If my kids are "traumatized" by anything I did or didn't do in their childhood then I feel I will have failed as a parent. No one is perfect and we all have different personalities and desires. Some things my parents did I liked/agreed with, some I didn't. I respect and value the fact that they did their best and worked hard to make my childhood a good one.

I hope my children grow up to appreciate everything they have been given in life, not seek therapy because I moved their room downstairs.

Anonymous wrote:Probably not allowing DCs to get a dog.

+1
I like dogs, but don't want a dog.

My kids are too young now but I worry that someday one of my kids will think I favor the other.

If I was in therapy, I would probably talk about how poorly my parents handled their divorce and shared custody. Each trashed the other in front of me. 30 years later and that really bothers me. They also refused to talk to each other so I was stuck in the middle of their communications.

My husband and I bicker over stupid shit sometimes. Really affects one DS. We are generally happily married and need to figure out how to fix this.

To be serious- I'm impatient when DS makes mistakes on homework or doesn't understand something. I've acknowledged to him that this is my problem not his and I'm working on it-- when he gets older we will probably outsource to a tutor or homework club.

I was a teenage mother and lived with my boyfriend and his mom for a long time. He and I got into a lot of fights that sometimes turned physical. I remember seeing my son sitting at the top of the stairs crying and terrified while my boyfriend and I were having a horrible fight. He hasn't mentioned it in a long time but if he ever went to therapy, I am sure that would come up.

My daughter and I got mugged while walking through the basement of our apartment building to do laundry. She'd bring that up.

They both forgave me for each of those.

Anonymous wrote:I give my kid grief when he gets a low "A" - We is a smart kid, but I don't like it when he makes silly mistakes.

My dad did this to me and it has always affected me. You may want to rethink this approach.

Anonymous wrote:I give my kid grief when he gets a low "A" - We is a smart kid, but I don't like it when he makes silly mistakes.

Freudian??

Anonymous wrote:I give my kid grief when he gets a low "A" - We is a smart kid, but I don't like it when he makes silly mistakes.

My parents could have landed me in therapy in a number of more egregious ways but what sticks with me most was bringing home a 99 on a test and my mom asking me where the other point went. Kids aren't perfect. No one is.

I am totally over-protective of my daughter but let my son run wild. I know she is going to hate me someday and rebel.

i believe my dh has never forgiven/forgotten his mom filing for divorce. he felt she "abandoned" him by moving out.

I give my kid grief when he gets a low "A" - We is a smart kid, but I don't like it when he makes silly mistakes.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe being an only child... DH and I always knew we only wanted one even though I was certainly young enough to have more so the purposefulness of our decision could have an effect (as opposed to someone who wanted more children but physically couldn't have them).

Nah -- I'm an only child and I loved it.

Maybe being one out of three children... She may well hate her brothers when she gets older (she isn't crazy about them now) and may blame us for it. We chose to have three kids - none of them were accidents - so like PP with the only child, she may end up in therapy over us not thinking she was "enough".

Face it. As parents, we cannot win.

Maybe being an only child... DH and I always knew we only wanted one even though I was certainly young enough to have more so the purposefulness of our decision could have an effect (as opposed to someone who wanted more children but physically couldn't have them).