Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You can't control what he does.
Now if he starts welching on child support payments, etc., go after that, or if his home has crack pipes sitting around, shut visitations down.
If he seems just a bit "off" but otherwise wants to see the kids and is okay/good with them, and the only flaw is "ZOMG NO SPARE ROOM" I woudn't fuss overmuch about that.
You can't do that. Child support and visitation are two different things.
Anonymous wrote:It's completely possible they just fell in love and gOt married. There isn't always a complicated back story that OP doesn't know about. My own DH and I were living together after 3 months, engaged at 6 and married shortly thereafter. I'm sure his ex wife thought something weird was going on but nope. Five years later we are still very much in love and happy.