Anonymous
Post 04/03/2017 23:24     Subject: Email response time
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Anonymous
Post 04/03/2017 23:20     Subject: Email response time
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Anonymous
Post 04/03/2017 23:20     Subject: Email response time
If she were interested in you, it would not be "hard to tell." The fact that you aren't sure or see mixed signals means she's being polite and is not grey interested.
Anonymous
Post 03/31/2017 12:36     Subject: Email response time
dcguy wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:do you only have her work email?


No I have her mobile etc. too but we live in different countries now and she doesn't whatsapp etc much (her country use their own version of whatsapp alternative, whatever that is). We travel to each other's countries very frequently for work and I have met her outside of work (we met through work). And when we saw each other she flirted, etc. and wanted to spend time together. I'm sure I can't read woman or a situation as well as some of you do here but very certain that I said sometimes she seem interested with a good reason for saying so. -OP


ayy yai yai...

different countries, free-texting workarounds, professional-based relationship

there are too many barriers here to let things happen casually. be direct or move on.

next in line, please?


I agree. This would not be worth it to me.
dcguy
Post 03/31/2017 11:56     Subject: Email response time
dcguy wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:do you only have her work email?


No I have her mobile etc. too but we live in different countries now and she doesn't whatsapp etc much (her country use their own version of whatsapp alternative, whatever that is). We travel to each other's countries very frequently for work and I have met her outside of work (we met through work). And when we saw each other she flirted, etc. and wanted to spend time together. I'm sure I can't read woman or a situation as well as some of you do here but very certain that I said sometimes she seem interested with a good reason for saying so. -OP



next in line, please?
dcguy
Post 03/25/2015 11:02     Subject: Email response time
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:do you only have her work email?


No I have her mobile etc. too but we live in different countries now and she doesn't whatsapp etc much (her country use their own version of whatsapp alternative, whatever that is). We travel to each other's countries very frequently for work and I have met her outside of work (we met through work). And when we saw each other she flirted, etc. and wanted to spend time together. I'm sure I can't read woman or a situation as well as some of you do here but very certain that I said sometimes she seem interested with a good reason for saying so. -OP


ayy yai yai...

different countries, free-texting workarounds, professional-based relationship

there are too many barriers here to let things happen casually. be direct or move on.

next in line, please?
Anonymous
Post 03/25/2015 03:36     Subject: Email response time
Anonymous wrote:do you only have her work email?


No I have her mobile etc. too but we live in different countries now and she doesn't whatsapp etc much (her country use their own version of whatsapp alternative, whatever that is). We travel to each other's countries very frequently for work and I have met her outside of work (we met through work). And when we saw each other she flirted, etc. and wanted to spend time together. I'm sure I can't read woman or a situation as well as some of you do here but very certain that I said sometimes she seem interested with a good reason for saying so. -OP
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2015 21:49     Subject: Re:Email response time
sorry OP but she's probably just thinking that she's being "nice" when in fact she's not being direct and you have to interpret her vague signals.

It was not until my early/mid 30s that I realized it was far better to be upfront and tell someone, in a kind but direct way, "thanks for your interest, but I don't think we're a match" or something to that effect. It was far better than avoiding contact or sending equivocal signals, but a lot of women are socialized to be 'nice' and to worry about hurting feelings, so the direct approach is difficult for them.

When a woman is interested she will let you know. She will flirt, she will up the ante, she will find a way of making it known that she wants to be asked out (if she doesn't do the asking herself).
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2015 07:01     Subject: Email response time
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. I thought I'd get responses from you guys like stop being too sensitive, etc but, ok, at least I wasn't thinking too much in correlating response time and interest.

She took so long to reply twice but after I made a brief comment saying she's so slow in replying she actually responded quicker (2 days or even within the same day the last time). Perhaps it's just related to her workload. She did say she can be a bit delinquent in her not so urgent email replies (so I guess I'm not prioritized although we just met and there's no reason I should be)

Other than that, she's very pretty and nice and sometimes I feel like she might be interested but sometimes not.

Difficult to tell!!


Hmmm. You asked in your original post: "Do you think this means she just doesn't care?"

The resounding answer has been, yes, she just doesn't care.

You're still confused, finding it "difficult to tell" how she feels. Really? I sense a pattern in which you fail to read a situation appropriately. Please stop e-mailing this woman.


+1. Harsh, but true. She's not interested. It's very clear. Sorry, OP.
Anonymous
Post 03/24/2015 06:39     Subject: Email response time
Anonymous wrote:do you only have her work email?


That could blow up in the person's face, some employers are very picky about work e-mail.

Check the spam folder, make sure nothing is there. I use a program called Mozilla Thunderbird (which is just like Outlook, but free), and you can filter all e-mails (called rules wizard) and sometimes legit e-mails end up in spam.