Anonymous wrote:Op here. I texted her will night last night and no response. She still hasn't reutned my texts or calls and its almost 10am. Even if she convinced me she didn't sleep with him I know she spent the night there.

OMG, OP, back away! Geesh.

Op here. I texted her will night last night and no response. She still hasn't reutned my texts or calls and its almost 10am. Even if she convinced me she didn't sleep with him I know she spent the night there.

I am normally in the MYOB but this situation is a little different. I suspect that one of the major issues for OP is that if and when things go south with the married guy, OP will then have to help her friend pick up the pieces. So I get the MYOB piece, but this is a decision that will likely impact OP. So the question is WHEN should OP be the great friend? Before her friend gets into a bad situation that OP sees coming? Or after the sh!t has hit the fan and the friend is leaning on OP for emotional support? In this case, it would be both for me. I would certainly tel her what I though beforehand and my shoulder would be there for her to cry on after.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I suspect that you once had a crush on this guy. You seem overly consumed with this.

Never had a crush on him. In college he was the epitome of frat boy douchebag. he's the type thst will sleep together and then stop chatting with her.

So... You've just described the type of guy women love to porn-star fuck.

Anonymous wrote:Wow, driving an hour to visit a friend?! That's sooooo far.

Not really. She's an adult. MYOB.

Haha. I agree. She's having sex with the guy. Do you need the sordid details due to your own dead bedroom?

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Anonymous wrote:My husband cheated in full view of all our friends. Took the OW out for drinks and dinner with people we knew, some professionals with whom I still have to interact. So when I found out, I not only felt betrayed by him, but also by all the other MYOB friends. I cut contact with all of them. Who needs friends like that?

I want the type of friends who stand up for decent behavior, otherwise it's just people you know, not friends. Decent behavior includes not doing things that can be construed as slimey, like going out on a date with a married guy.

You want friends who will control your husband for you when you're not there to control him yourself.

No I wanted friends who wouldn't have kept that kind of secret.

MYOB

Anonymous wrote:My husband cheated in full view of all our friends. Took the OW out for drinks and dinner with people we knew, some professionals with whom I still have to interact. So when I found out, I not only felt betrayed by him, but also by all the other MYOB friends. I cut contact with all of them. Who needs friends like that?

I want the type of friends who stand up for decent behavior, otherwise it's just people you know, not friends. Decent behavior includes not doing things that can be construed as slimey, like going out on a date with a married guy.

Your situation is not the same as the one OP described. Meeting an old friend for lunch does not = date just because the friends are a man and a woman.

Anonymous wrote:My husband cheated in full view of all our friends. Took the OW out for drinks and dinner with people we knew, some professionals with whom I still have to interact. So when I found out, I not only felt betrayed by him, but also by all the other MYOB friends. I cut contact with all of them. Who needs friends like that?

I want the type of friends who stand up for decent behavior, otherwise it's just people you know, not friends. Decent behavior includes not doing things that can be construed as slimey, like going out on a date with a married guy.

Well said.

Anonymous wrote:My husband cheated in full view of all our friends. Took the OW out for drinks and dinner with people we knew, some professionals with whom I still have to interact. So when I found out, I not only felt betrayed by him, but also by all the other MYOB friends. I cut contact with all of them. Who needs friends like that?

I want the type of friends who stand up for decent behavior, otherwise it's just people you know, not friends. Decent behavior includes not doing things that can be construed as slimey, like going out on a date with a married guy.

You want friends who will control your husband for you when you're not there to control him yourself.

My husband cheated in full view of all our friends. Took the OW out for drinks and dinner with people we knew, some professionals with whom I still have to interact. So when I found out, I not only felt betrayed by him, but also by all the other MYOB friends. I cut contact with all of them. Who needs friends like that?

I want the type of friends who stand up for decent behavior, otherwise it's just people you know, not friends. Decent behavior includes not doing things that can be construed as slimey, like going out on a date with a married guy.

Yeah, I don't think it's that innocent either. I think who deserves to be warned is the wife.

A lot of posters here remind me of the people that see a women being raped in a park and tell themselves to just walk by it is none of your business.

Shirley Glass, an expert on infidelity wrote a book tittles
"NOT just friends." In it she said that when your spouse tells you that she/or he is just friends with someone of the opposite sex, you are in trouble.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I suspect that you once had a crush on this guy. You seem overly consumed with this.

Never had a crush on him. In college he was the epitome of frat boy douchebag. he's the type thst will sleep together and then stop chatting with her.