Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I may be in the minority, but I'm actually a lot more concerned about my kid having rich friends with access to prescription drugs/hard drugs and the like than going to a really diverse school with FARMS and working-class kids. I feel like smart kids with good family support will seek out like peers and avoid situations of violence in most cases, but it could be harder to avoid a culture at a higher SES school where taking ADHD drugs off-label, etc is considered ok.
OP here. Yes, I guess that is something else to think about. I think I was naive to think this was just a problem with expensive privates like Georgetown Prep but I guess many of the schools (BCC, Whitman, Walter Johnson) have very high SES areas with a drug culture.
There were definitely drugs in the school my parents moved to. I wasn't friends with the kids into hard drugs but I did have friends who experimented (I was just too nervous to try and didn't have a problem saying no - after a while, they wouldn't bother asking). Is that definitely more prevalent than a school with a mixed to lower SES?
OP, I think that to one degree or another, drugs (including alcohol) are everywhere. Given that, I would say, Know Your Kid. Is your kid a follower, easily influenced by peers, eager to please his peers? Do you have a close relationship with your teen, do you talk about these things and share your thoughts and concerns?
My 17yo is a junior at Blair, and drugs (including alcohol) are there for sure. Kids drink and get high - both low-achieving and high-achieving kids do this, at Blair and everywhere. Whitman, the highest-performing school in the county, is known for its students being busted at parties.
My son steers clear of this, hangs with kids who aren't into that (or avoids them when they are, I don't know), and has no plans to get into that stuff himself anytime soon. He is super-busy and in a varsity sport (which he loves; he would hate to be booted for an infraction). We talk about the alcoholism in my family and the impact of drugs and alcohol on the developing brain; about what a citation can do to you vis-a-vis college applications; about why people think it's fun to get drunk. My husband and I model responsible alcohol use and never drive after drinking. I am 99% sure he is not into drugs or alcohol.
If he were a different kid, I might be worried.
If you believe that your kid is focused on doing well in school and being active in extracurricular interests, then I think s/he will be fine at any school you choose, including Einstein.