Anonymous wrote:I'm curious about this. If you're happily married, what made you choose your wife? If you're divorced, what are you looking for from women now?

First wife was a great friend. End of story. Second wife is a great friend, great lover. End of story.

Many guys are guilted/shamed into believing sexual desires should be pushed aside for "love and family."

Thus, guys get stuck with fat, frumpy, nasty, controlling women who don't want to fuck or suck, but expect the husband to dote on their fat asses.

Ok. So My example is a bit extreme, but you get the idea. So, for wife number two, she has to be pleasant, pleasant to look at, and in bed, she has to WANT to do the things I like... Enthusiastically.

Usually, wife 1 and wife 2 are polar opposites. LOL.

DW#1 was emotionally a child. DW#2 is emotionally and intellectually my equal.

Thank god I escaped #1 clean (no kids, no alimony). The property settlement was a small price to pay.

A woman that would be try-sexual... She'll try anything sexual.

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Anonymous wrote:Why did you marry your 1st wife? Did you see red flags and ignore them or did things change over time? If they changed over time, how do you know that won't happen with 2nd wife?

As a young man, I had no concept of how my wife's body image issues would negatively affect our marriage. Finding a woman who masturbates frequently and isn't ashamed of it would go a long way toward dodging that particular bullet.

That would be me. Too bad I'm married.

Someone with an independent identity and no desire to be joined at the hip 24/7. I found her too. This marriage has been so much better and so much easier, from day 1.

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Anonymous wrote:I really like my first wife, but if I was looking for a second wife, I would want someone with a lot of wealth, a high income and a job that has her traveling a lot.

What do you consider to be a high income?

A net worth of $1 million and $100k+ income would be enough.

Anonymous wrote:I really like my first wife, but if I was looking for a second wife, I would want someone with a lot of wealth, a high income and a job that has her traveling a lot.

What do you consider to be a high income?

I really like my first wife, but if I was looking for a second wife, I would want someone with a lot of wealth, a high income and a job that has her traveling a lot.

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Anonymous wrote:Why did you marry your 1st wife? Did you see red flags and ignore them or did things change over time? If they changed over time, how do you know that won't happen with 2nd wife?

As a young man, I had no concept of how my wife's body image issues would negatively affect our marriage. Finding a woman who masturbates frequently and isn't ashamed of it would go a long way toward dodging that particular bullet.

Yes, I think this is the secret to finding a woman who actually likes sex, as opposed to one who's only doing it because she has to in order to get married. I've masturbated since I was very young and now as an older woman I'm highly sexual. I've never had body image issues. I know I'm not perfect, but that's okay. No one is, right?

Anonymous wrote:Why did you marry your 1st wife? Did you see red flags and ignore them or did things change over time? If they changed over time, how do you know that won't happen with 2nd wife?

like PP@5:24, I ignored some of the red flags that my 1st wife and I weren't a great match. While I'm not re-married, yet, what I was looking for (and have found in my GF), is a woman who is emotionally strong a great mom (to her kids and my own), has a high sexual drive and is comfortable being open sexually, is highly affectionate and passionate and is a beautifully, nurturing, alluring, sensual and sexy lady. Of course, we have similar interests, we share the same outlook on so many important aspects of life (kids, work-life balance, etc) and it helps we can't keep our hands off each other.

~dd

Anonymous wrote:Why did you marry your 1st wife? Did you see red flags and ignore them or did things change over time? If they changed over time, how do you know that won't happen with 2nd wife?

As a young man, I had no concept of how my wife's body image issues would negatively affect our marriage. Finding a woman who masturbates frequently and isn't ashamed of it would go a long way toward dodging that particular bullet.

Anonymous wrote:Why did you marry your 1st wife? Did you see red flags and ignore them or did things change over time? If they changed over time, how do you know that won't happen with 2nd wife?

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I ignored the signs that my first wife was not a good match for me ( not that interested in sex, irresponsible with money, not nice to me). We divorced after 9 years and 2 kids. I remarried after being single foe 2 years and I have a terrific wife and marriage for 15 years. Great and often sex, we have financial stability and we have a enriching social life. We are good friends as well. I feel blessed.

Why did you marry your 1st wife? Did you see red flags and ignore them or did things change over time? If they changed over time, how do you know that won't happen with 2nd wife?

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Could sex be the driving force behind a good relationship? Imagine you've just had an orgasm and you're lying next to her in bed. What do you want her to be like now?

What would I want her to be like?

Depends on the mood...could be simply quiet and connected...could be her wanting more sex.

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