Anonymous
03/31/2015 02:51
Subject: What are/were your dealbreakers beyond the usual? (cheater, abusive, etc) Anything really frivolous?
No guns, or hunting
Not rude to waitstaff, etc
Must be masculine
Not socially conservative
Not humorless
No bad breath or dirty nails
Not rude to waitstaff, etc
Must be masculine
Not socially conservative
Not humorless
No bad breath or dirty nails
Anonymous
03/31/2015 02:35
Subject: What are/were your dealbreakers beyond the usual? (cheater, abusive, etc) Anything really frivolous?
No dogs. No kids. No Cowboys/Yankees fans.
Anonymous
03/31/2015 02:22
Subject: What are/were your dealbreakers beyond the usual? (cheater, abusive, etc) Anything really frivolous?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Doesn't own any animals, but maybe fish
This cracked me up because I got a vision or a guy showing up at the door with a little goldfish in a bowl. Also I feel you, I am no at all a dog person. That would have been a deal breaker for me.
Not liking dogs would be a deal breaker for me.
Anonymous
03/31/2015 02:14
Subject: What are/were your dealbreakers beyond the usual? (cheater, abusive, etc) Anything really frivolous?
Anonymous wrote:Find a German man if you want an intact penis.
True in my experience.
Anonymous
03/31/2015 02:13
Subject: Re:What are/were your dealbreakers beyond the usual? (cheater, abusive, etc) Anything really frivolous?
What I would consider the usual: Kind, honest, trustworthy, no drug issues, loyal.
Beyond that (non-frivoulous):
Funny.
Has to be a fully-functioning grown up (e.g. no pile of debt for no reason, doesn't let his insurance/passport/drivers license expire because 'no one reminded him' to renew them etc.) If I wanted someone I had to look after, I'd give birth to them.
Ambition. I don't require that he have a white-collar career, but he actually has to treat whatever he does as a career. If you're a bricklayer, you'd better be aspiring to be the best damn bricklayer in the city, or have plans to own your own bricklaying business, or something.
No over-attachments to exes. This also continues to: no weird issues that surface regularly because of an ex. After a certain age, we all have baggage. I expect that someone who has determined they are ready to be dating will have dealt with theirs and it will be stowed neatly in the overhead compartment.
Has couth/is not cheap/is comfortable in relatively upscale social situations. This is necessary because of my career, and since I don't plan on changing careers soon, I need a partner who will be good in these situations too.
Understands family obligations. This one is big for me, as I'm an only child, so when my parents become ill/infirm I can't just assume a sibling will help with their care while I live footloose and fancy free halfway across the globe, or something. I'm not saying that I'd want them living with me, and they're well enough off, so I won't have to look after them in that sense, but I would not be comfortable leaving them parked in a nursing home while I visited once or twice a year.
Gets along well with the majority of my friends/family.
Possibly frivolous:
I recently had a fantastic date with a guy who was very hairy. I'm not sure why I was surprised, given that he told me he ethnic background before the date, but I still found it off-putting that I noticed ear hair. He's in his 30s, was very well-dressed, and well-groomed, works in a profession where appearances matter, so I was just surprised at that. Wondering if I can say, hey buddy, I wax my nether regions, you have to wax your ears (and possibly back/shoulders if they turn out to be as hairy as I expect that they will) if things go that far.
Beyond that (non-frivoulous):
Funny.
Has to be a fully-functioning grown up (e.g. no pile of debt for no reason, doesn't let his insurance/passport/drivers license expire because 'no one reminded him' to renew them etc.) If I wanted someone I had to look after, I'd give birth to them.
Ambition. I don't require that he have a white-collar career, but he actually has to treat whatever he does as a career. If you're a bricklayer, you'd better be aspiring to be the best damn bricklayer in the city, or have plans to own your own bricklaying business, or something.
No over-attachments to exes. This also continues to: no weird issues that surface regularly because of an ex. After a certain age, we all have baggage. I expect that someone who has determined they are ready to be dating will have dealt with theirs and it will be stowed neatly in the overhead compartment.
Has couth/is not cheap/is comfortable in relatively upscale social situations. This is necessary because of my career, and since I don't plan on changing careers soon, I need a partner who will be good in these situations too.
Understands family obligations. This one is big for me, as I'm an only child, so when my parents become ill/infirm I can't just assume a sibling will help with their care while I live footloose and fancy free halfway across the globe, or something. I'm not saying that I'd want them living with me, and they're well enough off, so I won't have to look after them in that sense, but I would not be comfortable leaving them parked in a nursing home while I visited once or twice a year.
Gets along well with the majority of my friends/family.
Possibly frivolous:
I recently had a fantastic date with a guy who was very hairy. I'm not sure why I was surprised, given that he told me he ethnic background before the date, but I still found it off-putting that I noticed ear hair. He's in his 30s, was very well-dressed, and well-groomed, works in a profession where appearances matter, so I was just surprised at that. Wondering if I can say, hey buddy, I wax my nether regions, you have to wax your ears (and possibly back/shoulders if they turn out to be as hairy as I expect that they will) if things go that far.
Anonymous
03/31/2015 01:07
Subject: What are/were your dealbreakers beyond the usual? (cheater, abusive, etc) Anything really frivolous?
Did I mention precision?
Anonymous
03/31/2015 01:06
Subject: What are/were your dealbreakers beyond the usual? (cheater, abusive, etc) Anything really frivolous?
Find a German man if you want an intact penis.
Anonymous
03/31/2015 01:05
Subject: What are/were your dealbreakers beyond the usual? (cheater, abusive, etc) Anything really frivolous?
Frivolous censorship.
Whitespace police.
~ A well read man.
Whitespace police.
~ A well read man.
Anonymous
03/31/2015 01:01
Subject: What are/were your dealbreakers beyond the usual? (cheater, abusive, etc) Anything really frivolous?
Anonymous wrote:When I was dating about the only deal breaker for me was health.
I wasn't going to marry a woman that had any type of health issue that would possibly pass to my children.
There was no compromise in my mind.
I hit the jackpot. Kids are healthy.
So far!
Anonymous
03/31/2015 00:58
Subject: What are/were your dealbreakers beyond the usual? (cheater, abusive, etc) Anything really frivolous?
When I was dating about the only deal breaker for me was health.
I wasn't going to marry a woman that had any type of health issue that would possibly pass to my children.
There was no compromise in my mind.
I hit the jackpot. Kids are healthy.
I wasn't going to marry a woman that had any type of health issue that would possibly pass to my children.
There was no compromise in my mind.
I hit the jackpot. Kids are healthy.
Anonymous
03/31/2015 00:20
Subject: What are/were your dealbreakers beyond the usual? (cheater, abusive, etc) Anything really frivolous?
Anonymous wrote:
No living parents.
I'm sorry but LMAO
Anonymous
03/31/2015 00:14
Subject: What are/were your dealbreakers beyond the usual? (cheater, abusive, etc) Anything really frivolous?
Can't have a disproportionately long torso. I don't care about looks in general, but that just creeps me out.
Must have a naturally good smell.
Must have a naturally good smell.
Anonymous
03/31/2015 00:00
Subject: What are/were your dealbreakers beyond the usual? (cheater, abusive, etc) Anything really frivolous?
Anonymous wrote:No hunters or fishers.
Did/ has done own laundry.
No children.
+ No gun enthusiasts.
No campers.
No living parents.
No tats.
Anonymous
03/30/2015 23:56
Subject: What are/were your dealbreakers beyond the usual? (cheater, abusive, etc) Anything really frivolous?
No military for me.
Anonymous
03/30/2015 23:19
Subject: Re:What are/were your dealbreakers beyond the usual? (cheater, abusive, etc) Anything really frivolous?
I was just thinking about a weird one... I don't think I could date someone who became defensive if/when I wanted to drive. My husband always took me wanting to drive as a criticism of his driving (it wasn't) and would get pissed off if I wanted to drive. Over nearly 15 years, I rarely drove the car when we were in it together unless he wanted to sleep (long car trips) or was drunk. I really like driving sometimes, but it was his irritation about me wanting to drive that bothered me so much.