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Anonymous wrote:Gee that's fascinating. Since statistically this area has a lot of Jews and a lot of Wasps, isn't it a fantastic coincidence too that people have a peer group kind of like themselves? And your anecdata is so compelling since it's based on only your one experience at one school and nothing else.

But you go on thinking it's a big conspiracy. And of course, the fact that you preceded your "interesting observation" (read: bigoted thought) by telling us they are "lovely people" makes it all okay.

Yeah OP, don't you know that "observing" is actually code for "being bigoted?"

Yes, all my life I've heard these "interesting observations" about Jews, always referred to as "lovely people," and yes, they are code for bigotry. The interesting observation is, of course, always something negative.

Oh FFS. Jews are an overrepresented, highly privileged minority in the US. You're hardly the victim of bigotry, but keep on playing that card.

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Anonymous wrote:Gee that's fascinating. Since statistically this area has a lot of Jews and a lot of Wasps, isn't it a fantastic coincidence too that people have a peer group kind of like themselves? And your anecdata is so compelling since it's based on only your one experience at one school and nothing else.

But you go on thinking it's a big conspiracy. And of course, the fact that you preceded your "interesting observation" (read: bigoted thought) by telling us they are "lovely people" makes it all okay.

Yeah OP, don't you know that "observing" is actually code for "being bigoted?"

Yes, all my life I've heard these "interesting observations" about Jews, always referred to as "lovely people," and yes, they are code for bigotry. The interesting observation is, of course, always something negative.

Anonymous wrote:I think it starts with the parents. My kids (all four of them) have close friends that are all different, Catholic, waspy, Jewish, Indian, African American.....and that is not unusual. So how is it that these kids often grow into adults who want to self segregate? I always wonder this, I personally look and like to have a varied group...that is important to me.

I do see some that will only get close to others just like them and no offense to anyone but Jewish people do tend to do this more at least in my kids school that is the case. But I have two friends that are Jewish who are not that way and are my very good friends.

I just find it interesting that kids do not differentiate the way adults do....where and when does that disconnect happen?

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Anonymous wrote:I think people think I (as an adult) am cliquish, since the majority of my friends are Jewish. But the only reason for that is because I attend synagogue weekly, am involved with Jewish organizations and charities, and send my kids to a Jewish school.

When I was in college, I had a broader spectrum of friends from different nationalities and backgrounds but the majority of people I have met in the past 10 years in the DC-area have been Jewish.

Dont assume people are being cliquish bc they dont want to associate with people outside their religion/race, but sometimes, due to outside interests, it just works out like that. Athletes usually hang out with other athletes as well and less with the drama department.

This is clickish behavior. I mean, it's fine, but please own it. It's not just a coincidence. I'm sure you meet more than just Jewish people, but it is those people with whom you want to socialize.

There is frequently something weird and unpleasant about comments on these threads about Jews. If someone tells you they're active in their church and has a lot of friends through their church, you would think nothing of it.
The PP did not say they only have Jewish friends, just that the majority of people they meet are Jewish due to synagogue attendance.

This is me as well. The jewish community is the center of my social life--for both me and the kids. We attend synagogue on Sat---that means playdates stem from whomever is there. The kids attend day school---I would guess that 90%+ of the population at the school has at least one jewish parent. The younger kids are in the synagogue preschool which has a judaics slant and while the school does not discriminate based on religion, I could see how a non-jewish person would feel uncomfortable with the judiacs component and the family centered activities at the synagogue (see Sat playdates). Since we're in synagogue on Sat, the kids need to find activities that meet on Sundays. It's easy to register for Sunday activities through the JCC. My mah jong and bridge games either occur at the JCC or the synagogue. My knitting group meets at synagogue. So if I see you on Sat morning, our kids go to school together and are on the soccer team together, and then I see you at a synagogue event, chances are we're going to be come friendly---maybe not best friends, but certainly social.

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Anonymous wrote:To the above comment that seems like a very general statement that most middle to upper-class Americans do not feel comfortable around Jews - why do you say that and what do you base it on?

Because they all live in the rich part of town of course (eye roll). But they are lovely people and saying that lets you be as bigoted as you want.

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Anonymous wrote:I think people think I (as an adult) am cliquish, since the majority of my friends are Jewish. But the only reason for that is because I attend synagogue weekly, am involved with Jewish organizations and charities, and send my kids to a Jewish school.

When I was in college, I had a broader spectrum of friends from different nationalities and backgrounds but the majority of people I have met in the past 10 years in the DC-area have been Jewish.

Dont assume people are being cliquish bc they dont want to associate with people outside their religion/race, but sometimes, due to outside interests, it just works out like that. Athletes usually hang out with other athletes as well and less with the drama department.

This is clickish behavior. I mean, it's fine, but please own it. It's not just a coincidence. I'm sure you meet more than just Jewish people, but it is those people with whom you want to socialize.

There is frequently something weird and unpleasant about comments on these threads about Jews. If someone tells you they're active in their church and has a lot of friends through their church, you would think nothing of it.
The PP did not say they only have Jewish friends, just that the majority of people they meet are Jewish due to synagogue attendance.

Unfortunately, most middle and upper class Americans don't feel comfortable around Jews. There is definitely a lot of stereotyping and discriminating against Jews. Mormons and Jews often have a lot in common in terms of being an insular group.

Anonymous wrote:To the above comment that seems like a very general statement that most middle to upper-class Americans do not feel comfortable around Jews - why do you say that and what do you base it on?

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Anonymous wrote:I think people think I (as an adult) am cliquish, since the majority of my friends are Jewish. But the only reason for that is because I attend synagogue weekly, am involved with Jewish organizations and charities, and send my kids to a Jewish school.

When I was in college, I had a broader spectrum of friends from different nationalities and backgrounds but the majority of people I have met in the past 10 years in the DC-area have been Jewish.

Dont assume people are being cliquish bc they dont want to associate with people outside their religion/race, but sometimes, due to outside interests, it just works out like that. Athletes usually hang out with other athletes as well and less with the drama department.

This is clickish behavior. I mean, it's fine, but please own it. It's not just a coincidence. I'm sure you meet more than just Jewish people, but it is those people with whom you want to socialize.

There is frequently something weird and unpleasant about comments on these threads about Jews. If someone tells you they're active in their church and has a lot of friends through their church, you would think nothing of it.
The PP did not say they only have Jewish friends, just that the majority of people they meet are Jewish due to synagogue attendance.

Anonymous wrote:I think it starts with the parents. My kids (all four of them) have close friends that are all different, Catholic, waspy, Jewish, Indian, African American.....and that is not unusual. So how is it that these kids often grow into adults who want to self segregate? I always wonder this, I personally look and like to have a varied group...that is important to me.

I do see some that will only get close to others just like them and no offense to anyone but Jewish people do tend to do this more at least in my kids school that is the case. But I have two friends that are Jewish who are not that way and are my very good friends.

I just find it interesting that kids do not differentiate the way adults do....where and when does that disconnect happen?

Anonymous wrote:PS I do not think by someone I saying they have observed something always implies a negative, stop being so sensitive!