The OP's stories keep changing. First she's coming over with the kids because they forgot something. Then she's coming over, making herself coffee and hanging out.

And don't put the kids in the middle of this, OP. It's between the adults.

Anonymous wrote:Op here again - could be an hour. Has made herself coffee and a sandwich in the past while we were at work to hang out with kids.

Send her a video of her raiding your kitchen. There's nothing less appetizing than watching yourself eat a meal. That might be enough of a turnoff to keep her out.

The children have the right to a mother. Get over it, you myob

It's the kids mother. Tough spot for the kids.

Anonymous wrote:How often does this happen and how old are the kids? I'm trying to think of how to handle this but so far I have nothing.

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Different arrangements are in order. The kids are NOT to let her in YOUR house. The locks are to be change YESTERDAY.

How could anyone know if someone is going through your filing cabinets if you aren't there. Isn't that the whole point?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MYOB

What the heck does that mean? Not sure what could be more "my own business" than someone entering MY home uninvited.

+1

No kidding.

Anonymous wrote:How often does she come over? What is she doing when she goes in there? How long does she stay? Is she just getting something for the kid and then leaving or is she going through your file cabinets?

OP said she has been known to maker herself a sandwich and coffee, hang out for some time, and leave with a bag of stuff. Unbelievable.

It's so disrespectful and such an invasion of privacy. I would feel violated.

How often does she come over? What is she doing when she goes in there? How long does she stay? Is she just getting something for the kid and then leaving or is she going through your file cabinets?

Op here again - could be an hour. Has made herself coffee and a sandwich in the past while we were at work to hang out with kids.

OP here - kids are older, happens fairly often. Was more regular before (like every other week) but we have been consistently asking it to end and it has not.

I would leave my thongs, handcuffs, blindfold and whip lying casually on my bed!

Ignore the MYOB, that's ridiculous. How is she hanging out for an hour? Don't the kids have school?

How do you know someone is not lingering and going through your stuff??