Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 18:23     Subject: Should I Tell Him Abt My Friend's Violent Past
Anonymous wrote:I think your fiancé deserves to know what kind of person you are OP. At least your "friend" had an incident 10 years ago and has now straightened out her life. I'd rather be marrying her than you, That's for damn sure.


So if this fiance is so impressive a human being, he'll be fine with it.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 18:21     Subject: Should I Tell Him Abt My Friend's Violent Past
She better hope her DH doesn't have a job or family situation that requires extensive background checks on him and his wife. My DH and I have gone through several and we don't work for the government.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 18:21     Subject: Should I Tell Him Abt My Friend's Violent Past
I think your fiancé deserves to know what kind of person you are OP. At least your "friend" had an incident 10 years ago and has now straightened out her life. I'd rather be marrying her than you, That's for damn sure.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 18:19     Subject: Should I Tell Him Abt My Friend's Violent Past
OP you and your friends sound horrible.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 18:18     Subject: Should I Tell Him Abt My Friend's Violent Past
I don't think you should be the one to tell your friend's fiance about the domestic violence incident in her past. She should have told him herself before it got too serious. Something like this could be a relationship-breaker and it's best to know where the person stands. The fact that she refuses to would make me want to distance myself from her. It is a matter of integrity.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 18:14     Subject: Re:Should I Tell Him Abt My Friend's Violent Past
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What exactly was the "assault"? To me, there's a big difference between someone who pushes someone during a fight, and someone who beats another person with a golf club. Not that either is right, but there's a huge difference in the risk she potentially poses to someone.

Either way, though, this was ten years ago and you have no reason to believe she's been violent since, yet you still want her to bring this up to her fiance. I suspect there's more than a little jealousy going on here that she's landed the guy with lots of money, and on some level you want her to get what's coming to her, in your mind, and lose her fiance.


Assault can be verbal or physical. If you swing a golf club at someone, that's assault. If you CONNECT that golf club against someone's skull, that's battery.


Yes, I get what the legal distinction is. But that's not how it's used in common parlance, which is why I asked for clarification.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 17:48     Subject: Should I Tell Him Abt My Friend's Violent Past
PP here who said no...just wanted to ask...do you think she is a danger to her fiancé?
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 17:45     Subject: Should I Tell Him Abt My Friend's Violent Past
What??? No.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 17:45     Subject: Re:Should I Tell Him Abt My Friend's Violent Past
Anonymous wrote:What exactly was the "assault"? To me, there's a big difference between someone who pushes someone during a fight, and someone who beats another person with a golf club. Not that either is right, but there's a huge difference in the risk she potentially poses to someone.

Either way, though, this was ten years ago and you have no reason to believe she's been violent since, yet you still want her to bring this up to her fiance. I suspect there's more than a little jealousy going on here that she's landed the guy with lots of money, and on some level you want her to get what's coming to her, in your mind, and lose her fiance.


Assault can be verbal or physical. If you swing a golf club at someone, that's assault. If you CONNECT that golf club against someone's skull, that's battery.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 17:44     Subject: Should I Tell Him Abt My Friend's Violent Past
You've got good dirt and want to drag her through it. Admit it OP. Your jealousy is showing...
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 17:30     Subject: Re:Should I Tell Him Abt My Friend's Violent Past
What exactly was the "assault"? To me, there's a big difference between someone who pushes someone during a fight, and someone who beats another person with a golf club. Not that either is right, but there's a huge difference in the risk she potentially poses to someone.

Either way, though, this was ten years ago and you have no reason to believe she's been violent since, yet you still want her to bring this up to her fiance. I suspect there's more than a little jealousy going on here that she's landed the guy with lots of money, and on some level you want her to get what's coming to her, in your mind, and lose her fiance.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 17:30     Subject: Should I Tell Him Abt My Friend's Violent Past
Unless you think your friend is a danger to her fiancé, it's not your place to tell. It's up to her to weigh the risks to her relationship if her fiancé finds out she kept this part of her past a secret.

Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 17:29     Subject: Should I Tell Him Abt My Friend's Violent Past
Sounds like you don't want her to be as successful or more successful than you.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 17:26     Subject: Re:Should I Tell Him Abt My Friend's Violent Past
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:WHAT IF HER FIANCÉ WERE YOU OR YOUR SON??


I'd be horrified that her "friend" was trying to start drama at our engagement party, over something that happened a decade ago.


Exactly. Just don't go to the party. You aren't celebrating with them. It would just be wrong.
Anonymous
Post 05/07/2015 17:25     Subject: Re:Should I Tell Him Abt My Friend's Violent Past
Anonymous wrote:WHAT IF HER FIANCÉ WERE YOU OR YOUR SON??


I'd be horrified that her "friend" was trying to start drama at our engagement party, over something that happened a decade ago.