Anonymous
Post 03/04/2015 20:29     Subject: Re:A mother in law who is jealous of me?
Does she treat your DH the same way? Was she always mean to you or just recently?
She's definitely being a bitch, but I don't think jealousy is the root of her behavior.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2015 20:21     Subject: A mother in law who is jealous of me?
Curious what you mean " once the kids are older" as you said you had one off to college and one made a big sports team so must be HS? Maybe one younger? I am thinking that she feels like you could be working now that kids ARE older. Did she have to work and resents that you did not?
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2015 20:05     Subject: A mother in law who is jealous of me?
Welcome to the DIL/MIL mutual dislike society.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2015 19:59     Subject: A mother in law who is jealous of me?

You know we can't tell, OP, which is why you're getting different responses.

Personally I get the image of you as someone very much in need of validation and admiration of your family's achievements. Perhaps she found it annoying all along but now is aging and is losing her filter.

Someone else may get a different picture of you.

The truth is that all these remarks are VERY minor. My own mother has said far worse things to me. You're lucky if you've reached the age you have and this is what keeps you up at night!



Anonymous
Post 03/04/2015 19:57     Subject: A mother in law who is jealous of me?
She isn't jealous. You sound nuts, she can't stand you.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2015 19:57     Subject: A mother in law who is jealous of me?
On the other hand, I am a MIL who is very happy for my son and his bride and know they will be spectacular parents to their baby girl due in July, yet there is a corner in my heart that will always miss him as my little boy. It’s not jealousy; things are as they should be. Empty nest wistfulness (is that a word??) is real.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2015 19:52     Subject: A mother in law who is jealous of me?
Snarky and judgmental? yes.

Jealous? no.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2015 19:48     Subject: A mother in law who is jealous of me?
Well OP I happen to totally agree that she sounds like a miserable old biddy who IS jealous of you. Keep doing what your doing- she can try to tear you down but stay strong sounds like you have it all together and she jus can't handle it- she sounds very jealous and resentful. Does she have a husbamd? What's he like?
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2015 16:37     Subject: A mother in law who is jealous of me?
I don't care for you either, you found annoying as f***
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2015 16:26     Subject: A mother in law who is jealous of me?
Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you don't work. How long have you been a stay at home mom? You have a child entering college, and you're using "once the kids get older" to describe some future date at which you might go back to work?

Your MIL likely views you (and your formerly very long hair) as a slacker, not contributing a whole lot, and in need of constant validation. If she was an attorney and is in great shape, she's certainly not jealous of you. She probably thinks you are living a very cushy life, on your husband's dime, and the thing you most want to discuss at dinner is your HAIRCUT.


Ha, not quite how I would have put it, but yep. She's not jealous of you at all. You're not coming across as very likeable in your posts, TBH.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2015 16:19     Subject: A mother in law who is jealous of me?
It sounds like you don't work. How long have you been a stay at home mom? You have a child entering college, and you're using "once the kids get older" to describe some future date at which you might go back to work?

Your MIL likely views you (and your formerly very long hair) as a slacker, not contributing a whole lot, and in need of constant validation. If she was an attorney and is in great shape, she's certainly not jealous of you. She probably thinks you are living a very cushy life, on your husband's dime, and the thing you most want to discuss at dinner is your HAIRCUT.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2015 16:12     Subject: A mother in law who is jealous of me?
She's got her own issues and taking it out on you. Don't take it personally. She sounds insecure.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2015 16:12     Subject: A mother in law who is jealous of me?
Your MIL isn't happy w/ herself, jealous of what you have and doesn't know how to shut up and be nice. Is she married? Maybe she's unhappy in her marriage. I'd ignore her for now on, play "nice' when you see her and nothing more.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2015 16:11     Subject: A mother in law who is jealous of me?
Yeah, I don't see this as jealous. You want her to fawn and behave like a bestie. She's not doing so. That does not equate to jealousy.
Anonymous
Post 03/04/2015 16:11     Subject: A mother in law who is jealous of me?
I don't think "resents" and "jealous" are the right words. She doesn't like you or the decisions you make. She doesn't like you. It sucks and it sucks to be judged by someone who you clearly are impressed by, but that's what it is.

Smile and don't worry about her. If she doesn't like you and points out that you married money after 22 years, it's not solvable.