It's funny because on social media, esp. Facebook, I notice certain people who are very attractive in real life may not necessarily be photogenic. They look much better in person to me.

Then there are the unattractive or just ugly people who post pics where they look seemingly attractive or even hot.

It's all how much the camera loves you. Or not.

Jennifer Aniston is pretty in real life, yet she doesn't photograph too well. In motion she looks pretty, but in still photos not so much.

DH is cute and attractive to a certain kind of woman. Looks much better in real life than photographs.

My DH is hot. Hotter than the day we met. He's 39 right now and I feel like he's in his prime. Women act stupid around him so I know I'm not the only one with this opinion.

SO is NOT attractive anymore!
She was very attractive when we met, but that was 50 pounds ago.

Man doesn't need to be attractive because of money

Mine is. She doesn't see it but that is largely because she had some significant people told her otherwise and she hasn't been able to shake it yet. Thing is, I love her and loving the body that is hers comes easily. I actually wind up counting off when other women don't look like her.
It's a feature of love that you cast those you love in a favorable light.

I don't think my DH is handsome. I never have. But he is a wonderful person, and that's what I find attractive.

I think my husband is beautiful.

I dunno OP, married to George Clooney here (literally, he's not that far off) -- I never feel I measure up, and he's got women throwing themselves at him non-stop. Not all that fab-o.

Anonymous wrote:IMO, The best SO is one that you only think is hot and no one else does. It sounds cruel, but at least you don't have to worry as much about losing them to someone else. I think this type of attraction indicates good chemistry, which bodes well for the long-term.

Exactly. Guy here. I have dated women above my league and been disappointed when it ends, but some time afterwards I realize it's for the best. Especially as a guy, you do not want to be with someone above you. It affects your confidence and can instigate insecurity and jealousy. You want to be with someone who feels incredibly lucky to have scored you. That allows you to be free to just be happy and exist in the relationship.

I read a study about how women's hormones affect the way we perceive men. When you're on birth control, it's more consistent and women tend to look for more feminine facial features. For women with a natural hormone cycle, it can very throughout the month.

Well, my initial reaction to him wasn't exactly "wow he's so smart".

Thank God he is, because I've been known to let a killer set of eyes and abs lead me astray before that.

12 years later, he still makes me weak in the knees.

I think my husband is very attractive. He is also getting better with age.

I think my husband is adorable and have since the first moment I saw him. At almost 40, he's trim and boyishly handsome, just my type. But he rarely looks as good in photos as he does in real life. Still, he's more photogenic than I am. I consider myself OK-looking/semi-cute in real life, but I am straight-up ugly in most pictures.

TL;DR, whether or not he looks good in pictures has little to do with how attractive he actually is.

After 25+ years with my husband, I think he's hotter than he's ever been (he's now 52). He's got that whole "guys get better looking as they age" thing going on. He's mostly bald, but he's rocking it, whereas the thinning hair days were questionable. He's got beautiful laugh lines and just the right amount of wrinkles, and he's still got strong arms and a (relatively) slim physique (he doesn't drink, so while he has a bit of a stomach, it's not an unattractive gut). I can't believe how lucky I am!