Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised at all the people who know of people whose nose piercing holes remained visible long after they closed. I pierced my nose as a young adult, let it close 6 years ago, and can't see it now. I barely remember I had it.

It's probably very person-specific. I don't know of any who don't still wear them, so I don't know if they close up or not (I'm in my 40s). But IMO the hole is so small it's not really noticeable anyway.

I took mine out 6 years ago and it looks like a freckle. Fortunately I have always had freckles across my nose so nobody ever asks.

My super conservative parents let my sister do this at 16 (she's younger by 3 years) when she was 16, so about 1999ish. I was shocked but honestly they thought it was pretty harmless to have a little diamond stud in her nose and it really was. She kept it thought college and then took it out. Sometimes in my mind's eye I still see her with it instead of the early 30s married woman in the pencil skirt going to work and it makes me smile.

If this is your hill to die on OP, fine. But I wouldn't let others' even factor into my decision on allowing this or not. Everything is going to be someone's "thing" that they find totally offensive and awful for kids. In the grand scheme I just don't see this being a huge deal.

I would not have a problem with it. I would just hope she takes good care of it. Also, in my professional experience nose piercings have been ok (although being worn at an interview would be a no no) because of their sometimes cultural context among South Asians. Reasonable minds may differ, but that is how it has been in my experience in the DC area

I'd be fine with it.

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised at all the people who know of people whose nose piercing holes remained visible long after they closed. I pierced my nose as a young adult, let it close 6 years ago, and can't see it now. I barely remember I had it.

It's probably very person-specific. I don't know of any who don't still wear them, so I don't know if they close up or not (I'm in my 40s). But IMO the hole is so small it's not really noticeable anyway.

My rules for ear piercing:
1st: 10
2nd: 13
3rd: 16
4th or anywhere else: 18 and out of the house

I'm surprised at all the people who know of people whose nose piercing holes remained visible long after they closed. I pierced my nose as a young adult, let it close 6 years ago, and can't see it now. I barely remember I had it.

Anonymous wrote:I probably would at 16/HS jr but not at 13.

This.

Not as long as I am supporting her. Once she is an adult (and that means paying her own way) she is free to do whatever she wants with her body and I will have no say. Until then, I will not support what may be a childish fad that she will later regret.

One word - Boogers -
so, no, no, no, no, no.

Nope Nope Nope. She can wait until she is 18.

Anonymous wrote:DD wants to.

Personally, i think a small stud in the nose is unobtrusive and can be very pretty. I'm surprised at how open I am to the idea. I can't stand tattoos and things like eyebrow piercings, but this seems harmless to me.

I'm wondering how others feel. (I think I can guess ...)

Without hesitation. Same for DS.

Tats would require significant conversation. This, no. I'd go with her to hold her hand if they're doing it old school.

While the belly button piercing can be hidden while the nose piercing cannot, I prefer the nose. It's cartilage and the chances of infection are much lower.

A belly button piercing can take up to a year to heal and is the most infection prone piercing (upper ear is also more prone). Our pediatrician told us of a patient who had to get plastic surgery when her belly button piercing went awry.

No. Just no.

Can you try to persuade her to have her belly button done instead? She can hide that...