Have you tried saying "Honey, I really don't need or want a report on your activities in the bathroom."?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a little confused by the OP: are you annoyed he's telling you why he's getting up from and leaving the table during the middle of a meal - a display of basic manners and a proper upbringing - or of his use of the word washroom?

Either way, I honestly think you need to spend a little time examining and processing those feelings - the sine qua non of a relationship in serious trouble is little trivial things starting to really grate and get under your skin. I'm not blowing off your feelings - I bet they're real - but I don't think they stem from just his use of the word washroom.

This is OP. I say the word "washroom" and DH always announces "I have to go pee" and often does a pee song, which is crass and not appropriate to both use the word pee and sing and inform me about his bodily functions. I might be uptight but it seems like this isn't normal or common.

Ok, fair enough - I'd personally find the "song" part a little childish (not so much crass), but I think you should forget about trying to argue what is "normal".

I stick by what I said before: I'd bet he's been like this as long as you've known him - why is this now suddenly like fingernails on chalkboard for you? Seriously, every time I've found myself having these kinds of feelings about a partner, it's been because something much larger and fundamental was going wrong in the relationship. Annoying things which were previously easy to tune out become crazy making. Check it out.

BTW - PP here - and I always say "excuse me, I have to go/run to the bathroom". We don't say washroom (or warshroom). DW is the same as me.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a little confused by the OP: are you annoyed he's telling you why he's getting up from and leaving the table during the middle of a meal - a display of basic manners and a proper upbringing - or of his use of the word washroom?

Either way, I honestly think you need to spend a little time examining and processing those feelings - the sine qua non of a relationship in serious trouble is little trivial things starting to really grate and get under your skin. I'm not blowing off your feelings - I bet they're real - but I don't think they stem from just his use of the word washroom.

This is OP. I say the word "washroom" and DH always announces "I have to go pee" and often does a pee song, which is crass and not appropriate to both use the word pee and sing and inform me about his bodily functions. I might be uptight but it seems like this isn't normal or common.

Ok, fair enough - I'd personally find the "song" part a little childish (not so much crass), but I think you should forget about trying to argue what is "normal".

I stick by what I said before: I'd bet he's been like this as long as you've known him - why is this now suddenly like fingernails on chalkboard for you? Seriously, every time I've found myself having these kinds of feelings about a partner, it's been because something much larger and fundamental was going wrong in the relationship. Annoying things which were previously easy to tune out become crazy making. Check it out.

A guy here. Normal male behavior (with other guys) is you only announce if people are ready to leave a venue (like a restaurant) and someone needs to take a pit stop before leaving. Typically we use "make a pitstop", "hit the head", or "go to the john".

"I gotta go pee" or something similar is really more female. In fact, I've only ever heard it from women before, never from guys. In particular I know two women who always (or at least frequently) announce that they gotta go pee. Both are only children who were put on pedestals by their parents who made them think that they s**t gold and peed liquid gold and that the world loved hearing details about them, including this. I usually just respond, "Thank you for sharing" and rolled my eyes. Since I am on friendly terms with both, they have turned it into a game and now always direct this comment at me if I'm within hearing range.

Anonymous wrote:There are announcing families and non-announcing families. It sounds like he is from an announcing family. I come from an announcing family. "I am going to the bathroom." "I am going to get changed for bed". "I am going to get he mail". "I am going to the kitchen to get a drink.".........

We do this too!

OP's husband is cracking me up!

I want to know if the OP has a habit of asking her husband where he is going every time he stands up to leave a room. A lot of people do that without even realizing.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a little confused by the OP: are you annoyed he's telling you why he's getting up from and leaving the table during the middle of a meal - a display of basic manners and a proper upbringing - or of his use of the word washroom?

Either way, I honestly think you need to spend a little time examining and processing those feelings - the sine qua non of a relationship in serious trouble is little trivial things starting to really grate and get under your skin. I'm not blowing off your feelings - I bet they're real - but I don't think they stem from just his use of the word washroom.

This is OP. I say the word "washroom" and DH always announces "I have to go pee" and often does a pee song, which is crass and not appropriate to both use the word pee and sing and inform me about his bodily functions. I might be uptight but it seems like this isn't normal or common.

A pee dance is not common, but that doesn't make it "abnormal". If you prefer that he doesn't do it just say "I know I'm being ridiculous, but I have this pet peeve. Would you mind not doing the pee dance?"

If he refuses to stop, then come back and write a thread about how your inconsiderate husband doesn't listen!

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Anonymous wrote:Who uses the term "washroom?"

Canadians

I totally thought this thread was going to be about how pretentious OP's DH was for using the term washroom. Ha!

I think washroom is the sanitized word that's focused on cleanliness instead of saying something like toilet for example, and op ous right, it's a Canadian thing

I like the word washroom better than bathroom or toilet. After all, I figure I use the sink pretty much every time I go into the bathroom, whereas there are plenty of times I go into the bathroom without touching the bathtub, or the toilet, whether it's to just wash my hands, or to brush my teeth, or to clean a stain on a piece of clothing, or to wash a paintbrush. As a parent of young boys, I also figure that emphasizing the word "wash" in connection with the bathroom is probably a good idea.

But, I'm not Canadian, so I am not in the habit of using the word, I just wish I was.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a little confused by the OP: are you annoyed he's telling you why he's getting up from and leaving the table during the middle of a meal - a display of basic manners and a proper upbringing - or of his use of the word washroom?

Either way, I honestly think you need to spend a little time examining and processing those feelings - the sine qua non of a relationship in serious trouble is little trivial things starting to really grate and get under your skin. I'm not blowing off your feelings - I bet they're real - but I don't think they stem from just his use of the word washroom.

This is OP. I say the word "washroom" and DH always announces "I have to go pee" and often does a pee song, which is crass and not appropriate to both use the word pee and sing and inform me about his bodily functions. I might be uptight but it seems like this isn't normal or common.

I'm a little confused by the OP: are you annoyed he's telling you why he's getting up from and leaving the table during the middle of a meal - a display of basic manners and a proper upbringing - or of his use of the word washroom?

Either way, I honestly think you need to spend a little time examining and processing those feelings - the sine qua non of a relationship in serious trouble is little trivial things starting to really grate and get under your skin. I'm not blowing off your feelings - I bet they're real - but I don't think they stem from just his use of the word washroom.

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Anonymous wrote:Who uses the term "washroom?"

Canadians

I totally thought this thread was going to be about how pretentious OP's DH was for using the term washroom. Ha!

I think washroom is the sanitized word that's focused on cleanliness instead of saying something like toilet for example, and op ous right, it's a Canadian thing

I think young women started saying "I need to go pee" instead of "to the bathroom" so that people would specifically know they weren't going to take a dump or do anything disgusting like that. Then it just caught on.

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Anonymous wrote:Who uses the term "washroom?"

Canadians

I totally thought this thread was going to be about how pretentious OP's DH was for using the term washroom. Ha!

Let it go. If you can't, you are in for a long road.