dis the habitual be?

http://www.slate.com/blogs/lexicon_valley/2015/06/05/the_habitual_be_why_cookie_monster_be_eating_cookies_whether_he_is_eating.html

This is interesting. my guess is that the OP's MIL is not AA. She just does not use the queens English.

So? Whether she's black or white, she's making flawless use of the habitual be. Perhaps she grew up around a lot of AAs, or maybe she just has a flexible ear and is good at picking up language dialects. "I be missing you" communicates perfectly that she, the grandma, is habitually in the existential state of missing her grandchild. It communicates something more nuanced than "I missed you".

She's not a speaker of Gaelic, is she?

Seriously, though, it's an awesome bit of linguistic subtlety, and OP should appreciate it.

Anonymous wrote:6 months. Yes she loves him but I still have the right to disapprove of her language around our DS.

You have severe control issues that will not serve you or your DS well in the long run. You need to get he stick out of your ass.

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Anonymous wrote:Yet another MIL vent. Every time she sees our DS my MIL says this annoying phrase to my DS. Baby talk is bad enough, but grammar is a sticking point with me. Every time she says it the hairs on the back of my neck stand on end. I just want to scream!

Baby talk is not bad, there is some evidence it enhances language learning.

I read somewhere years ago that linguists believe baby talk is actually the original universal language. All cultures of all economic levels thrroughout the world talk to infants in the same singsong tone and with the same bad "baby talk" grammar. Interesting theory but it makes a lot of sense.

OP, I'm sure your MIL is a pain to deal with but, really, your kid is going to learn grammar from growing up in your household. Don't make this a big deal.

Wow this is ugly! My MIL says exactly the same thing to our 6 month old! It is a little strange but it makes her happy and won't do a thing to hurt our child. The baby just lights up when she comes in the room! A little poor grammar is no reason to get so crazy, OP!

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're a bitch. Something tells me this isn't the first time someone's called you a bitch (and probably denied it). I don't say it to be harsh, but it might be time to examine that the problem is you, and not others.

And no, I'm not a MIL. I'm just at a loss for how someone can be so petty to focus on such little, tiny, benign things. You need more real problems in your life to put things into perspective, and to make you less of a bitch.

Preach!

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Anonymous wrote:6 months. Yes she loves him but I still have the right to disapprove of her language around our DS.

And we have the right to think you are a world-class jerk.

No kidding. OP has a 6 month old baby and THIS is what pisses her off? I really have no words other than to hope her son grows up to be a wonderful man with an unbreakable bond with his grandmother and falls in love with a woman (or man) who is the antithesis of what OP has in mind.

Reap what you sow, OP. Reap what you sow.

Nah. Mom can lock down the relationship. She can keep grandma at arm's length without even being obvious about it. Simple.

And keep the baby from a grandma who obviously loves him? Yeah, great parenting. Hope her eventual DIL is as kind as she (and you) is..

Just countering the nut who is furiously praying that the 6 month old grows up and marries someone to spite his mother all the while having some abnormally tight relationship with Mee Maw.

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Anonymous wrote:6 months. Yes she loves him but I still have the right to disapprove of her language around our DS.

And we have the right to think you are a world-class jerk.

No kidding. OP has a 6 month old baby and THIS is what pisses her off? I really have no words other than to hope her son grows up to be a wonderful man with an unbreakable bond with his grandmother and falls in love with a woman (or man) who is the antithesis of what OP has in mind.

Reap what you sow, OP. Reap what you sow.

Nah. Mom can lock down the relationship. She can keep grandma at arm's length without even being obvious about it. Simple.

And keep the baby from a grandma who obviously loves him? Yeah, great parenting. Hope her eventual DIL is as kind as she (and you) is..

I very strongly dislike my mother in law but I have a policy of not interfering with anything that is an act of love or care towards my child. I would love it if she had a little phrase for my son (she's not very involved)

Some nasty women out there... OP, I am talking to you.

Big freaking deal OP. Get over yourself.

Anonymous wrote:Yet another MIL vent. Every time she sees our DS my MIL says this annoying phrase to my DS. Baby talk is bad enough, but grammar is a sticking point with me. Every time she says it the hairs on the back of my neck stand on end. I just want to scream!

Baby talk is not bad, there is some evidence it enhances language learning.

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Anonymous wrote:6 months. Yes she loves him but I still have the right to disapprove of her language around our DS.

And we have the right to think you are a world-class jerk.

No kidding. OP has a 6 month old baby and THIS is what pisses her off? I really have no words other than to hope her son grows up to be a wonderful man with an unbreakable bond with his grandmother and falls in love with a woman (or man) who is the antithesis of what OP has in mind.

Reap what you sow, OP. Reap what you sow.

Nah. Mom can lock down the relationship. She can keep grandma at arm's length without even being obvious about it. Simple.

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Anonymous wrote:6 months. Yes she loves him but I still have the right to disapprove of her language around our DS.

And we have the right to think you are a world-class jerk.

No kidding. OP has a 6 month old baby and THIS is what pisses her off? I really have no words other than to hope her son grows up to be a wonderful man with an unbreakable bond with his grandmother and falls in love with a woman (or man) who is the antithesis of what OP has in mind.

Reap what you sow, OP. Reap what you sow.

Anonymous wrote:You are a terrible DIL. You might be a terrible person. I feel so sorry for your MIL right now I can't even breathe.

I'm sure you can and are breathing.