Anonymous
Post 05/25/2015 16:03     Subject: DD and her boyfriend and best friend are studying all day today.
Anonymous wrote:No they aren't. They are doing something they shouldn't be doing and using the studying thing as a cover.


Maybe, or maybe they are studying and taking periodic breaks but not announcing the breaks to mama hovering at the door. My kid is mostly studying today, too. Schools assign a lot of projects at this time of year.

Anonymous
Post 05/25/2015 14:41     Subject: DD and her boyfriend and best friend are studying all day today.
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:They are high school juniors and this has already been an intense spring with SATs, subject SATs and AP exams. Sometimes I just think it is too much pressure on 16 year olds.



So then step in and enforce a break.


Please don't do that, OP. They are old enough to decide when to take a break without Mommy stepping in.

I agree about the ridiculously intense spring semester with all the standardized tests. I took my SATs in the spring and that was it. End of senior year were the AP exams - I don't even remember anyone talking about Subject Tests in the early 80's!


Well, then if parents are going to sit by and do nothing, then why complain? At some point, someone has to step in and say "Enough is enough." Either you're part of the problem or part of the solution.


This precise situation is actually a great example of why the only people who say "either you're part of the problem or part of the solution" are idiots.

Anyhow, I sincerely don't see how this is a problem to begin with. Yes, kids are overstressed. These particular kids are channeling that stress into a productive social event that they seem content with.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2015 14:02     Subject: DD and her boyfriend and best friend are studying all day today.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are they at your house? My parents never noticed or seemed to care about my homework or what I was studying. I loved studying at my friend's house because her mom would bring us snacks, beverages, ask us what we wanted for lunch and dinner then make it and bring it to us. She asked if we needed more school supplies, etc. Ask your daughter what they want to eat and go get it for them, ask if they want you to do a Starbucks run. Please don't go in and tell them they need a break.


I am sure that trophy wives like you don't require a high school diploma


Stop being such a bitch. NP here and I think PP's advice was great! And I am about as far from a trophy wife as anyone can imagine!!
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2015 13:55     Subject: DD and her boyfriend and best friend are studying all day today.
Anonymous wrote:Are they at your house? My parents never noticed or seemed to care about my homework or what I was studying. I loved studying at my friend's house because her mom would bring us snacks, beverages, ask us what we wanted for lunch and dinner then make it and bring it to us. She asked if we needed more school supplies, etc. Ask your daughter what they want to eat and go get it for them, ask if they want you to do a Starbucks run. Please don't go in and tell them they need a break.


I am sure that trophy wives like you don't require a high school diploma
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2015 13:52     Subject: DD and her boyfriend and best friend are studying all day today.
Yes "studying" each other
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2015 13:51     Subject: DD and her boyfriend and best friend are studying all day today.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No they aren't. They are doing something they shouldn't be doing and using the studying thing as a cover.


Project much?


Said someone who doesn't remember being a teenager.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2015 13:47     Subject: DD and her boyfriend and best friend are studying all day today.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No they aren't. They are doing something they shouldn't be doing and using the studying thing as a cover.


This was my fire thought as well. At rubbery least, they won't be completely focused on studying.



Gotta love autocorrect.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2015 13:27     Subject: DD and her boyfriend and best friend are studying all day today.
Anonymous wrote:No they aren't. They are doing something they shouldn't be doing and using the studying thing as a cover.


This was my fire thought as well. At rubbery least, they won't be completely focused on studying.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2015 13:20     Subject: DD and her boyfriend and best friend are studying all day today.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They are high school juniors and this has already been an intense spring with SATs, subject SATs and AP exams. Sometimes I just think it is too much pressure on 16 year olds.



So then step in and enforce a break.


Please don't do that, OP. They are old enough to decide when to take a break without Mommy stepping in.

I agree about the ridiculously intense spring semester with all the standardized tests. I took my SATs in the spring and that was it. End of senior year were the AP exams - I don't even remember anyone talking about Subject Tests in the early 80's!


Well, then if parents are going to sit by and do nothing, then why complain? At some point, someone has to step in and say "Enough is enough." Either you're part of the problem or part of the solution.



OR you have empathy and concern and express both without needing to take action.

They are 16 or 17. They know what they are doing.


Sure, just like these high performing teens knew what they were doing.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/education/family-struggles-to-explain-girls-death-among-3-teen-suicides-in-fairfax-since-sept/2014/11/18/e26bd0e6-6f54-11e4-893f-86bd390a3340_story.html

If you think kids are equipped to handle this pressure, you are sadly fooling yourself.


You don;t know my kids. Please stop. I do not agree with you. Learn to deal with it.


And somehow you know OP's kid??? That's amazing.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2015 13:18     Subject: DD and her boyfriend and best friend are studying all day today.
Are they at your house? My parents never noticed or seemed to care about my homework or what I was studying. I loved studying at my friend's house because her mom would bring us snacks, beverages, ask us what we wanted for lunch and dinner then make it and bring it to us. She asked if we needed more school supplies, etc. Ask your daughter what they want to eat and go get it for them, ask if they want you to do a Starbucks run. Please don't go in and tell them they need a break.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2015 13:13     Subject: DD and her boyfriend and best friend are studying all day today.
Anonymous wrote:No they aren't. They are doing something they shouldn't be doing and using the studying thing as a cover.



OP here. After the spring DD has had, I actually wish that were true (within reason, of course).
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2015 13:13     Subject: DD and her boyfriend and best friend are studying all day today.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They are high school juniors and this has already been an intense spring with SATs, subject SATs and AP exams. Sometimes I just think it is too much pressure on 16 year olds.



So then step in and enforce a break.


Please don't do that, OP. They are old enough to decide when to take a break without Mommy stepping in.

I agree about the ridiculously intense spring semester with all the standardized tests. I took my SATs in the spring and that was it. End of senior year were the AP exams - I don't even remember anyone talking about Subject Tests in the early 80's!


Well, then if parents are going to sit by and do nothing, then why complain? At some point, someone has to step in and say "Enough is enough." Either you're part of the problem or part of the solution.



OR you have empathy and concern and express both without needing to take action.

They are 16 or 17. They know what they are doing.


Know what they are doing? This describes some teenagers but not many. It's well understood that teenagers don't make the best decisions for the long-term.

Many teenagers do not know the signs of burnout. Many 30somethings don't, because nobody ever taught them.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2015 13:11     Subject: DD and her boyfriend and best friend are studying all day today.
Anonymous wrote:No they aren't. They are doing something they shouldn't be doing and using the studying thing as a cover.


Project much?
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2015 13:01     Subject: DD and her boyfriend and best friend are studying all day today.
No they aren't. They are doing something they shouldn't be doing and using the studying thing as a cover.
Anonymous
Post 05/25/2015 13:01     Subject: DD and her boyfriend and best friend are studying all day today.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:They are high school juniors and this has already been an intense spring with SATs, subject SATs and AP exams. Sometimes I just think it is too much pressure on 16 year olds.



So then step in and enforce a break.


Please don't do that, OP. They are old enough to decide when to take a break without Mommy stepping in.

I agree about the ridiculously intense spring semester with all the standardized tests. I took my SATs in the spring and that was it. End of senior year were the AP exams - I don't even remember anyone talking about Subject Tests in the early 80's!


Well, then if parents are going to sit by and do nothing, then why complain? At some point, someone has to step in and say "Enough is enough." Either you're part of the problem or part of the solution.



OR you have empathy and concern and express both without needing to take action.

They are 16 or 17. They know what they are doing.


Sure, just like these high performing teens knew what they were doing.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/education/family-struggles-to-explain-girls-death-among-3-teen-suicides-in-fairfax-since-sept/2014/11/18/e26bd0e6-6f54-11e4-893f-86bd390a3340_story.html

If you think kids are equipped to handle this pressure, you are sadly fooling yourself.


You don;t know my kids. Please stop. I do not agree with you. Learn to deal with it.