It is pretty despicable to feel sorry for anybody who has happy, healthy children. Unreal

I have three boys. I used to feel sad that I don't have any daughters but I have friends whose daughters are reaching their teen years and I am now thrilled that I do not have to deal with what they are dealing with.

My husband teachers 7th grade. At least once a week he comes home and declares, "Thank god we have boys!". He often has to stop class to deal with girl drama or to tell a girl to go get a drink of water to calm down and stop crying before entering his classroom.

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Anonymous wrote:If it makes you feel any better my MIL is like my mom to me. We go shopping together, enjoy plays, grab lunch here and there, and have a full relationship outside of our family obligations. Just because you don't birth a female doesn't mean you will never have a mother/daughter relationship.

Are you close with your mom?

Yes totally..I should of said *second* mother. My MIL lives closer though so I do see her more.

That's great then. In my purely anecdotal experiences, women who are very close to their MILs, often don't have good relationships with their mothers. Good to know I was wrong.

Count me as another one who has a close relationship with both her MIL and own mom. MIL is a second mom to me just like PP. I treasure the advice and help and good times I have with both.

My mom and I were incredibly, incredibly close. She died and now I am extraordinarily close with my mother-in-law. I actually take issue with pps comment. I think people close with their own mothers are more likely to be close with their mothers-in-law at least in my own experience.

I feel lucky to have a daughter. In Korea, there's a running joke that if you have one daughter one son you've won a gold medal, if you have two daughters it's a silver, and two sons is a no medal.
It all depends on whether your particular daughter is nurturing or caring or not, but I did notice my mom and my two aunts do heck of a lot more to care for my 92 year old grandma's ailing everyday needs than my uncle. My uncle probably cares but he's not attentive. He continues to bring this famous chicken soup from a place near my grandmas even though my grandma doesn't like that soup.

I love my two boys. I think it all depends. My mom thinks it is sad I don't have a girl because my brother barely speaks to her and she worries that I won't have a close relationship with my boys either. However, I think it is more likely the fact that she's batshit crazy that drove him away, not the fact that he's male. I will try not to be batshit crazy to my boys and their wives, hope that will help.

My DH is closer and nicer to his mom than either of his sisters. I don't think the "girls stay, boys defect to their wives' families" rule is actually a thing.

Honestly, you know what your adult relationship and frequency of visits depends on? Who your kid marries and how close your kid-in-law is to THEIR parents relative to your kid's closeness to you. And geography. And your kid's personality - are they sweet, globe-trotting, a big a-hole?

Male and female has little to do with it. But do expect to visit your grandkid(s) at birth second if you have a son - most girls probably do want their moms to be closest for that experience. I did, and I know this is likely with my son's family. Doesn't mean much in the end, and it's largely an intimate privacy issue.

I only wanted boys.

I am thrilled I have all boys.

I am extremely close to my 3 college-age nephews.

We are a testosterone-filled family and as a no-drama, athletic woman. I relate to men so much better.

The whole Frozen-crap makes me cringe.

Don't cry for me.

I am competitive as hell and much prefer to take my boys in a race, a soccer match, basketball, etc. I played a Div-1 sport so they come to me for sports advice.

I've got two boys and I'm loving every second of it. Of course I don't know what it's like to have anything else, but I'm assuming that whatever I had, I'd love it.

With kids, you get what you get and you don't get upset. I have one of each, and I do know that I would struggle if I had had another child like my son -- an exhausting, physical, defiant preschooler - regardless of sex. But it really is boys that are more likely to go that way. That said, I see so many sweet, well behaved little boys out and about.

I do think it is ridiculous when these threads spiral into slamming little girls and saying how difficult they are later. I was never difficult and do indeed have a wonderful relationship with my parents, as I am sure many of you all do, too. Gender stereotyping like this cuts both ways.

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Anonymous wrote:If it makes you feel any better my MIL is like my mom to me. We go shopping together, enjoy plays, grab lunch here and there, and have a full relationship outside of our family obligations. Just because you don't birth a female doesn't mean you will never have a mother/daughter relationship.

Are you close with your mom?

Yes totally..I should of said *second* mother. My MIL lives closer though so I do see her more.

That's great then. In my purely anecdotal experiences, women who are very close to their MILs, often don't have good relationships with their mothers. Good to know I was wrong.

Count me as another one who has a close relationship with both her MIL and own mom. MIL is a second mom to me just like PP. I treasure the advice and help and good times I have with both.

People are so weird about other people's families and choices.

I have 2 girls. People ask if I'm sad about not having a boy. I have 2 children - I don't really care to have another. I got these 2 and I'm done. I'm lucky I was able to have the second at all.

It's like the morons who think onlies are socially inept and lonely and that their parents are self centered.

I thought I'd want a girl. I have two boys and couldn't be happier.

These bitches sound like they're trying to find ways to escalate the mommy wars even more. Idiots.

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Anonymous wrote:If it makes you feel any better my MIL is like my mom to me. We go shopping together, enjoy plays, grab lunch here and there, and have a full relationship outside of our family obligations. Just because you don't birth a female doesn't mean you will never have a mother/daughter relationship.

Are you close with your mom?

Yes totally..I should of said *second* mother. My MIL lives closer though so I do see her more.

What an AWESOME MIL! Treasure her.

It takes two to tango, so PP must be also awesome.