Anonymous
Post 04/08/2015 09:37     Subject: Entitled adults
Anonymous wrote:If the grandparents can afford it and the parents are ok taking from them and the "strings" that are attached (even if it's just the "minor" string of not being independent from their own parents) -- why should anyone else care?

And no -- I don't have this arrangement myself; nor will I ever have it bc my parents don't have that kind of wealth to share.

I imagine the grandparents that are doing this are themselves wealthy and have the savings/investments etc. to be able to pay for their grandkids' private school or college or whatever. It's not like they're working themselves to the bone at Walmart at age 80 to make sure their grandkids are at the right private school.

I just don't see why this concerns anyone -- besides raising some jealousy issues re how other families have it easy financially.


I don't care per se, but I can form opinions about those types of adults.
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2015 03:37     Subject: Entitled adults
My parents have money. They like paying for vacations. I would never expect it though, but they offer because they want to....
Anonymous
Post 04/08/2015 03:14     Subject: Entitled adults
If the grandparents can afford it and the parents are ok taking from them and the "strings" that are attached (even if it's just the "minor" string of not being independent from their own parents) -- why should anyone else care?

And no -- I don't have this arrangement myself; nor will I ever have it bc my parents don't have that kind of wealth to share.

I imagine the grandparents that are doing this are themselves wealthy and have the savings/investments etc. to be able to pay for their grandkids' private school or college or whatever. It's not like they're working themselves to the bone at Walmart at age 80 to make sure their grandkids are at the right private school.

I just don't see why this concerns anyone -- besides raising some jealousy issues re how other families have it easy financially.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2015 22:20     Subject: Entitled adults
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op, where do you meet these people or how do you know them? I don't know any.[/


Not OP here, but I met people like this when they bought the house next door to me a few years ago.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2015 19:34     Subject: Entitled adults
Anonymous wrote:Op, where do you meet these people or how do you know them? I don't know any.


People don't always announce it. It comes out in small little pieces.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2015 08:24     Subject: Entitled adults
Anonymous wrote:Op, where do you meet these people or how do you know them? I don't know any.[/

I'm new to the private school world, not everyone is like this, but it definitely exists. I know for a fact that grandparents pay for tuition of at least four families I've met, the parents aren't embarrassed about it,
They just told me flat out. I'm just really surprised. I was not raised rich, I didn't know.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2015 07:59     Subject: Entitled adults
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Anonymous wrote:I have less respect for adults with kids to expect THEIR parents to pay for down payments, tuition and cars. If you can't afford your lifestyle, don't live it. I feel less respect for people who use their expected inheritance as their retirement plan. Just a vent. It's totally none of my business, I just felt like letting you all know that I think you are entitled to expect your parents to do this.


My parents don't have any money so I don't run the risk of your disrespect, OP, but I can't imagine that those who do would care, at all, what you think of them. If you're older than 10 and you've had any amount of life experience, you would understand that there are always going to be people who live life differently than you do. When you spend your time thinking about them and being bitter, you're the one who loses.


I agree completely. All this mentality does, OP, is render you bitter and unhappy. I guarantee you no one cares one whit about your opinion on this.


Not OP here, but clearly these PPs are the entitled adults who feel their parents owe them some of the items the OP was talking about. Most likely they still have their vacations, furniture, kids' clothing and entertainment expenses still funded by their parents as well.


My parents are dead, you stupid bitch.


Looks like someone (rude) does care about OP's opinion.


Huh?
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2015 07:53     Subject: Re:Entitled adults
+1
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2015 01:03     Subject: Entitled adults
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have less respect for adults with kids to expect THEIR parents to pay for down payments, tuition and cars. If you can't afford your lifestyle, don't live it. I feel less respect for people who use their expected inheritance as their retirement plan. Just a vent. It's totally none of my business, I just felt like letting you all know that I think you are entitled to expect your parents to do this.


My parents don't have any money so I don't run the risk of your disrespect, OP, but I can't imagine that those who do would care, at all, what you think of them. If you're older than 10 and you've had any amount of life experience, you would understand that there are always going to be people who live life differently than you do. When you spend your time thinking about them and being bitter, you're the one who loses.


I agree completely. All this mentality does, OP, is render you bitter and unhappy. I guarantee you no one cares one whit about your opinion on this.


Not OP here, but clearly these PPs are the entitled adults who feel their parents owe them some of the items the OP was talking about. Most likely they still have their vacations, furniture, kids' clothing and entertainment expenses still funded by their parents as well.


My parents are dead, you stupid bitch.


Looks like someone (rude) does care about OP's opinion.
Anonymous
Post 04/07/2015 00:54     Subject: Entitled adults
Op, where do you meet these people or how do you know them? I don't know any.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2015 22:32     Subject: Entitled adults
You probably should plan on paying your kids college tuition yourself. I watched multiple family members burn through a LOT of money, money a lot of people thought they would inherit, due to long-term health care costs and poor estate planning. Start a 529.
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2015 21:36     Subject: Re:Entitled adults
Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure I agree. If parents expect their kids to take care of them in their old age, then they had better help their kids out if they can. That's called investing now so that they can reap later. I have had to bust my ass for every single milestone and my parents have actually been a stumbling block -- getting me into debt and causing me heartache. They aren't getting shit from me when they age because they haven't earned it. So, I guess my point is that if kids shouldn't expect anything from their parents, then the parents had better not expect anything from their kids.


+1

That includes charging your children interest above market for loans. I have seen it. Its rotten to the core.

Anonymous
Post 04/06/2015 20:06     Subject: Entitled adults
I agree OP. "Mom, Dad, I want you to understand that Eugene and I are adults and are raising our children as we see fit ... by the way can you pay for our summer vacation? Thanks."
Anonymous
Post 04/06/2015 15:57     Subject: Entitled adults
Anonymous wrote:I have less respect for adults with kids to expect THEIR parents to pay for down payments, tuition and cars. If you can't afford your lifestyle, don't live it. I feel less respect for people who use their expected inheritance as their retirement plan. Just a vent. It's totally none of my business, I just felt like letting you all know that I think you are entitled to expect your parents to do this.


Odd. Why would anyone care what an anonymous stranger felt about them? Hope venting made you feel better, op.