Your daughter sounds like my son in first grade. Get an IEP asap. First thing you should do is to state in your IEP that any behavior that results from her issues should not result in trips to the principal, but should result in counseling. Have them also state in the IEP that your daughter be allowed time for movement throughout the day (trips to admin office to deliver things, etc..). Allow your daughter to get her wiggles out before school begins too (Dance Wii?). Put her in OT twice a week because it will be more opportunity for movement. Make sure the IEP indicates neuropsych's diagnosis also, to protect her in the future. State in your IEP that the teachers are not permitted to discipline publicly in front of other students also.

Your daughter's teacher needs to be trained on how to handle special needs children - FAST - before she ruins your daughter's love of school and learning.

Agree with finding modifications that will help your child find an outlet. My SIL was telling me about multiple things she has for her son - chewy toys that go on top of the pencil, Velcro under his desk that he can scratch, little "fidget balls" that go in the pencil well inside the desk that he can play with discreetly, a "wiggle pillow" that moves around slightly when you sit on it (kind of like one of those half exercise balls), a band that goes around their chair that they can tuck their feet into - to both remind them not to stand up and give them something they can do with their feet to get the fidgets out. Maybe a therapist or the school counselor can help you work with the teacher to implement some strategies like these for your DD?

Yes, you must officially request that the school evaluate your child in writing under IDEA. Even though you have a private eval, this is how the process starts. You can submit your private test results. You write to the principal. This triggers the IEP process, but the 504 comes along for the ride. There's a web site called Wrights law that has a good intro to all this.

The big advantage of the 504 for us has been to make it official with the teacher - not just an odd child, one who has a reason for accommodation. Also, testing accommodations for all the various computer tests as well as in-class assessments - extended time, quiet space, etc.

Is the school actually aware of the diagnosis? Have you held a meeting presenting the findings? If so, when? What happened as a result of the meeting?