Anonymous wrote:Believe it or not, my wife, an African-American, has never been (openly) mistaken for the nanny of our 8 year old who looks white, has green eyes and brown hair with blond highlights. We live in DC. Clearly there is something in the way she carries herself and interacts with dd that communicates a parent-child relationship. I'm sure there's some study that has been done on how parents vs caregivers interact with relation to subtle differences in eye contact, touch, tone of voice, etc.

My dear PP, don't get too smug. People assume many things without telling you. You're just not subtle enough to pick up on them, or you've never been in a situation where you could gauge how people saw that relationship.

I know I was mistaken for the nanny, even though no one actually told me this to my face, but I could tell easily by the attitude.

Yep. I was 32 when I had my first but looked much younger.

Never and I became a Mom at 25. My son also looks like my clone and I'm very hands on and affectionate with him.

Anonymous wrote:2 times. NeighbOr came to introduce herself and when I answered the door asked if I lived there. She assumed I was a nanny. I look Latina though I am not. Second time with baby number Two who somehow turned out to be blind and fair. When I corrected the person and told her hat I am his mom she said " why is he so fair?"

In a really slow voice ... "There are these things called genes ..."


People are so stupid sometimes.

it happened all the time when i was a nanny and it happens all the time now that i'm a mom. not sure what's the big deal...

Believe it or not, my wife, an African-American, has never been (openly) mistaken for the nanny of our 8 year old who looks white, has green eyes and brown hair with blond highlights. We live in DC. Clearly there is something in the way she carries herself and interacts with dd that communicates a parent-child relationship. I'm sure there's some study that has been done on how parents vs caregivers interact with relation to subtle differences in eye contact, touch, tone of voice, etc.

Yes. I am brown and they are white. I'm 34, that's relatively young for this area.

Yes. I had my first at 25.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a younger mom and have two mixed kids (I'm white). I've never been mistaken for the nanny.

Do you live close-in or far out?

N Arlington.

Anonymous wrote:I have and it was so strange. I guess it had to do wih looking like a youngish parent for this area and the fact that my kid is mixed and I'm not. Has his happened to you?

No, bit I have been mistaken for my children's grandparent. Premature gray hair.

Anonymous wrote:Where I'm from, 29 is considered old for having a baby. Lots of people are grandparents by time they're in their late 30's.

Also, not a lot of people have nannies there.

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Anonymous wrote:Granny, yes; nanny, no.

We're moving to the south soon. I had both kids in my forties - I'm totally expecting to get this.

Totally. When I was 30 and didn't have kids yet people down there either really pitied me or thought something was wrong with me.

Where I'm from, 29 is considered old for having a baby. Lots of people are grandparents by time they're in their late 30's.

Yup. Another young mom (for this area) with mixed kids. Kids look just like DH, which doesn't help.

Anonymous wrote:Granny, yes; nanny, no.

We're moving to the south soon. I had both kids in my forties - I'm totally expecting to get this.