Anonymous wrote:no. I am not a pretend ho nor do I disrespect my husband.

Eh, you must be ugly. I love to flirt. I know dh does too. I've seen him do it. It doesn't bother either one of us. We are secure in our relationship.

Of course. DH does too. Flirting is not some sort of predatory action you take as a first step to cheating on your spouse - it is a way to interact with human beings, make you and them feel good, have some fun... I have a few coworkers/close friends I will flirtingly joke around with, within our group of couple friends all of us will make flirtatious jokes when we're tipsy... no big deal.

I have a feeling that all of those who are crying "no! never!" have dull sex lives and are gripped by constant insecurity. Loosen up a bit and have some fun!

I think ALL people should flirt.

As long as they know when and where to draw the line.

Flirting while being married can be fun, it gives diversion and also makes the other person (flirtee) feel good about themselves which makes them a more happier spouse and I am sure some of that also helps in the bedroom.

Anonymous wrote:Of course. I'm not dead yet

Word up.

Sure, I flirt. Not usually with random strangers in a bar, but with casual acquaintances who know I'm married- no harm done, it's just a way to inject a little fun and flattery into the day.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are married or in a serious relationship, do you ever flirt with other men or women? Why? Why not?

I am married and I sometimes casually flirt with guys at the bar but its all fun and games. I don't actively initiate it, but if they come up to me and start talking i chat back and if they get any further ideas, I mention that I'm married.

I am pretty level headed about it and think its only in good fun.

Does anyone else?

So if you have to say you are married, they don't see the wedding ring. Or do you take it off when you are out with the girls?

NP, guys don't always look for rings the way women do. And it's often not a deterrent anyway.

I flirt, he flirts. No harm is done.

Anonymous wrote:If you are married or in a serious relationship, do you ever flirt with other men or women? Why? Why not?

I am married and I sometimes casually flirt with guys at the bar but its all fun and games. I don't actively initiate it, but if they come up to me and start talking i chat back and if they get any further ideas, I mention that I'm married.

I am pretty level headed about it and think its only in good fun.

Does anyone else?

So if you have to say you are married, they don't see the wedding ring. Or do you take it off when you are out with the girls?

I flirt with my gay workout buddy sometimes.

Fuck no. What's wrong with you people? You can be friendly and talk about all kinds of stuff with people without it being the least bit flirtatious. Inviting that kind of interaction or not shutting it down when it's directed your way is self-centered indulgence.

I don't initiate and I don't flirt back. I just don't have the desire to whatsoever and I also believe not flirting with others means being loyal to your spouse. I know if I felt the desire to flirt it would mean there was something missing in our marriage.

Anonymous wrote:I don't flirt per se, but I will have conversations with other men even when it's clear that they are trying to flirt with me. I don't hide the fact that I'm married and will mention it in the normal course of a conversation, but I also don't immediately shut them down unless the guy is creepy or drunk or really coming on strong. It's innocent and can be flattering, so I don't see any harm. Conversely, I wouldn't care if DH chatted up women who were trying to flirt with him, because I know he would never take it further.

Reality is that in the vast majority of cases he might not go further. But, there is always that other person that crosses your path and the attraction is beyond understanding. If you are given to the practice of flirtation, you meet a person like that and for whatever reason you are more susceptible at that time, well, it is dangerous territory.

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Anonymous wrote:I get flirted with a lot. And I don't do anything to attract attn. I swear. Anyone like me?

I'm a big flirt. It's fun and it does not get any further than that. It's the art of conversation and taking an interest (not romantic) in other people. Nowadays people seem to think any civil, friendly conversation between people of the opposite sex is flirting. Too bad.

Ok...flirting and engaging in "civil, friendly conversation" is NOT the same thing.

Anonymous wrote:I get flirted with a lot. And I don't do anything to attract attn. I swear. Anyone like me?

I'm a big flirt. It's fun and it does not get any further than that. It's the art of conversation and taking an interest (not romantic) in other people. Nowadays people seem to think any civil, friendly conversation between people of the opposite sex is flirting. Too bad.

Anonymous wrote:I get flirted with a lot. And I don't do anything to attract attn. I swear. Anyone like me?

Yes, this has always been the way it is for me too. I shut things down before it goes too far, but I don't preemptively shut down every conversation a man starts with me.