Dcum sucks. Wrong place for a bit of sympathy. Lesson learned.

Anonymous wrote:Op here- he's a controlling douchebag.

I love my daughter to no end but this bs is unforgivable.

And has much more of an impact on my daughter in the long run than me. It's about her, not me.

Geez dcum!!! Wtf why can't anyone be nice?????

OP - Why didn't you address this topic during the divorce?

Clean up your language next time you post.

She is upset because she has no control over her ex husband's life, period. Her daughter lying was probably just rehearsed behavior due to this woman's obvious anger issues and not being able to let go …. probably not the first time her daughter sought to keep the peace by just staying quiet. This is not a fiancé or new wife, it is a girlfriend, and truly none of the ex wife's business .. pretty creepy to be using that type of language over a simple open conversation btw, says everything about the person, don't you think? If there is an open line of communication between exes, have a cup of coffee and talk, otherwise the relationship is so strained for obvious reasons that privacy is best at both ends. Seen it many times in the past with girlfriends, sometimes it is just best to be on neutral terms with the children and stay out of each others lives beyond the children. Unless the ex husband has shown evidence of being and abusive parent in the past, you loved him enough to have a child, love him enough to allow him to parent and for goodness sake stop making your child feel like she has to protect your precious feelings where ever her relationship with her father is involved. Clearly this is what is going on, not the fact that he asked your daughter to lie, find that communication with your ex, you are tied together for the rest of your life and this jealousy and pettiness will destroy the children. Really, put the child first, communicate and move on … acceptance is everything.

Op here- he's a controlling douchebag.

I love my daughter to no end but this bs is unforgivable.

And has much more of an impact on my daughter in the long run than me. It's about her, not me.

Geez dcum!!! Wtf why can't anyone be nice?????

Anonymous wrote:If you don't like him seeing other women, then you shouldn't have divorced him.

You made your bed, now lie in it.

NP: so unhelpful. She's upset because her ex had her daughter lie, moron.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fuck all y'all. None of you get the bs. It affects my daughter by asking her to lie!

Classy!

LOL, it might explain why XH ditched OP AND didn't tell her about her replacement!

NP here. I wish you hateful, unhelpful, cowardly trolls would just shut up.

If you don't like him seeing other women, then you shouldn't have divorced him.

You made your bed, now lie in it.

Anonymous wrote:I find it very strange that your ex-husband does not want you to have ANY contact w/his new girlfriend. Esp. considering that you share a child together and that you will both have to be in each others lives in order to co-parent her together effectively.

He probably doesn't want her to know all the terrible things he did to you which caused the divorce. That is the only thing I can think of. What a loser.

If I was the new GF, this would be a huge red flag for me. I would always wonder what my new man was trying to hide.

Sucks more for her.

^ This is the OP sock puppeting for herself.

I find it very strange that your ex-husband does not want you to have ANY contact w/his new girlfriend. Esp. considering that you share a child together and that you will both have to be in each others lives in order to co-parent her together effectively.

He probably doesn't want her to know all the terrible things he did to you which caused the divorce. That is the only thing I can think of. What a loser.

If I was the new GF, this would be a huge red flag for me. I would always wonder what my new man was trying to hide.

Sucks more for her.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fuck all y'all. None of you get the bs. It affects my daughter by asking her to lie!

Classy!

LOL, it might explain why XH ditched OP AND didn't tell her about her replacement!

Anonymous wrote:If it affects my kid, it affects me. Easy peasy. She's 7 1/2 and there is no reason she should be asked to lie to me because he can't man up himself. Come on now

You are 100% right OP. My mom did this about my future step dad, but that is because my father was a psycho and would have probable murdered us all if he found out. You don't sound psycho, and I think your ex is just a prick.

Anonymous wrote:Fuck all y'all. None of you get the bs. It affects my daughter by asking her to lie!

Classy!

Anonymous wrote:Waste of time looking for support here. I should know better

Sorry these mean DCUMmers are out in full force. This is just not right - of course your daughter should never be asked to lie. It's very sketchy that your ex will have a person around your daughter - living together when she's there - and didn't let you know. I hope everything works out for you OP.

Waste of time looking for support here. I should know better

Fuck all y'all. None of you get the bs. It affects my daughter by asking her to lie!