OP, do you often lead guys on?

You sent the wrong signal, he feels rejected and annoyed. He's moving on. Fine for both parties -- he didn't cross your boundaries, and now he knows your boundaries and his are in different places.

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Anonymous wrote:you went over his house, had a nice meal, had foreplay and then put on the brakes? And you wonder why he is being distant and confused? Don't go to his house and THEN tell him you're not interested. It seems that you are the one that sent a really mixed message to this poor guy

PP here. "The poor guy"??? Gimme a g-ing break

you clearly don't understand men

Whoa!

I think people should make it clear that it is a "sex and dinner" date. Else, someone as oblivious as me will come to your house and eat your food and when you start getting naked, I will leave thinking that you are getting ready to sleep.

Anonymous wrote:you went over his house, had a nice meal, had foreplay and then put on the brakes? And you wonder why he is being distant and confused? Don't go to his house and THEN tell him you're not interested. It seems that you are the one that sent a really mixed message to this poor guy

PP here. "The poor guy"??? Gimme a g-ing break

Anonymous wrote:Be an adult. Stop with "I won't have sex on the 2nd date" bs, what are you, in high school? He was right to be cold, who wants to deal with a prude. If you are attracted to him, and he to you, relax and have fun, stop living your life based on what DCUM thinks.

Sheesh.

She was an adult - she wasn't ready to have sex on the second date and didn't go beyond Her comfort level. This is the opposite of high school.

you went over his house, had a nice meal, had foreplay and then put on the brakes? And you wonder why he is being distant and confused? Don't go to his house and THEN tell him you're not interested. It seems that you are the one that sent a really mixed message to this poor guy

It's also a possibility that there was something non-sexual behind the drop in calls. Maybe he is juwt not that into you.

How is he being "cold" and rude in his texts? Are you reading too much into them, perhaps?

You are within your rights not to have sex unless you want to. If he wants to pout about it, move on. Life is too short.

That being said, here is some advice for the future. If you are not interested in having sex, do not go to a man's house and certainly do not engage in physical contact that leads things to, in your words, get heated. In his mind, you blueballed him (i.e., you got him hard with no release). He likely thinks you are playing games. It is not really your fault, but it is best not to put yourself in certain situations.

You are absolutely entitled not to sleep with him on the second date. That being said, it would have been a better idea to do the second date someplace other than his house if you didn't feel ready, and he may have felt led on. Nevertheless, his reaction was childish and inappropriate. Drop him and move on.

Anonymous wrote:Be an adult. Stop with "I won't have sex on the 2nd date" bs, what are you, in high school? He was right to be cold, who wants to deal with a prude. If you are attracted to him, and he to you, relax and have fun, stop living your life based on what DCUM thinks.

Sheesh.

Yuck.

OP is entitled to have sex, or not, on her own schedule. The guy is for you to see other women with whom he can have sex while dating OPD to see if he's interested in pursuing a more serious relationship. Nobody committed him to monogamy without sex. OP sounds wise to me not to rush into it if she's not feeling it yet.

Be an adult. Stop with "I won't have sex on the 2nd date" bs, what are you, in high school? He was right to be cold, who wants to deal with a prude. If you are attracted to him, and he to you, relax and have fun, stop living your life based on what DCUM thinks.

Sheesh.

this is why tinder is so popular. Everyone on it knows they are having sex on the first date.