Anonymous
Post 06/24/2015 20:08     Subject: Re:Mother in law wants to go with us to the Caribbean
No way. Say no now. That's not a reasonable request.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2015 15:51     Subject: Mother in law wants to go with us to the Caribbean
Anonymous wrote:I just feel bad for her. She is very lonely and we like to include her in things but this is a step over the line.


Sweetie, this is a step over the line, onto a bus, across the border and into next week.

You allow this and you might as well scoot over and make room for her in your bed.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2015 14:03     Subject: Mother in law wants to go with us to the Caribbean
Ask her if she wants grandchildren. Then when she says yes say "that's why you aren't coming on the honeymoon"
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2015 13:35     Subject: Mother in law wants to go with us to the Caribbean
You should send your husband and his mom on the honeymoon and stay home.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2015 12:34     Subject: Mother in law wants to go with us to the Caribbean
Anonymous wrote:I just feel bad for her. She is very lonely and we like to include her in things but this is a step over the line.


just stop. there are much more talented liars on this board. This is weak.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2015 12:32     Subject: Mother in law wants to go with us to the Caribbean
To the PP whose SIL tried to come on the honeymoon: we need the full story!! How did she explain her thought that it would be a good idea, that you'd want her along, that there was nothing intrusive about it???
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2015 12:27     Subject: Mother in law wants to go with us to the Caribbean
I just feel bad for her. She is very lonely and we like to include her in things but this is a step over the line.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2015 12:26     Subject: Mother in law wants to go with us to the Caribbean
If you can't figure this out you have no business getting married.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2015 12:24     Subject: Mother in law wants to go with us to the Caribbean
troll on a hot day.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2015 12:21     Subject: Mother in law wants to go with us to the Caribbean
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
My dear OP.

Please view this as a serious red flag, the last of all the other clingy red flags.

Even worse if she guilts your husband into taking care of her needs before yours.

What you must do is NIP THIS IN THE BUD. Assert your priority over all previous relationships (as he is your priority over all your other family).

Otherwise you'll be pregnant with your third and in the hospital, and your husband will disappear right when you need him because his mother called him to change a bulb.

I have known too many of my friends struggling with husbands that haven't cut the umbilical cord. Early intervention works best before things spiral out of control.
You explain to your husband that now you are your own nuclear family. His mother's needs come after.





AGREED x 10 !!!
. Agree. Signed, poster whose soon to be sister-in-law tried to come on the honeymoon.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2015 12:05     Subject: Mother in law wants to go with us to the Caribbean
Anonymous wrote:
My dear OP.

Please view this as a serious red flag, the last of all the other clingy red flags.

Even worse if she guilts your husband into taking care of her needs before yours.

What you must do is NIP THIS IN THE BUD. Assert your priority over all previous relationships (as he is your priority over all your other family).

Otherwise you'll be pregnant with your third and in the hospital, and your husband will disappear right when you need him because his mother called him to change a bulb.

I have known too many of my friends struggling with husbands that haven't cut the umbilical cord. Early intervention works best before things spiral out of control.
You explain to your husband that now you are your own nuclear family. His mother's needs come after.





AGREED x 10 !!!
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2015 11:51     Subject: Mother in law wants to go with us to the Caribbean

My dear OP.

Please view this as a serious red flag, the last of all the other clingy red flags.

Even worse if she guilts your husband into taking care of her needs before yours.

What you must do is NIP THIS IN THE BUD. Assert your priority over all previous relationships (as he is your priority over all your other family).

Otherwise you'll be pregnant with your third and in the hospital, and your husband will disappear right when you need him because his mother called him to change a bulb.

I have known too many of my friends struggling with husbands that haven't cut the umbilical cord. Early intervention works best before things spiral out of control.
You explain to your husband that now you are your own nuclear family. His mother's needs come after.


Anonymous
Post 06/24/2015 11:49     Subject: Mother in law wants to go with us to the Caribbean
Anonymous wrote:So you and your husband - you two newlyweds - are going to forgo your honeymoon altogether because you guys can't think of a way to tell his mom "NO" without hurting her feelings.


Classic



I give this marriage a year at the outset if this is how things are going to roll.
Anonymous
Post 06/24/2015 11:47     Subject: Mother in law wants to go with us to the Caribbean
So you and your husband - you two newlyweds - are going to forgo your honeymoon altogether because you guys can't think of a way to tell his mom "NO" without hurting her feelings.


Classic

Anonymous
Post 06/24/2015 11:44     Subject: Mother in law wants to go with us to the Caribbean
You need to find her a boyfriend to travel with