Anonymous
04/10/2015 14:21
Subject: How do I ask my dad to go home?
Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, Dad. It's time for you to head home. While it has been great seeing you, I look forward to seeing you at XXXXX holiday. DH will help you with your bags. Hug.
That is so rude hahahaha.
Anonymous
04/10/2015 14:08
Subject: How do I ask my dad to go home?
Sounds like he used the coming-too-early-to-see-the-un-blossomed-trees as an excuse to test you and see how long he can extend his visit, in hopes that he will be able to extend it permanently. If it's been 4-5 days already, then tell him to leave. Say it however you like, but get him out. Sounds like he is exhibiting passive-aggressive behavior. Just be aggressive, straightforward, and do not play into his games.
The other thing I see on the surface, without having any detail, is that your dad was mean to you--do you mean abusive? Even if it was just you having to endure his general bad attitude, it is extending now and you aren't standing up for yourself (neither is DH?).
Get dad out.
And next time ANYONE wants to visit you, get firm dates of when they will arrive and leave, and hold them to it.
The other thing I see on the surface, without having any detail, is that your dad was mean to you--do you mean abusive? Even if it was just you having to endure his general bad attitude, it is extending now and you aren't standing up for yourself (neither is DH?).
Get dad out.
And next time ANYONE wants to visit you, get firm dates of when they will arrive and leave, and hold them to it.
Anonymous
04/08/2015 12:28
Subject: How do I ask my dad to go home?
OP, glad you were able to work it out. I feel your pain!
Anonymous
04/08/2015 12:27
Subject: How do I ask my dad to go home?
Anonymous wrote:Think about you will feel one day when your toddler treats you the way you are treating your father.
Conversely, this PP should think about the way they treat their toddler or child today, it may be the way you are treated in the future. I am pondering this idea for my own parents: should I just tell them to be quiet and go play by themselves in old age? Or add some extra criticism in there too?
I hope the OP is able to have a talk with her father and let him know he just can't live there. Best of luck to you OP.
Anonymous
04/07/2015 21:24
Subject: How do I ask my dad to go home?
OP here, I didn't post before.
He said he's leaving tomorrow. I'm relieved. I don't really enjoy his visits. Honestly, I'm sort of emotionally numb when it comes to my parents. I can sometimes get angry/annoyed, but after so many years of verbal nastiness & irresponsible behavior I just don't feel much. Yeah, we didn't bond when I was younger, and sometimes he's embarrassing as in really nasty to a worker at McDonalds or someone like that.
He said he's leaving tomorrow. I'm relieved. I don't really enjoy his visits. Honestly, I'm sort of emotionally numb when it comes to my parents. I can sometimes get angry/annoyed, but after so many years of verbal nastiness & irresponsible behavior I just don't feel much. Yeah, we didn't bond when I was younger, and sometimes he's embarrassing as in really nasty to a worker at McDonalds or someone like that.