Anonymous wrote:OP -- please ignore the rants on here. So, does your child take the bottle or no? At nine months, if she takes the bottle she'll be given a bottle before naptime and then put in the crib. They will let her cry, unfortunately, for however long THEY deem is reasonable. As some on here have said, she will learn there are different rules at daycare and at home.

Our daycare never let the kids cry in their cribs--they weren't even allowed to leave the kids in the cribs when they were awake. They also worked really hard to get the babies to fall asleep--rocking, singing, feeding, swaddling. I used to go nurse my baby on my lunch hour and I would see their efforts to get the babies to nap. My kid didn't nap well in the infant room, but it wasn't for their lack of trying. She was just a really alert, observant baby, and if there was anything going on around her at all, she wanted to see. She's still that way as a toddler, but she does nap better now that the kids all nap at the same time.

The responses here have to be a joke. I'm not sure how OP could "prepare" her daughter for daycare naps. The sanctimommies on here (if they are actually even mothers; I feel bad for their children with how unkind and judgemental they sound) are out of control.

OP - not all daycares allow babies to cry by themselves for more than a minute or two. I think if you talked to your daycare, they will put your mind at ease. Is is possible to be able for her to have a few shorter days at daycare to ease the transition? She will be OK! My daugher wouldn't take a bottle and nursed to sleep and I worried about the same thing. It might be a rough few days, but she will transition. My daughter didn't even cry much like I thought. She knew me and my boobs were elsewhere and just learned another way to soothe with her nanny. It will probably be like most things in life, not as bad as you have imagined in your head. Just call periodically throughout the day. Teachers are used to this with new children.

I also wanted to let you know that my daughter nursed a lot at night even at that age. We still cosleep at age 2. It works for us. If it works for you, don't worry about what anyone else says. It is not hurting your child or you to continue. I'm not sure why others care so much, it is kind of strange to care so much about how a stranger is parenting their child (if there is no abuse occuring).

OP -- please ignore the rants on here. So, does your child take the bottle or no? At nine months, if she takes the bottle she'll be given a bottle before naptime and then put in the crib. They will let her cry, unfortunately, for however long THEY deem is reasonable. As some on here have said, she will learn there are different rules at daycare and at home.

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Anonymous wrote:No one has picked up on the fact that this 9 month old nurses 4 times a night?!?

I did. No bueno OP.

This does seem very strange. My 4 month old has been sleeping through the night for a month. There must be more to this than the parent. Is saying.

I have to agree. Seems like OP does not want to have her kid cry because unfortunately, thats what self soothing is. I would like to know how her and her DH were trying to "train" the baby for naps and sleep. And you really missed the window of when its easiest to train them.

4 times a night....you child is certainly not hungry at 9 months. Thats a bad habit.

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Anonymous wrote:No one has picked up on the fact that this 9 month old nurses 4 times a night?!?

I did. No bueno OP.

This does seem very strange. My 4 month old has been sleeping through the night for a month. There must be more to this than the parent. Is saying.

Oh please. My kid didn't sleep thru the night until six months (and then it was an iffy thing). Every kid did does it differently. Doesn't sound to me like there's anything odd here, other than the endurance of OP to keep that up for this long. Hats off to her.

You guys are being awfully hard on OP. A kid doesn't come with a manual. You have to figure this stuff out and make mistakes along the way. It's not the end of the world if it takes her kid a little longer to sleep thru the night or go to sleep.

To answer the original question: yeah, your kid is going to cry and it's going to be a hard week for everyone. But daycare workers are used to it. New infants in a room (or toddlers) often cry a lot the first week that they're there. It disturbs the other kids and everyone gets frazzled but the daycare workers will get your kid on a schedule. That's just the way it works. Try not to worry about it.

Yup. Yes, every transition is hard on kids. You can bend over backwards to try to make it easier on them, and still you might fail or make it worse. If OP could go back in time perhaps she might have tried a few things, but it is honestly no big deal in the scheme of things that she didn't. You bitches don't have anything better to do than rag on OP for this, seriously?

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Anonymous wrote:I guess you will find out in two days. Yes, she may cry all day - and that is your fault. I simply cannot believe you did not prepare her at all for this.

+1 I took my DD to daycare every day for a few hours to get her acclimated and learned the daycare schedule and practices so we could start them at home. The transition was easy.

Yes, OP, you really screwed up and I cannot believe none of this occurred to you until this morning. You poor baby will probably cry for a few days and not understand what is going on. I am actually angry with you for that.

On the other hand, I did actually try to "train" my DD on the nap practices at home and it just made our last weeks frustrating for her and it's simply nothing like sleeping in a room full of babies so she didn't adjust well. It's a big transition no matter how you ease into it and artificially creating daycare circumstances at home wound up can be more confusing for a baby than just getting used to the transition as it comes. You need to go to therapy if you are "actually angry" that OP's baby MAY HAVE had an easier transition and may have a rough few days as a result.

I get angry when I see any child made to suffer because of stupid parents. Do you really think a nine-month-old baby who has only been nursed to sleep is going to enjoy her first day in a strange place without her mother's breasts or her mother? It is NOT all about you after you have a baby. It should be about the baby.

There are a lot stupider parents than OP, you must be angry all the time! Sucks to be you or your kids.

Are you serious?! If a baby crying all day NEEDLESSLY because the parents were too lazy or stupid to acclimate her doesn't make you angry, I feel very sorry for your poor children.

"I know you are but what am I?" Good comeback!

But in any event, no, I am not "angered" by someone else's kid crying for a few days during a transition that MAY OR MAY NOT have been easier if the parents had done things differently. I try to focus on my own family and stay out of other people's beeswax unless I have something helpful to offer. I admit that despite my best efforts, mothers like you whose example to their kids is to be judgmental busybodies do make me a bit "angry."

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Anonymous wrote:No one has picked up on the fact that this 9 month old nurses 4 times a night?!?

I did. No bueno OP.

This does seem very strange. My 4 month old has been sleeping through the night for a month. There must be more to this than the parent. Is saying.

Oh please. My kid didn't sleep thru the night until six months (and then it was an iffy thing). Every kid did does it differently. Doesn't sound to me like there's anything odd here, other than the endurance of OP to keep that up for this long. Hats off to her.

You guys are being awfully hard on OP. A kid doesn't come with a manual. You have to figure this stuff out and make mistakes along the way. It's not the end of the world if it takes her kid a little longer to sleep thru the night or go to sleep.

To answer the original question: yeah, your kid is going to cry and it's going to be a hard week for everyone. But daycare workers are used to it. New infants in a room (or toddlers) often cry a lot the first week that they're there. It disturbs the other kids and everyone gets frazzled but the daycare workers will get your kid on a schedule. That's just the way it works. Try not to worry about it.

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Anonymous wrote:No one has picked up on the fact that this 9 month old nurses 4 times a night?!?

I did. No bueno OP.

This does seem very strange. My 4 month old has been sleeping through the night for a month. There must be more to this than the parent. Is saying.

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Are you serious?! If a baby crying all day NEEDLESSLY because the parents were too lazy or stupid to acclimate her doesn't make you angry, I feel very sorry for your poor children.

You are psychotic. Why do you think the baby is going to be crying "all day"? Lots of people have said their child acclimated better in day care because it was a totally different setting than at home. And even if she doesn't, it will be a couple of nap times, not "all day."

Abused kids make me angry. Parents who don't vaccinate make me angry. The trials kids go through in the foster care system make me angry.

A mama dropping her baby off at daycare for the first time and being nervous because they couldn't get the home routine to match daycare yet? Not a blip on my radar, other than some compassion for the mom because I know how hard that first day of daycare will be.

There is something about you that makes me uneasy.

Anonymous wrote:No one has picked up on the fact that this 9 month old nurses 4 times a night?!?

I did. No bueno OP.

No one has picked up on the fact that this 9 month old nurses 4 times a night?!?

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Are you serious?! If a baby crying all day NEEDLESSLY because the parents were too lazy or stupid to acclimate her doesn't make you angry, I feel very sorry for your poor children.

You are psychotic. Why do you think the baby is going to be crying "all day"? Lots of people have said their child acclimated better in day care because it was a totally different setting than at home. And even if she doesn't, it will be a couple of nap times, not "all day."

Abused kids make me angry. Parents who don't vaccinate make me angry. The trials kids go through in the foster care system make me angry.

A mama dropping her baby off at daycare for the first time and being nervous because they couldn't get the home routine to match daycare yet? Not a blip on my radar, other than some compassion for the mom because I know how hard that first day of daycare will be.

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Yes, OP, you really screwed up and I cannot believe none of this occurred to you until this morning. You poor baby will probably cry for a few days and not understand what is going on. I am actually angry with you for that.

Where did OP say that it just occurred to her today? She specifically said her husband and she have been trying to get the baby down in a crib and self-soothing/not nursing, but it hasn't gone well. She didn't say how long, but I'd assume at least a few days.

Jeebus. Give her the benefit of the doubt, or at least try for a little reading comprehension.

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Anonymous wrote:I guess you will find out in two days. Yes, she may cry all day - and that is your fault. I simply cannot believe you did not prepare her at all for this.

+1 I took my DD to daycare every day for a few hours to get her acclimated and learned the daycare schedule and practices so we could start them at home. The transition was easy.

Yes, OP, you really screwed up and I cannot believe none of this occurred to you until this morning. You poor baby will probably cry for a few days and not understand what is going on. I am actually angry with you for that.

On the other hand, I did actually try to "train" my DD on the nap practices at home and it just made our last weeks frustrating for her and it's simply nothing like sleeping in a room full of babies so she didn't adjust well. It's a big transition no matter how you ease into it and artificially creating daycare circumstances at home wound up can be more confusing for a baby than just getting used to the transition as it comes. You need to go to therapy if you are "actually angry" that OP's baby MAY HAVE had an easier transition and may have a rough few days as a result.

I get angry when I see any child made to suffer because of stupid parents. Do you really think a nine-month-old baby who has only been nursed to sleep is going to enjoy her first day in a strange place without her mother's breasts or her mother? It is NOT all about you after you have a baby. It should be about the baby.

There are a lot stupider parents than OP, you must be angry all the time! Sucks to be you or your kids.

Are you serious?! If a baby crying all day NEEDLESSLY because the parents were too lazy or stupid to acclimate her doesn't make you angry, I feel very sorry for your poor children.

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Anonymous wrote:I guess you will find out in two days. Yes, she may cry all day - and that is your fault. I simply cannot believe you did not prepare her at all for this.

+1 I took my DD to daycare every day for a few hours to get her acclimated and learned the daycare schedule and practices so we could start them at home. The transition was easy.

Yes, OP, you really screwed up and I cannot believe none of this occurred to you until this morning. You poor baby will probably cry for a few days and not understand what is going on. I am actually angry with you for that.

On the other hand, I did actually try to "train" my DD on the nap practices at home and it just made our last weeks frustrating for her and it's simply nothing like sleeping in a room full of babies so she didn't adjust well. It's a big transition no matter how you ease into it and artificially creating daycare circumstances at home wound up can be more confusing for a baby than just getting used to the transition as it comes. You need to go to therapy if you are "actually angry" that OP's baby MAY HAVE had an easier transition and may have a rough few days as a result.

I get angry when I see any child made to suffer because of stupid parents. Do you really think a nine-month-old baby who has only been nursed to sleep is going to enjoy her first day in a strange place without her mother's breasts or her mother? It is NOT all about you after you have a baby. It should be about the baby.

There are a lot stupider parents than OP, you must be angry all the time! Sucks to be you or your kids.