Anonymous
Post 06/25/2015 16:31     Subject: Not remarrying if spouse dies before me...anyone else?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Widowed for over 15 years. FWBs only for me.

Marriage is highly overrated.


Wow. In retrospect do you think that your marriage to your wife who left you a widow was a good marriage? Are you happy that you married her or do you think you would have been happy living life as a single man?


I think OP is a woman.


Yes, I realized after I asked the question that pp was talking about the death of her husband of 15 years. Not her wife. But the question is pretty much the same. Did she have a good marriage and is she glad that she married her husband or does she think she would have been happier living life as a single woman.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2015 15:52     Subject: Not remarrying if spouse dies before me...anyone else?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Widowed for over 15 years. FWBs only for me.

Marriage is highly overrated.


Wow. In retrospect do you think that your marriage to your wife who left you a widow was a good marriage? Are you happy that you married her or do you think you would have been happy living life as a single man?


I think OP is a woman.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2015 15:51     Subject: Re:Not remarrying if spouse dies before me...anyone else?

Anonymous wrote:DH out of town now and so enjoying the silence. If he goes first, no remarriage. I wonder what he would do if I go fist????

Men are often quick to rebound/get married. I read somewhere that if they had a happy marriage, they're more likely to remarry again-- and rather quickly.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2015 15:49     Subject: Not remarrying if spouse dies before me...anyone else?

^I meant your husband who passed away. Not your wife.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2015 15:49     Subject: Not remarrying if spouse dies before me...anyone else?

Anonymous wrote:Widowed for over 15 years. FWBs only for me.

Marriage is highly overrated.


Wow. In retrospect do you think that your marriage to your wife who left you a widow was a good marriage? Are you happy that you married her or do you think you would have been happy living life as a single man?
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2015 15:43     Subject: Re:Not remarrying if spouse dies before me...anyone else?

Anonymous wrote:DH out of town now and so enjoying the silence. If he goes first, no remarriage. I wonder what he would do if I go fist????


Blow his inheritance on fast cars and fast women. Happens all the time.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2015 15:37     Subject: Re:Not remarrying if spouse dies before me...anyone else?

fist----> first
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2015 15:37     Subject: Re:Not remarrying if spouse dies before me...anyone else?

DH out of town now and so enjoying the silence. If he goes first, no remarriage. I wonder what he would do if I go fist????
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2015 14:52     Subject: Not remarrying if spouse dies before me...anyone else?

Why marry again? Deal with more annoying in laws?
No way.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2015 14:41     Subject: Not remarrying if spouse dies before me...anyone else?

No need to remarry. Agree with pp that FWBs only and the rest of the time I want to spend with myself, my family and friends.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2015 14:08     Subject: Not remarrying if spouse dies before me...anyone else?

Widowed for over 15 years. FWBs only for me.

Marriage is highly overrated.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2015 14:01     Subject: Not remarrying if spouse dies before me...anyone else?

I just can't imagine putting the same amount of love, attention, energy into another marriage with another man. Such a huge commitment and I'm so glad that I found my dh but the sheer history that we have together alone (we've been together since our mid 20's)...how could I ever hope to have anything like it again? I hope and pray that I am never put in that situation.

I think that when widow/widowers do remarry it's a different sort of marriage. A different ballgame.

Anonymous
Post 06/25/2015 13:53     Subject: Not remarrying if spouse dies before me...anyone else?

I an 40 and I would never remarry or even date.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2015 13:48     Subject: Not remarrying if spouse dies before me...anyone else?

I can't predict the future. I don't know what I would do if my husband died before me. I'm in my early thirties, so if he (God forbid) died within the next 10-20 years I think I'd want to remarry. Later in life? Hard to know.
Anonymous
Post 06/25/2015 13:46     Subject: Not remarrying if spouse dies before me...anyone else?

Anonymous wrote:If DH dies of natural causes, he will likely go before me. We talk about it sometimes and the only scenario I imagine is having a girlfriend to travel with. No, I'm not a lesbian, just can't imagine remarrying. Anyone else?


+1

No way I will ever marry again.