THese folks clearly don't need your money. I would make the offer anyway "This is just such a wonderful opportunity, may we please contribute financially for our child's share of things?" they will say no, but note that you offered. Then I would make gesture of some kind: Send flowers to the room, book and pay for two spa appointments for the parents, something thoughtful....

and WOW would I love to go on this trip.....

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't worry about the hotel but make sure your dc has plenty of money for food, tickets, etc.

My DC went to a nice resort with a friends family. They paid for everything but then invoiced me for my DCs share of meals, but not the room. I actually liked that approach. My DC didn't have to worry about it and I didn't feel guilty about them spending money.

You can also have your DC offer to treat everyone to dinner out one night but with 6 people that could be $600-$800.

Seriously? Invoiced you? I am sorry that seems really cheap to me. I cannot imagine doing that, maybe I am in the minority.

It really didn't bother me at all. It was about $500 as I recall so that's a lot for another family to cover, and we have plenty of money. Part was because they were staying at a resort where everything was charged back to the room so it included things that my DC would have paid for herself. This family often invites friends and apparently that's what they always do. My DC got a fabulous vacation out of it so it all worked.

I am sorry but that is just "beyond". I understand maybe airfare but FOOD? That is nuts, I don't care how many families/kids were there, they invited your daughter as a guest and actually have the gall to INVOICE you? I would be too embarrassed, to do that. They invited your daughter as a GUEST, which typically includes meals/food. They sound beyond frugal. I am glad it worked for you but i am shocked, never heard of such a thing and actually first thought you were joking.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't worry about the hotel but make sure your dc has plenty of money for food, tickets, etc.

My DC went to a nice resort with a friends family. They paid for everything but then invoiced me for my DCs share of meals, but not the room. I actually liked that approach. My DC didn't have to worry about it and I didn't feel guilty about them spending money.

You can also have your DC offer to treat everyone to dinner out one night but with 6 people that could be $600-$800.

Seriously? Invoiced you? I am sorry that seems really cheap to me. I cannot imagine doing that, maybe I am in the minority.

Agreed -- go somewhere you can afford if you want to host -- I'd sooner go to Vermont and not send out invoices than go to Aspen and mail out bills.

Agree completely.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here I am going to send a big basket when they return and of course am giving him money/debit card. Since I know they are the type that would never allow for him to pay for dinner (for all of them) I decided to call over to the hotel and am having a spa gift certificate sent to their room upon arrival.

Sounds perfect!

Yes, classy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't worry about the hotel but make sure your dc has plenty of money for food, tickets, etc.

My DC went to a nice resort with a friends family. They paid for everything but then invoiced me for my DCs share of meals, but not the room. I actually liked that approach. My DC didn't have to worry about it and I didn't feel guilty about them spending money.

You can also have your DC offer to treat everyone to dinner out one night but with 6 people that could be $600-$800.

Seriously? Invoiced you? I am sorry that seems really cheap to me. I cannot imagine doing that, maybe I am in the minority.

+1
Very awkward.

Anonymous wrote:OP here I am going to send a big basket when they return and of course am giving him money/debit card. Since I know they are the type that would never allow for him to pay for dinner (for all of them) I decided to call over to the hotel and am having a spa gift certificate sent to their room upon arrival.

Sounds perfect!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't worry about the hotel but make sure your dc has plenty of money for food, tickets, etc.

My DC went to a nice resort with a friends family. They paid for everything but then invoiced me for my DCs share of meals, but not the room. I actually liked that approach. My DC didn't have to worry about it and I didn't feel guilty about them spending money.

You can also have your DC offer to treat everyone to dinner out one night but with 6 people that could be $600-$800.

Seriously? Invoiced you? I am sorry that seems really cheap to me. I cannot imagine doing that, maybe I am in the minority.

It really didn't bother me at all. It was about $500 as I recall so that's a lot for another family to cover, and we have plenty of money. Part was because they were staying at a resort where everything was charged back to the room so it included things that my DC would have paid for herself. This family often invites friends and apparently that's what they always do. My DC got a fabulous vacation out of it so it all worked.

OP here I am going to send a big basket when they return and of course am giving him money/debit card. Since I know they are the type that would never allow for him to pay for dinner (for all of them) I decided to call over to the hotel and am having a spa gift certificate sent to their room upon arrival.

My sister used to do something similar with a friend, also in aspen. She was definitely not expected to contribute to hotel costs. The family invited her so their daughter would have a friend there, and they were paying for the rooms anyway.

She would bring a nice gift for the family (mom) with her. My parents paid for all of her expenses except the hotel (so plane tickets, lift tickets, etc). She mostly ended up going out to eat with her friend and not the friends whole family and they usually split the cost of meals, which did get pricy as the friend liked expensive restaurants. You could have your son offer to pay for a meal if the whole family goes out, if it's not too much for you, but not totally necessary.