Anonymous wrote:I think you should lighten up. Seriously, not a big deal. But more importantly, I don't think you should be "correcting" other people's kids based on what is ultimately an issue of personal politics/values. A lot of people disagree that this is a problem, presumably including the other boys' parents. Would you chide them for not recycling a water bottle? Wearing a "redskins" shirt? This isn't a college campus. Nobody cares about your views, liberal and admirable and culturally sensitive though they may be.

Why is recycling liberal and/or culturally sensitive?

And of course, I would have a kid stick a water bottle in the recycle bin not the trash that's a no brainer.

Anonymous wrote:OMG. I am 45 and I played competitive soccer. I beat all the boys in the Presidential Fitness thing---in every event. I played Division 1 soccer. Though--I liked make-up and fashion. I had an older brother and a sister.

AND...I'm the first one to use the 'cry like a girl', etc. I don't even think about it when I say it...or the irony that I am female. I guess growing up it was an insult to be told that but if you were a gifted athlete nobody would ever accuse of doing anything like a girl. In fact, I was told I don't 'run like a girl' and I took great pride in that growing up.

I have 5 nephews (teens and 20s) and I have two boys myself. My nephews would tell my boys 'not to be a momma's boy' if they cried over something.

Frankly, I personally HATED that television ad with the 'run like a girl', 'throw like a girl' because I think they should have used top women athletes..not girls that couldn't run. My kids and I busted out laughing at one of the girls because she had the worst running form ever.

I like being a woman. But- I don't go around looking for something to take 'offense' at constantly.

When even Jerry Seinfeld finds college campuses too liberal and politically correct---it is time America lightens the f*ck up!!

It's a shame you were or are a gifted athlete, but not very self aware or bright.

Anonymous wrote:I think you should lighten up. Seriously, not a big deal. But more importantly, I don't think you should be "correcting" other people's kids based on what is ultimately an issue of personal politics/values. A lot of people disagree that this is a problem, presumably including the other boys' parents. Would you chide them for not recycling a water bottle? Wearing a "redskins" shirt? This isn't a college campus. Nobody cares about your views, liberal and admirable and culturally sensitive though they may be.

Not PP, but I would absolutely feel comfortable saying something to a kid who said "throw like a girl" or "cry like a girl" in my presence. I would also ask a kid in a Redskin jersey to change it or go home. (I'd offer a tshirt). We don't allow misogyny or racism in our house. If the kid's parents don't like it, they can keep their kid home.

You don't have to be rude to correct someone on "throw like a girl." You can just say sometihng about a famous Olympian or the little league pitcher from last year or whatever.

There's no hope for people who insist on redskins as a team name. It's as bad as using the N-word.

Not acceptable behavior in my house. My boys are 7 and 10. My husband has said it on occasion and I called him out on it each time I heard it.

My boys were in awe of the female pitcher during the Little League World Series. And they meet up with girls on the baseball field (our league is coed) who can outplay them.

OMG. I am 45 and I played competitive soccer. I beat all the boys in the Presidential Fitness thing---in every event. I played Division 1 soccer. Though--I liked make-up and fashion. I had an older brother and a sister.

AND...I'm the first one to use the 'cry like a girl', etc. I don't even think about it when I say it...or the irony that I am female. I guess growing up it was an insult to be told that but if you were a gifted athlete nobody would ever accuse of doing anything like a girl. In fact, I was told I don't 'run like a girl' and I took great pride in that growing up.

I have 5 nephews (teens and 20s) and I have two boys myself. My nephews would tell my boys 'not to be a momma's boy' if they cried over something.

Frankly, I personally HATED that television ad with the 'run like a girl', 'throw like a girl' because I think they should have used top women athletes..not girls that couldn't run. My kids and I busted out laughing at one of the girls because she had the worst running form ever.

I like being a woman. But- I don't go around looking for something to take 'offense' at constantly.

When even Jerry Seinfeld finds college campuses too liberal and politically correct---it is time America lightens the f*ck up!!

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Anonymous wrote:Those statements are insulting and I would never allow my boys to use them because I don't allow them to speak in an insulting manner to anyone. But, that being said, my boys hang out with a mixed boy/girl crowd and it is full of amazing girl athletes, so the "like a girl" phrases don't have the same meaning. So, another vote for not lightening up.

What other meaning could it convey? It's meant to ridicule a boy for being effeminate.

PP here. I agree that it's meant to ridicule. What I was saying is that in my kids' circle, the girls are great athletes so the phrase lacks meaning. Still, I would not allow it if I heard it because it is meant to ridicule.

Nip it in the bud. Correct yours, but not others. It's offensive to everyone.

--mother of 2 boys, and wife of former pro football wide receiver...who says the only person who ever outran him in school was a girl.

Not a big deal. Eventually they are going to run into girl after girl that proves them wrong. Why take away that satisfaction from little Olivia down the street

Seriously though, correct your own boys, but unless it is going on in your house lighten up with other people's kids.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=XjJQBjWYDTs

Anonymous wrote:Those statements are insulting and I would never allow my boys to use them because I don't allow them to speak in an insulting manner to anyone. But, that being said, my boys hang out with a mixed boy/girl crowd and it is full of amazing girl athletes, so the "like a girl" phrases don't have the same meaning. So, another vote for not lightening up.

What other meaning could it convey? It's meant to ridicule a boy for being effeminate.

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Anonymous wrote:Mom of two boys ages 7 and 11.

Yes, you need to lighten up. In fact, I use that expression myself. We all have a good laugh.

Girls and Boys are different. Nothing wrong with that. And BTW, this is part of teaching my boys to ADORE girls.

You're wrong. My girl can out-run every boy she's ever raced. You are laughing at the expense of your own gender. You should be ashamed of yourself. Seriously.

Agreed. A good laugh?

What type of self-hating woman are you?

Oh, please. Seriously, some of you need to get over yourselves. "Womanhood" is not a club.

Keep going, OP. Please, for everyone's sake if my kids were using that phrase behind my back, I would want someone else to step in.

I would correct my son if I heard him use it. It is meant as an insult - and it insults all girls, and the boy it is said to - I wouldn't want my kids doing either of those things.

I think you should lighten up. Seriously, not a big deal. But more importantly, I don't think you should be "correcting" other people's kids based on what is ultimately an issue of personal politics/values. A lot of people disagree that this is a problem, presumably including the other boys' parents. Would you chide them for not recycling a water bottle? Wearing a "redskins" shirt? This isn't a college campus. Nobody cares about your views, liberal and admirable and culturally sensitive though they may be.

Let it go. You said your peace. They will learn on their own soon enough when little Jenny beats them At field day