Anonymous wrote:my husband is not comfortable with him flying back on his own, it would mean him staying an extra day on his own which will not work. The family needs to be back a day early because of a closing her husband is involved in. I understand things come up. So happens that day is a very busy travel day and there are no more coach tickets, just first class.
She was somewhat apologetic but also made it sound like no big deal. Yes they are treating him to a very special vacation, top notch everything. As much as it's annoying me I am feeling like I have no choice.
My son is so excited for this trip, saved all his money for new snowboard boots, etc...I just wouldn't have the heart to tell him he cannot go. And I don't see the point in making her feel bad about it, it seems like it's really out of her control- just ironic though that at 48 I still haven't flown first class haha.
Doesn't change anything on your end, OP, but -- the whole family has to return a day early so that
one parent can meet a unexpected work obligation? Mom can't stay out there one more day with the kids and your son and take the original flight back? Guess the other family decided that wasn't an option, but it seems odd that dad can't fly back on his own while mom and the kids stick to the original plan. It must be costing this family a fortune to take those changed flights back.
If taking the original flight means your son would have to stay overnight on his own at the destination, that would be a big "no" to me, so I'd let him fly back with the family. Someone said you should have your son pay the extra on the flight as some kind of lesson, but this situation is not of his making in any way -- he didn't change the flights, he didn't choose first class, he has already been responsible by saving for his own new boots, etc. I'd let him go as planned. The host family is paying a lot for "the rest" that they're covering (all food, lift tickets, ski rental, probably other entertainment as well as hotel) so since you say you can afford the extra money, I'd try to view it as as money I might have been willing to pay toward "the rest" anyway. There's no need to penalize your son or make it into some big life lesson in this case.
But I'd think twice before accepting an invitation with this family again, if a parent has work that somehow requires the whole family to alter its plans when a last-minute change comes up.