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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope, I am with you, I would be annoyed. Your mother sounds selfish. I do not care about new hardwood floors she sounds selfish.

The best thing you could do is offer to buy some cheapo area rugs that you can toss on the floor until you move out if she lets you.

Sorry!

Ok, OP. Sock puppeting isn't going to make anyone side with you.

Obviously you don't care that much about her hardwood floors, but that was her money that she spent to put them in and she likes them. It seems from your postings that you care more about your dog than you care about your mother. That's a shame.

I posted the above and I am not OP. Nice detective skills Seems from your posting that you have alot of misplaced anger.

You sound either very uneducated or 12.

Another option:
If the weather is moderate (it is spring), can you buy one of those doggy tents (some are pretty large, especially for small dogs) and set it up in a basement/gameroom? If she won't have the dog inside, maybe in her back yard? Or her garage? You can still spend time with the dog, take the dog out for walks, etc, but not have the dog live in the house.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes I know I need to grow up and get over it. Doesn't take the frustration away though. I hate this house and we've been slowly chipping away and debt and now we have this awesome opportunity and we can't do it.

And of course we could rent but it's expensive in our area and it would feel like a complete waste of money to pay $1k a month and get stuck in a lease when my mom's 4 bedroom house is just down the road and sitting empty 70% of the time (she travels for work).

If I didn't know any better I would think she's just being passive aggressive. She didn't have a problem with my out of state baby sister and her cat temporarily moving in with her a few weeks ago - sis decided to stay where she is in the end but the door was open for her regardless.

I guess an apartment might me our only option anyway.

You've looked into the cost of buying and selling a home correct? And you are aware that you will have to pay capital gains taxes on money made from the sale of your home? And no, your mom doesn't owe you anything.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope, I am with you, I would be annoyed. Your mother sounds selfish. I do not care about new hardwood floors she sounds selfish.

The best thing you could do is offer to buy some cheapo area rugs that you can toss on the floor until you move out if she lets you.

Sorry!

Ok, OP. Sock puppeting isn't going to make anyone side with you.

Obviously you don't care that much about her hardwood floors, but that was her money that she spent to put them in and she likes them. It seems from your postings that you care more about your dog than you care about your mother. That's a shame.

I posted the above and I am not OP. Nice detective skills Seems from your posting that you have alot of misplaced anger.

Anonymous wrote:Don't let this great opportunity pass you by. If you don't have a friend willing to take the dog, try a dog walker or dog sitter. They often have their own dogs and probably wouldn't mind taking one in for a reasonable price.

The only option would be boarding because my friends and extended family all have small children or big dogs so it wouldn't work. I suppose I could, the problem is just that my dog is nearly blind so I don't want him to be somewhere new/without me and be completely freaked out. Maybe I'm overthinking it but he's my fur baby and it would stress me out.

Or ask your vet if they know anyone who fosters dogs.

Don't let this great opportunity pass you by. If you don't have a friend willing to take the dog, try a dog walker or dog sitter. They often have their own dogs and probably wouldn't mind taking one in for a reasonable price.

My suggestion is to offer to carpet or provide wall to wall rugs to protect the floors while you are there.

But I agree that your overall attitude is one of immaturity, selfishness, shortsightedness and entitlement. I have faith that you'll grow out of that someday.

Good luck.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope, I am with you, I would be annoyed. Your mother sounds selfish. I do not care about new hardwood floors she sounds selfish.

The best thing you could do is offer to buy some cheapo area rugs that you can toss on the floor until you move out if she lets you.

Sorry!

Ok, OP. Sock puppeting isn't going to make anyone side with you.

Obviously you don't care that much about her hardwood floors, but that was her money that she spent to put them in and she likes them. It seems from your postings that you care more about your dog than you care about your mother. That's a shame.

That was not me (OP). I'm taking all responses into consideration and despite my frustration I don't think anyone nay-saying me is necessarily wrong. Just going to have to figure out a way to do it ourselves.

Anonymous wrote:Nope, I am with you, I would be annoyed. Your mother sounds selfish. I do not care about new hardwood floors she sounds selfish.

The best thing you could do is offer to buy some cheapo area rugs that you can toss on the floor until you move out if she lets you.

Sorry!

Ok, OP. Sock puppeting isn't going to make anyone side with you.

Obviously you don't care that much about her hardwood floors, but that was her money that she spent to put them in and she likes them. It seems from your postings that you care more about your dog than you care about your mother. That's a shame.

Why don't you ask your friends if anyone would be willing to keep your dog with them for a few weeks while you stay at your Mom's house and sell your house? Or find a pet boarding house as another PP suggested. Sounds pretty easy to me.

Your mom is not the one keeping you from staying with her. Your adamant refusal to find an alternative short-term home for your dog, e.g. you and your decision are preventing you from taking advantage of the financial situation. Penny-wise and pound foolish. You're not rehoming the dog; you're boarding the dog for few weeks.

Agree. Even reading your post is frustrating: you have a lot of fairly straightforward solutions that can make your Mom's (generous) offer win-win for everyone. The dog will be fine!

Anonymous wrote:You need to grow up. Either board the dog, or live somewhere else. You're an adult, and your mom has every right to make decisions about her home.

Yeah, this.

Seriously OP? It's not up to your Mom to make your selling and moving experience easier.

Take three deep breaths, stop being angry at your mom and just solve the problem. Get someone to take the dog, rent somewhere else or buy a new house with a contingency of the sale of your old one.

I'd ask around for someone who might want to take the dog for a couple of months. You might have a friend who wants to "test drive" dog ownership who'd be open to it.

I think you have options beyond getting rid of your dog.

Can you look into having a friend take your dog while you stay there? Can you propose this to your mom and see if that changes her mind? If not, maybe she's using the dog as an excuse since she might not have a real reason other than she likes having her house to herself.

OR

Rent a place. You make money on your house and can use that to pay your debt and save for the next house. Get somewhere smaller and cheaper. Even if it's similar to your mortgage, renting is still cheaper since you do no maintenance.

But only you can decide if this changes how you feel about your mom. I personally wouldn't let it. You had a request, she said no, I'd move on. If you let it, this will fester and become resentment and could ruin your relationship. Instead, MOVE ON and find another solution. Keep doing the right thing. It will be SO MUCH better in the long run.