Anonymous
Post 04/13/2015 23:12     Subject: my boyfriend got laid off and may lose his work visa .
Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry but coming here on a work visa was never a guarantee of permanent permission to live here.
I don't understand the people to choose to come here on a visa and then make such a fuss about having to leave when they are laid off. Yeah - being laid off sucks but he should have clearly known and weighed the consequences before he chose to move her.



you are an ass. if you don't have anything positive to say then shut up!
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2015 23:08     Subject: my boyfriend got laid off and may lose his work visa .
Anonymous wrote:I was waiting to see someone bring up the age difference, and why did the OP move in with him so fast? That's anothe red flag.



We waited 6 months. My lease was up and I thought why the hell not. Things were going well enough to consider moving in. I spent full weeks at his house with no breaks to test the waters before the 6 months.We became hopelessly attached to each other from the get-go . He had an interview today for a different position at his same company. I'm hoping it works out!
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2015 23:07     Subject: Re:my boyfriend got laid off and may lose his work visa .
If the OP loves her boyfriend and decides to marry him she can marry him anytime and apply for his green card regardless of how long they have been dating. The only thing the OP has to prove though is that she can support him, there is a minimum income requirement. Its pretty low, like below twenty thousand or around there, not sure. If she is a student she may not be able to prove that. Usually the international spouse if he or she has a good job can also use it as a minimum income requirement, however her bf just lost his job.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2015 23:03     Subject: my boyfriend got laid off and may lose his work visa .
The only other option besides him getting a sponsor would be to marry him.

Would you be willing to do so or be his sponsor? I am not sure, but I think individuals can be sponsors as well.

However if that is the case, I would want to make 100% positive that this guy is a keeper.

At ten months of dating, this may not even be possible yet.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2015 22:54     Subject: my boyfriend got laid off and may lose his work visa .
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm suspicious of a 31 yr old here on a work permit dating a 22 yr old. That's a huge age difference. Red flag.


Ditto. OP, would you marry him if herasked?


Op here: yes, he got a late start as he came here for grad school at 27. He's been working for a well known company for the last 6 years. I'm his second girlfriend. He's from a very conservative background so he doesn't have a lot of dating experience. I think it's really cute. I also had one boyfriend before him. I'm not worried about the age difference at all.

Anonymous
Post 04/13/2015 22:45     Subject: my boyfriend got laid off and may lose his work visa .

OP,

My husband was laid off during the recession and lost his visa (and mine as well, since I have a spouse visa and am not permitted to work). This meant we had to uproot the children from their schools, leave our house, and return to our home country.

After many agonizing months, he was finally hired by a firm in the area, and we came back to our neighborhood and our children's schools.

We're working on our green card, but our visa situation is an extremely complicated one, so it's taking time.

Good luck to your boyfriend. Remind him to work out every day and connect with all of his network. Somebody somewhere has the job for him!
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2015 22:36     Subject: my boyfriend got laid off and may lose his work visa .
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Where is he from?

Do not marry him so he can stay in the country. A friend of mine did this at 23 and she wound up being stuck in an unhappy marriage for fifteen years.


Why did she stay with him? My sister was in a similar position as the OP. She married her boyfriend as an arrangement. They broke up after a year or so, but stayed legally married until he got his citizenship. They remain good friends and he is now getting married for real.

Just because you "marry" someone so they can stay doesn't mean you have to stay married to your boyfriend forever.


It's also against the law, moron.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2015 21:48     Subject: my boyfriend got laid off and may lose his work visa .
I was waiting to see someone bring up the age difference, and why did the OP move in with him so fast? That's anothe red flag.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2015 21:38     Subject: my boyfriend got laid off and may lose his work visa .
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Where is he from?

Do not marry him so he can stay in the country. A friend of mine did this at 23 and she wound up being stuck in an unhappy marriage for fifteen years.


Why did she stay with him? My sister was in a similar position as the OP. She married her boyfriend as an arrangement. They broke up after a year or so, but stayed legally married until he got his citizenship. They remain good friends and he is now getting married for real.

Just because you "marry" someone so they can stay doesn't mean you have to stay married to your boyfriend forever.


Um.. because some people take marriage very seriously and don't want to have multiple marriages, even ones of convenience?


Sounds like that's exactly what your friend did though. A marriage of convenience that stupidly lasted 15 years. What a way to squander your life.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2015 21:23     Subject: my boyfriend got laid off and may lose his work visa .
OP, there are more ways to stay here than an H-1. Tell him to also look into G-4 or A-2. The first is issued for employees of international organizations, and the second for the employees of foreign missions. None of these are time-bound. I used to have an H-1B, and I like A-2s and G-4s much better. In fact, I let my greencard application lapse because I like my G-4 so much, I prefer it to a green card.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2015 21:09     Subject: my boyfriend got laid off and may lose his work visa .
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Where is he from?

Do not marry him so he can stay in the country. A friend of mine did this at 23 and she wound up being stuck in an unhappy marriage for fifteen years.


Why did she stay with him? My sister was in a similar position as the OP. She married her boyfriend as an arrangement. They broke up after a year or so, but stayed legally married until he got his citizenship. They remain good friends and he is now getting married for real.

Just because you "marry" someone so they can stay doesn't mean you have to stay married to your boyfriend forever.


Um.. because some people take marriage very seriously and don't want to have multiple marriages, even ones of convenience?
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2015 21:01     Subject: my boyfriend got laid off and may lose his work visa .
Anonymous wrote:Where is he from?

Do not marry him so he can stay in the country. A friend of mine did this at 23 and she wound up being stuck in an unhappy marriage for fifteen years.


Why did she stay with him? My sister was in a similar position as the OP. She married her boyfriend as an arrangement. They broke up after a year or so, but stayed legally married until he got his citizenship. They remain good friends and he is now getting married for real.

Just because you "marry" someone so they can stay doesn't mean you have to stay married to your boyfriend forever.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2015 20:45     Subject: my boyfriend got laid off and may lose his work visa .
Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry but coming here on a work visa was never a guarantee of permanent permission to live here.
I don't understand the people to choose to come here on a visa and then make such a fuss about having to leave when they are laid off. Yeah - being laid off sucks but he should have clearly known and weighed the consequences before he chose to move her.

Consequences? It's not like he committed a crime. There's nothing wrong with coming to this country for a good job and hoping you get to stay.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2015 20:32     Subject: my boyfriend got laid off and may lose his work visa .
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Where is he from?

Do not marry him so he can stay in the country. A friend of mine did this at 23 and she wound up being stuck in an unhappy marriage for fifteen years.


OP here: I am not getting married anytime soon as I am only 22. My relationship does shows all the signs of a healthy relationship–communication, we like spending time with the each other, interaction with our family and friends, and so on. We have also been living together for a few months now. Visas are complicated and an overall headache. My boyfriend will have to consult with an attorney to get this all sorted out. It just sounds like he's in danger of losing his H1 visa and it will be almost impossible to get it reapproved by Sept unless he finds a job within his company. It's not about for advice about marriage- it's more about finding a way that he can stay in the US.



If he is being laid off from the company and he is on an H1, the company must report it to USCIS and provide him with reasonable expenses to return home. It sounds like he is being provided advance notice of the layoff. When is his last day? He may be able to get another company to pick him up if say he has another 30 days before he's terminated.
Anonymous
Post 04/13/2015 20:17     Subject: my boyfriend got laid off and may lose his work visa .
Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry but coming here on a work visa was never a guarantee of permanent permission to live here.
I don't understand the people to choose to come here on a visa and then make such a fuss about having to leave when they are laid off. Yeah - being laid off sucks but he should have clearly known and weighed the consequences before he chose to move her.


Sure, but there's nothing wrong with wanting to invest in a life here, especially if the company says they will sponsor him. I know a lot of people who got greencards that way. I think the disappointment is pretty understandable.