Anonymous
04/29/2015 22:21
Subject: DH wants kids and I don't.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I didn't want kids. DH did. Before we got engaged, we agreed on one, even though he wanted more like three or four.
After two years of marriage, we got pregnant and had a baby. I was not excited at ALL. I could only envision myself being an even mediocre mother to a son. We got a girl. I was basically devastated and tried to talk DH into finding some woman who had a boy but wanted a girl, and then negotiate a switch. He insisted we try out our daughter. She's now three. I love her, and the second one who came after her.
I still can't stand other people's kids. I probably don't get as excited about my kids milestones as other people do. I hate kid toys and kid-centric things like Disney or whatever else.
If you don't want kids, don't have them. It's not fair to the child.
You are a very sick human.
At least she is honest... but if you are honest on DCUM you need "therapy"
You kind of do if you tried to trade your baby for a different sex.
Anonymous
04/29/2015 22:19
Subject: DH wants kids and I don't.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I didn't want kids. DH did. Before we got engaged, we agreed on one, even though he wanted more like three or four.
After two years of marriage, we got pregnant and had a baby. I was not excited at ALL. I could only envision myself being an even mediocre mother to a son. We got a girl. I was basically devastated and tried to talk DH into finding some woman who had a boy but wanted a girl, and then negotiate a switch. He insisted we try out our daughter. She's now three. I love her, and the second one who came after her.
I still can't stand other people's kids. I probably don't get as excited about my kids milestones as other people do. I hate kid toys and kid-centric things like Disney or whatever else.
If you don't want kids, don't have them. It's not fair to the child.
You are a very sick human.
At least she is honest... but if you are honest on DCUM you need "therapy"
Anonymous
04/29/2015 22:18
Subject: DH wants kids and I don't.
Anonymous wrote:He'll probably file for divorce anyways, and find someone who wants to have children with him.
+1 happens a lot once a 'childfree' couple gets to a certain age. ie she can't and now he's grown up enough to want
Anonymous
04/29/2015 22:14
Subject: DH wants kids and I don't.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I didn't want kids. DH did. Before we got engaged, we agreed on one, even though he wanted more like three or four.
After two years of marriage, we got pregnant and had a baby. I was not excited at ALL. I could only envision myself being an even mediocre mother to a son. We got a girl. I was basically devastated and tried to talk DH into finding some woman who had a boy but wanted a girl, and then negotiate a switch. He insisted we try out our daughter. She's now three. I love her, and the second one who came after her.
I still can't stand other people's kids. I probably don't get as excited about my kids milestones as other people do. I hate kid toys and kid-centric things like Disney or whatever else.
If you don't want kids, don't have them. It's not fair to the child.
You are a very sick human.
Agreed. Wow. Has to be a joke.
Anonymous
04/29/2015 22:07
Subject: DH wants kids and I don't.
I could be the 18:22 poster except that I have two!! I f you are not 200% into having kids then just don't. You could end up miserable like we are (me and 18:22).
Anonymous
04/29/2015 19:39
Subject: DH wants kids and I don't.
Anonymous wrote:I didn't want kids. DH did. Before we got engaged, we agreed on one, even though he wanted more like three or four.
After two years of marriage, we got pregnant and had a baby. I was not excited at ALL. I could only envision myself being an even mediocre mother to a son. We got a girl. I was basically devastated and tried to talk DH into finding some woman who had a boy but wanted a girl, and then negotiate a switch. He insisted we try out our daughter. She's now three. I love her, and the second one who came after her.
I still can't stand other people's kids. I probably don't get as excited about my kids milestones as other people do. I hate kid toys and kid-centric things like Disney or whatever else.
If you don't want kids, don't have them. It's not fair to the child.
You are a very sick human.
Anonymous
04/29/2015 19:35
Subject: Re:DH wants kids and I don't.
Unfortunately, this is a deal breaker. Kids are a lot of work and you will resent the child. Find someone else who is also childfree.
Anonymous
04/29/2015 19:12
Subject: DH wants kids and I don't.
He'll probably file for divorce anyways, and find someone who wants to have children with him.
Anonymous
04/29/2015 19:10
Subject: Re:DH wants kids and I don't.
Anonymous wrote:Yes. Get a divorce. This is a Hugh deal breaker. My ex did not want kids. I decided I did. He still said no. Bye! Married wonderful guy and have two beautiful children. Other than this big issue we were great but the thought of hating him when I got too old to have them was overwhelming. This isn't buying a house or getting a puppy! You two are not compatible. Sorry. Let him go find the right person that will have a family with him. Do not be selfish. You sound like a narssisis. And I feel very sorry for your child. The good news is... You could be 100 percent childless when you divorce. Give totally custody to your spouse. Start fresh by yourself and let them lead a normal life without you
Can you not read? She hasn't had a kid yet.
Anonymous
04/29/2015 19:08
Subject: DH wants kids and I don't.
I would split up. Having kids is a MAJOR dealbreaker. Do NOT have kids to please a partner, even one. It's not fair to the child, it's not fair to you, and there will be a crapload of resentment that will be toxic for everyone.
Anonymous
04/29/2015 19:03
Subject: Re:DH wants kids and I don't.
Yes. Get a divorce. This is a Hugh deal breaker. My ex did not want kids. I decided I did. He still said no. Bye! Married wonderful guy and have two beautiful children. Other than this big issue we were great but the thought of hating him when I got too old to have them was overwhelming. This isn't buying a house or getting a puppy! You two are not compatible. Sorry. Let him go find the right person that will have a family with him. Do not be selfish. You sound like a narssisis. And I feel very sorry for your child. The good news is... You could be 100 percent childless when you divorce. Give totally custody to your spouse. Start fresh by yourself and let them lead a normal life without you
Anonymous
04/29/2015 18:58
Subject: DH wants kids and I don't.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We used to be on the same page about this and now we aren't. Should I do it anyway?
Well, why aren't you still on that page together?
Because life happens.
If that's your answer then no one should post anything further...I won't.
Anonymous
04/29/2015 18:54
Subject: DH wants kids and I don't.
Anonymous wrote:
You'll have regrets in life no matter what you do.
This has been one of the most helpful concepts to me as I've learned to accept my child-free desires.
Anonymous
04/29/2015 18:53
Subject: DH wants kids and I don't.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What kind of woman doesn't want children
The OP. Get out and live a little.
I agree here but with women sometimes the biological clock hits and they regret their childfree status.
You'll have regrets in life no matter what you do.
Anonymous
04/29/2015 18:51
Subject: DH wants kids and I don't.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What kind of woman doesn't want children
The OP. Get out and live a little.
I agree here but with women sometimes the biological clock hits and they regret their childfree status.