Anonymous wrote:That's the headline on a new book review, in the Washington Post, of "The Wild Oats Project: One Woman's Midlife Quest for Passion at Any Cost" - http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/book-party/wp/2015/03/12/she-took-a-year-off-from-her-marriage-to-sleep-with-strangers-what-could-go-wrong/

Go!

90% of men would never be able to do this. Because she is a woman, a sex partner can be had anytime. And she is not even really attractive to begin with.

Sounds pretty lame. I don't understand why she concluded that sleeping with a lot of people would fix her desire to have a baby. If you want to have a baby, and your husband doesn't, decide if it is important enough to you to leave him and have one on your own.

There is something kind of hot about this, of course, but it sounds like this was not a healthy relationship to start with.

Anonymous wrote:This part of the review was perfect:

"It’s a bleak and disheartening rationale, as though women’s lives can achieve meaning only through motherhood or sex."

She should have worked through the problems in her relationship or split amicably.

I liked "Fifty Shades of Eay, Pray, Love."

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh. Sounds awful.

After reading that review I actually feel sorry for the author. She's messed up.

right...this is not about "collapsing moral values" so much as wow, she's messed up. Sounds like she needs therapy to cure what ails her.

I do feel sorry for the husband, whether or not he stuck around for her "romp", he kind of loses either way. That's not up to him..she would have divorced him...it was smart of him to not have kids with her.

"Smart of him to not have kids with her..."

You think?!?

Anonymous wrote:Stupid. This is what you do before marriage. Also, why marry someone who does not want kids if you do?

She was undecided about kids before marriage.

Anonymous wrote:Very sad. She wanted a baby and her husband couldn't do that for her. I think that is one of the most important things spouses have to be on the same page about

Well, she thought she wanted a baby and he wouldn't do that for her, got snipped without her mutual agreement. Their marriage was shady from the beginning and she's pretty messed up.

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Anonymous wrote:Just another example of the moral decay in our country. Very sad.

Actually, this is not really a new phenomena. I knew of people doing this 30 and 40 years ago....just they did not write about it.

The difference is people can do this with minimal consequences (assuming safe sex)....

The difference is that women can do this with minimal consequences...men have been doing it down the ages with minimal consequences, most of which were borne by women. There is absolutely nothing new since the start of recorded history in the sexual stuff that people get up to - not new kinks, not new "perversions" not new cheating or amorality. Human nature and sex drive have not changed for thousands of years.

Very sad. She wanted a baby and her husband couldn't do that for her. I think that is one of the most important things spouses have to be on the same page about

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Anonymous wrote:Just another example of the moral decay in our country. Very sad.

Actually, this is not really a new phenomena. I knew of people doing this 30 and 40 years ago....just they did not write about it.

The difference is people can do this with minimal consequences (assuming safe sex)....

The REAL difference is that people now expect to be celebrated for it.

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. Sounds awful.

After reading that review I actually feel sorry for the author. She's messed up.

right...this is not about "collapsing moral values" so much as wow, she's messed up. Sounds like she needs therapy to cure what ails her.

I do feel sorry for the husband, whether or not he stuck around for her "romp", he kind of loses either way. That's not up to him..she would have divorced him...it was smart of him to not have kids with her.

Anonymous wrote:Just another example of the moral decay in our country. Very sad.

Actually, this is not really a new phenomena. I knew of people doing this 30 and 40 years ago....just they did not write about it.

The difference is people can do this with minimal consequences (assuming safe sex)....

This part of the review was perfect:

"It’s a bleak and disheartening rationale, as though women’s lives can achieve meaning only through motherhood or sex."

She should have worked through the problems in her relationship or split amicably.

I've never heard of a man who had a mid-life crisis and banged tons of women not his wife because his spouse didn't want to have kids.

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the husbands here.

Yeah, I was going to say, doesn't this sound like the tried-and-true male mid-life crisis?