Anonymous wrote:14, 15 is way too young.

According to who? I don't know why people can't understand that everyone does not share the same feelings on virginity and sex, and a person making different choices than you made/wish you made does not make them pathological.

Anonymous wrote:14, 15 is way too young.

I'm a promiscuous girl.

I have to say, I don't really think sex is so special. what is special and can be heartbreaking is a real relationship that goes sour. Sex or not, that is the real danger. But then again I'm not like most women. I've always like to get my rocks off and even though I've been married for a long time I still like and want sex daily if there is time and thankfully I married a high drive man.

I think the only danger (for me) from having sex that young would have been STDs or pregnancy, but luckily I was smart enough to use condoms and went to planned parenthood on my own and got on BCPs. No way could I have told my mother what I was doing.

Anonymous wrote:No..first had sex at 14. I loves sex and still do at 37. I don't live my life with In shame. That a fast tract to a dysfunctional sex life.

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14, 15 is way too young.

Anonymous wrote:No..first had sex at 14. I loves sex and still do at 37. I don't live my life with In shame. That a fast tract to a dysfunctional sex life.

Fuck this phone. I first had sex at 14, with a guy that I met that summer. Nothing specIal. I've always loved sex for the sake of sex. I'm 37 and still love sex. Ive always had a healthy relationship with sex. I don't live my life with sexual shame. I think that is a fast track towards a dysfunctional sex life. I've had dozens of partners and have been married now for 11 years and from time to time have FMF 3somes with my DH and a woman I mess around with.

No..first had sex at 14. I loves sex and still do at 37. I don't live my life with In shame. That a fast tract to a dysfunctional sex life.

I was too young. Fifteen. he was not a caring boyfriend or even a good guy. He was a few years older than me and drank too much (which made the sex rather unpleasant), also never went to school (not sure if he finished high school, can't remember what happened with that), and he was moody. Probably an alcoholic.
it is sad to think about it now- i was so desperate to have a boyfriend that I not only went with this guy for 6-8 months but lost my virginity to him. The sex was not enjoyable.
The worst part was when one of his friends came to my house to tell me that he was seeing someone else - the friend felt obligated to tell me about this because apparantly he disapproved of the "other woman." It turned out the "other woman" was in her FORTIES. My mother's age!! This guy was only 18 years old. all of his friends knew about her. I was so disgusted and humiliated i broke up with him immediately.
At 15 I really was too young to be dealing with ANY of this. I sure as hell wouldn't be dealing with anything like it now. I went on to date/have sex with some not so great guys - it took me a long time to learn how to care about myself.
In my opinion, girls who lose their virginity at a young age have self-esteem issues more often than not.

I was 18 with my first college boyfriend. I wish it was earlier, with a long-time high school friend/sometime boyfriend.

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Anonymous wrote:I was 20. I don't regret it for the age. I don't care about the age. But I got played huge and was too naive to realize it. The guy courted (and I mean chased) me for almost 6 months. I thought he was madly in love with me. And I fell hard for him. As soon as we had sex though, he dumped me and moved on. I had NO IDEA that was going to happen. I thought I had a great romance with a great boyfriend. Took me a very long time to trust after that.

That happened to me at the age of 45. If someone lies to you, there isn't much to do about it. Six months is a long time for a man to pursue just for sex.

I was 19 and wound up with a guy who was basically obsessed with me - very persistent, would not go away. He also lied to me about a number of things which I didn't discover until we had been together for months. By that point I was "in love" and I stuck with him. Should have ended MUCH earlier. Luckily I did learn from it.

That's why I am skeptical of relationshipsbetween late 20s guys andcollege age women. I feel like a lot of them take advantage of young women.

Maybe. But I enjoyed being with him I think because he was different than kids my own age. He could get me into places, knew people. He had his own apt and car. There was a reason I stayed with him - I was having a good time and it was exciting, different than anything I had experienced before. It took a little while for me to see how irresponsible he really was...

At any rate, if I was going to get involved with a guy like that I'm glad I did it at that age. It would have been a disaster if I had met someone like that, married and had kids with them....I'm glad I learned that lesson early on when the damage was minimal.

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Anonymous wrote:I was 20. I don't regret it for the age. I don't care about the age. But I got played huge and was too naive to realize it. The guy courted (and I mean chased) me for almost 6 months. I thought he was madly in love with me. And I fell hard for him. As soon as we had sex though, he dumped me and moved on. I had NO IDEA that was going to happen. I thought I had a great romance with a great boyfriend. Took me a very long time to trust after that.

That happened to me at the age of 45. If someone lies to you, there isn't much to do about it. Six months is a long time for a man to pursue just for sex.

I was 19 and wound up with a guy who was basically obsessed with me - very persistent, would not go away. He also lied to me about a number of things which I didn't discover until we had been together for months. By that point I was "in love" and I stuck with him. Should have ended MUCH earlier. Luckily I did learn from it.

That's why I am skeptical of relationshipsbetween late 20s guys andcollege age women. I feel like a lot of them take advantage of young women.

^Oh, and he was an older guy (later 20's too).

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Anonymous wrote:I was 20. I don't regret it for the age. I don't care about the age. But I got played huge and was too naive to realize it. The guy courted (and I mean chased) me for almost 6 months. I thought he was madly in love with me. And I fell hard for him. As soon as we had sex though, he dumped me and moved on. I had NO IDEA that was going to happen. I thought I had a great romance with a great boyfriend. Took me a very long time to trust after that.

That happened to me at the age of 45. If someone lies to you, there isn't much to do about it. Six months is a long time for a man to pursue just for sex.

I was 19 and wound up with a guy who was basically obsessed with me - very persistent, would not go away. He also lied to me about a number of things which I didn't discover until we had been together for months. By that point I was "in love" and I stuck with him. Should have ended MUCH earlier. Luckily I did learn from it.

Anonymous wrote:No. I was 19 and living on my own. It was a good choice. I am very glad I didn't have sex in high school and would strongly encourage my kids to wait until at least college.

+1 million. So much better when you can go back to your own place and handle things like birth control all by yourself.

No. I was 19 and living on my own. It was a good choice. I am very glad I didn't have sex in high school and would strongly encourage my kids to wait until at least college.

Anonymous wrote:I was 20. I don't regret it for the age. I don't care about the age. But I got played huge and was too naive to realize it. The guy courted (and I mean chased) me for almost 6 months. I thought he was madly in love with me. And I fell hard for him. As soon as we had sex though, he dumped me and moved on. I had NO IDEA that was going to happen. I thought I had a great romance with a great boyfriend. Took me a very long time to trust after that.

That happened to me at the age of 45. If someone lies to you, there isn't much to do about it. Six months is a long time for a man to pursue just for sex.