Anonymous wrote:I believe disciplinary spanking of children is immoral, so no I don't think kids need spankings and I have never and will never spank.

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OP = no, no, no, no, no! Spanking is hitting. And children should never be hit. It's never, ever OK.

I believe disciplinary spanking of children is immoral, so no I don't think kids need spankings and I have never and will never spank.

There is a fine line between abuse and discipline and since many people have gotten them mixed together, now everyone seems to be against spanking altogether.

As long as the parent's anger is not out of control and they are doing it for the sake of their child, not to lash out their own anger issues, it can be a positive thing.

I was spanked as a child when I did something really bad. I remember it as an effective deterrent to never do that same thing again.

If I wasn't spanked, I think I would have no problem committing the infraction again. Nothing would amount to how much it hurt getting my behind paddled.

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Anonymous wrote:People are going to do what people are going to do. The majority of Americans still believe in spanking. The research is unequivocal that it does not help and often makes problems worse.

Not for my kid. It helped. DS was 8.

NP here. The research is very clear that resorting to physical punishment is wholly worse than parenting effectively without spanking. Apparently your parenting skills could use some work.

and research has also shown that a handful of spankings over the course of child's life does absolutely no harm in the long run, and used judiciously can be effective. The overwhelming research on this issue deals with spanking as a first resort, and often. And most researchers are biased, and the "research" conclusions usually support their bias.

My kids aren't perfect. But I'm pretty sure neither are your's even with your parenting skills. So, if your kids aren't perfect all the time, then what does that say about your parenting skills?

No, there is no creie research saying even occasional slamming can be beneficial. You are correct that there is research saying it is not always harmful. If you spank once or twice out of frustration disguised as being a stern parent, I'm not going to judge you. We all make mistakes at parenting. It's the people who want to convince themselves that it wasn't a mistake and really does help who are making a larger mistake.

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Anonymous wrote:People are going to do what people are going to do. The majority of Americans still believe in spanking. The research is unequivocal that it does not help and often makes problems worse.

Not for my kid. It helped. DS was 8.

NP here. The research is very clear that resorting to physical punishment is wholly worse than parenting effectively without spanking. Apparently your parenting skills could use some work.

and research has also shown that a handful of spankings over the course of child's life does absolutely no harm in the long run, and used judiciously can be effective. The overwhelming research on this issue deals with spanking as a first resort, and often. And most researchers are biased, and the "research" conclusions usually support their bias.

My kids aren't perfect. But I'm pretty sure neither are your's even with your parenting skills. So, if your kids aren't perfect all the time, then what does that say about your parenting skills?

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Anonymous wrote:People are going to do what people are going to do. The majority of Americans still believe in spanking. The research is unequivocal that it does not help and often makes problems worse.

Not for my kid. It helped. DS was 8.

NP here. The research is very clear that resorting to physical punishment is wholly worse than parenting effectively without spanking. Apparently your parenting skills could use some work.

I don't see what's wrong with spanking your child if they need it.

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Anonymous wrote:What lesson, specifically, are you trying to teach your kid?
How do you feel that spanking will teach it?

At this point it's to stop the behavior before expulsion.-op

How old is the child?

I wouldn't spank a child but I love when my husband spanks me. Turns me on!

I've never spanked. Four kids, oldest is 23

Anonymous wrote:People are going to do what people are going to do. The majority of Americans still believe in spanking. The research is unequivocal that it does not help and often makes problems worse.

Not for my kid. It helped. DS was 8.

Anonymous wrote:I was spanked as a kid. I dont remember any lasting lessons from it. I continued being stubborn, which just made my parents angrier. It was ridiculous.

I was spanked, too. Not often, but often enough that I only learned to fear my father. Didn't change my behaviors at all. If anything, made me angrier and more obstinate.

Anonymous wrote:What lesson, specifically, are you trying to teach your kid?
How do you feel that spanking will teach it?

At this point it's to stop the behavior before expulsion.-op

I think a prolonged spanking is unnecessary, I prefer time outs for that, or the loss of something.
DD is almost 3 though and I have smacked her ( once only each time) on the butt over clothing to get her attention back to where its supposed to be and only with a warning.
Example, playing on the stairs going up to bed, laying there and not moving, I dont want to do a timeout because its bedtime and I dont want it prolonged. So if I say she needs to move or I will smack her bottom, she moves.
I dont think you should spank because you are frustrated and its what you want to do right then and there.
I wasnt spanked a lot as a kid, but I was on occasion and I have those memories. I want to avoid DD having memories of me like that.

I was spanked as a kid. I dont remember any lasting lessons from it. I continued being stubborn, which just made my parents angrier. It was ridiculous.