Anonymous
Post 07/03/2015 21:29     Subject: 18 yr old DD and her 20 yr old boyfriend - trip
I would say no. When she is in college she can choose
Now you are choosing and I would say no

I'm no prude and was drinking and having sex by 18 but I think I would not allow overnight away couple trips until actually in college.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2015 15:29     Subject: 18 yr old DD and her 20 yr old boyfriend - trip
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just say no. Otherwise you're nuts.


This.
Who sends their daughter off to a drinking party?


She's going to college soon- how is that really any different?

Excellent question.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2015 15:06     Subject: 18 yr old DD and her 20 yr old boyfriend - trip
Anonymous wrote:The thing is when you're in college, you can leave a party and go home back to your dorm. She won't have that option here. I would lean toward saying no.





+100000000
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2015 21:52     Subject: 18 yr old DD and her 20 yr old boyfriend - trip
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just say no. Otherwise you're nuts.


This.
Who sends their daughter off to a drinking party?


She's going to college soon- how is that really any different?


But she's not. Nothing good can come of this and a lot of bad things can. I echo PPs with the talk about focusing on long time friends that will all be scattering soon. So true.


This is an old thread. She was a HS senior in April. She just graduated. Assuming college is in her plans, she'll be on campus in September. I agree that the focus should be on HS friends but let's be real- the bubble wrap is coming off in less than 60 days.


21.48 here. I just saw the dates too...
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2015 21:48     Subject: 18 yr old DD and her 20 yr old boyfriend - trip
Anonymous wrote:DD (18) is my oldest. I have no problem with her dating a guy 2 years older. She is a HS senior, he is a college sophomore (local). He visits friends occasionally in other areas/at other colleges. He wants her to go on one of these trips with him. It would be an overnight trip. I know he drinks when he visits friends. The reason I do not want her going is due to the drinking. I am afraid she will get in to legal problems while she away (party gets busted, etc - anything can happen at a party with underage drinking). I am concerned about safety - something happening to her as a result of her drinking. I do not approve of underage drinking, but I am a realist and I know what happens at college parties. She knows about never taking a drink from something that has left her hand/she did not open. We have all the bases covered as far as sex and protecting herself. I just think this trip has the potential for so many problems. But she will be in college in 4 months, and after reading the "mixer" thread, I am not sure if I am being properly cautious, or some kind of overboard nut case. ANY input here??


I would write her a letter and leave it on her dresser, then make yourself scarce while she reads and thinks about it. State exactly what you did here. You trust her, you love her, but you are worried that something might happen. Let her come to you or not, either way you won't have an argument, and she won't feel like you are being overbearing.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2015 16:49     Subject: 18 yr old DD and her 20 yr old boyfriend - trip
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just say no. Otherwise you're nuts.


This.
Who sends their daughter off to a drinking party?


She's going to college soon- how is that really any different?


But she's not. Nothing good can come of this and a lot of bad things can. I echo PPs with the talk about focusing on long time friends that will all be scattering soon. So true.


This is an old thread. She was a HS senior in April. She just graduated. Assuming college is in her plans, she'll be on campus in September. I agree that the focus should be on HS friends but let's be real- the bubble wrap is coming off in less than 60 days.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2015 16:35     Subject: 18 yr old DD and her 20 yr old boyfriend - trip
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just say no. Otherwise you're nuts.


This.
Who sends their daughter off to a drinking party?


She's going to college soon- how is that really any different?


But she's not. Nothing good can come of this and a lot of bad things can. I echo PPs with the talk about focusing on long time friends that will all be scattering soon. So true.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2015 16:14     Subject: 18 yr old DD and her 20 yr old boyfriend - trip
Even if you disapprove, the choice on whether to go is up to her. This is probably a good introduction to what will be all around her in just a few months. She will have time to think about the "what if" in that time. It takes away the taboo and curiosity. She's not going to mature that much in a couple of months. This is an ideal introduction, IMO.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2015 14:44     Subject: 18 yr old DD and her 20 yr old boyfriend - trip
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just say no. Otherwise you're nuts.


This.
Who sends their daughter off to a drinking party?


She's going to college soon- how is that really any different?
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2015 13:42     Subject: 18 yr old DD and her 20 yr old boyfriend - trip
Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP above. "You have four months left at home. Focus on your longtime friends who'll all be scattering come late August. If in September when you're away at college, you still want to go on a trip with this boy, then go and be safe."


I'd probably take this approach.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2015 13:12     Subject: 18 yr old DD and her 20 yr old boyfriend - trip
Anonymous wrote:Just say no. Otherwise you're nuts.


This.
Who sends their daughter off to a drinking party?
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2015 11:06     Subject: 18 yr old DD and her 20 yr old boyfriend - trip
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't let her go. But personally I wouldn let Her go to college either. Yes she can attend higher education but only under my roof. Curfew 9 pm no driving after dark



Seriously? Wow are you in for trouble.


gotta be a Troll. That's a recipe for a 30 year old living in the basement.
Anonymous
Post 07/02/2015 06:56     Subject: 18 yr old DD and her 20 yr old boyfriend - trip
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't let her go. But personally I wouldn let Her go to college either. Yes she can attend higher education but only under my roof. Curfew 9 pm no driving after dark



Seriously? Wow are you in for trouble.
Anonymous
Post 07/01/2015 18:47     Subject: 18 yr old DD and her 20 yr old boyfriend - trip
Anonymous wrote:Do you trust her not to drink?

Do you trust her to never, ever, under any circumstance, get in a car who's driven by someone who has had alcohol?

If the answers to both questions is yes, then I'd let her go.
Anonymous
Post 04/22/2015 13:47     Subject: Re:18 yr old DD and her 20 yr old boyfriend - trip
Are they getting at hotel, or crashing at a friends? Drunk girls sleeping in a house with multiple drunk guys she does not really know is not a good plan.