OP, this is the truth. I don't speak to my sister, either. Why? Both my parents are now deceased. When my mother was sick and dying, my sister grieved by throwing shoes at me on the hospital room, hanging up on me when I called my mom's hospital room, and then telling me that no one at the hospital even knew she had a sister because I was apparently never there to help her. She and my brother in law brought a truck to my deceased mother's house, and she cleared out everything! Took it all for herself.

And my cousin is only three weeks older than I. She and I were always close, and we still are.

My cousin speaks to my sister, but my sister and I cannot communicate without hurtful words.

It just is this way. It is not junior high school. It hurts. I tried counseling, and I had to accept the losses.

I totally understand you, OP.

I have a friend in her 50s, who lost a sister to a bike accident, killed by a drunk driver. In their grief, one of the sisters is now not speaking to my friend. The cousins still speak.

Anonymous wrote:I'm not speaking to my sister. My cousin and her are close. I am still close to my cousin but my sister and her have always been closer. That's not an issue.

I was at an event this weekend and my sister was at the next table over. My cousin was at my table and barely spoke to me. When my sister is not at events, my cousin is very talkative. I feel she is scared of talking to me with my sister there.

How would you feel?

Topic: My sister and I

Question: My sister and I do not get along. At all. To the extent that we do not talk to each other, look at each other while in the same room. Ever. While, I know this is not normal, why are our relatives behaving abnormally around us? Why do they tread so carefully on eggshells around us? My sister and I are normal loving family members (aside from the minor quirk that we pretend the other does not exist). Any insight you have would be much appreciated. Thanks in advance!

Some of the most basic drama is cousin drama. Rise above this nonsense and worry about your own life. In fact, my advice would be to plan a trajectory that gets you out of geographical proximity to your family. You're an adult, get on with it.

Maybe if you still want a relationship with your cousin you should initiate conversation. Unless you speak to your cousin, how would she know your disagreement is only with your sister? She could be under the impression you have something against her as well. But I don't recommend talking to her about your sister. Just ask her about her life and what you've been up to lately.

Wow, PP, just wow.

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Anonymous wrote:Goodness, how old are you people? This is stupid.

What part is stupid?

Really? How about the whole I'm-not-talking-to-my-sister-and-my-cousin-likes-her-better-than-me-so-I'm-not-playing-with-her-anymore-so-there! part?

Anonymous wrote:Goodness, how old are you people? This is stupid.

What part is stupid?